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writes:ive recently started having sex with my boyfriend and we are both 17. he was a virgin before he met me and hes not to clued up on what to do. i dont know how to teach him to do things the way i like it without sounding patronising as ive never been anyones first before! how do i tel him without embarrasing him or making him feel inadequate? please help x Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (18 July 2007):
 I agree with nologo- think back to when you were a virgin and didn't really know what you were doing.
Try moving your boyfriend's hand to where you do like it would be a good thing to do.
If you sit with him on a one on one basis and explain what you like and how you like it being done and ask him what he likes it might make it a less like you are trying to tell him he's doing it wrong.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (18 July 2007):
 Just recall the time when you were a virgin.
So were you clued up on what to do then? NO.
"never been anyones first before", but someone was your first.
Anyway, the key phrase here is "i dont know how to teach him".
If you wanna teach him, you need to override thinking whether you can be "embarrasing him or making him feel inadequate".
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