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writes:Please Help Me ~My live in boyfriend of 3 years watches porn online most everyday from what I can tell. We had a conversation about this 2 years ago and I told him it bothered me and he said he'd stop, but just went into hiding with it instead. Don't get me wrong, I don't think some porn in moderation is a bad thing ~ the problem is that he has no sexual desire for me!!! I am an attractive, in shape person and when I ask him about it he says that he thinks in the last few years his testosterone level has decreased a lot.Our relationship is fun and we really enjoy each others company, but I feel more like a roommate because there is no intimacy of any kind yet it seems like he really wants to be with me all the time. He wants me to sit by him on the couch, hold hands, have his arm around me and give me little closed lip kisses but it never goes any further than that.I have also seen very flirty, suggestive emails to an old girlfriend but it doesn't seem to have ever been acted upon. Is this just a guy that wants hang out but isn't turned on by me at all? To me it seems like he misses the thrill of the newness ... It just all makes me feel like crap!Do I throw this relationship away?? Thanks for your imput ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): Challenge him to a month without porn, because he seems to have replaced you with imaginary "partners" which, to me, is inconceivable, but you say its real, so I accept that. He is a porn and masturbation addict and needs to go cold turkey on both, until he gets normal again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): He sounds like he staring to like men if u ask me
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 If he knows it" bothers you" then he should stop...But, you may ask why in the world it bothers you? images on a screen are harmless as long as he's not into stuff that is pain related like S&M then it's really quite silly to be jealous or feel threatened.
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reader, justme1987  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 i think u should sit him down and tell him enuff is enuff and u want answers or ure walking it seems to me a bit dodgy wiv the internet thing but he could hav a real problem if that is the case he will go to his doctors and find out if he wanted to b wiv u that much or mayb he has a guilty concious or mayb u should add a bit more to ure sex life and ask him to watch porn if u would feel comfortable wiv it and spice it up a bit he must b feeling sumthing to keep watchin porn
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