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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:We met... there was an interest, we hooked up an became the best of friends that slepted together after a year of this we eventually wised up and officially became a couple, i have had alot of girls and im no amateur but we were so happy together, it was perfect in so many ways, then because of work she moved to china, we decided because what we had was only 2 years down why base our future on it,so she left, within two month (we hadnt spent more then 3 days apart in 2 years) i agreed to follow her to china and be with her giving up alot, the move would essentially ruin my life career wise for various reasons but i went anyway, she got me a job in the company she worked for at a starting position, within three months i ended up her boss which wasnt an issue, after six months she wanted to go home and i did reluctantly as i had essentially destroyed my life by leaving when i did for her. We were home 3 months all going fine and she dumps me........ i cant understand why or can my friends, i sacrificed everything for this girl and i was never a pushover or a doormat with her, the first few weeks home were personally hard as i had to work through alot of loose ends from when i left and i was stressed but im other then that im lost as to why i was dumped, im mainly looking to vent but id like some female opinions on why this may of happened Thanks :) Reply to this Question
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reader, comeonjesusthishurtstoomuch  +, writes (17 December 2010):
 there is nothing wrong with you she isn't the one god made for you plain and simple don't dwell on what you needed to do differently you sound perfect to me she is not your rib as eve was to adam don't let this change you because your rib is out there it just wasn't this one
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (17 December 2010):
Some girls can't handle being single. Maybe she saw you as her security blanket and didn't want to risk being single until she got back.
You are so lucky to have that experience in China. But sometimes travel and culture change can be hard on a couple, too. It's good to vent. Then try to get back to the normal you - now with a lot more experience. And single women love men with experience. So maybe this is a win after all. Good luck.
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reader, rolfen  +, writes (17 December 2010):
 Wow. Did you try getting an answer from her? BTW... the move to china obviously did not ruin your career, as you ended up being her boss :) Maybe it had something to do with that - and your attitude about the whole thing. Still not an excuse not to talk it through.
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