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writes:I have been with my boyfriend 4 months, he is by far the kindest, nicest and caring guy I have been with.He has been feeling constantly unwell for the past 2 months of the relationship with stomach pains (that no specilist has found an answer for). I'm trying my best to be supporting and caring but am starting to feel he is becoming emotionally dependant on me, lost his confidence and too over the top nice and I feel smothered. Now in the past week or 2 the thought of sex has been a real turn off for me even though I have a very attractive man!I'm not sure if this is a temporary thing that will go back to how good it was before he was sick or is our relationship on the way out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): Thank you all for your responses.. you have been a great help.. If anyone else has been in this situation i would love to hear about it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): I have recently been ill and lost all my confidence. It isnt a nice thing. You should speak to him and make him feel more special than he normally is. Maybe you should take him out places and remind him of the times you had together before. But what you also have to watch is that being ill can keep you up alot of nights and discomfort you. Maybe he is just tired in his own way and does need abit of space. But not to mucn.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (6 July 2007):
 Relationship takes both partners to work.
Now he needs you and so you stand by him.
My opinion is that you are doing this, because you love him.
"I'm trying my best to be supporting and caring but am starting to feel he is becoming emotionally dependant on me"
He does not always have to keep up to your own expectations.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (5 July 2007):
 You are feeling a little like you are drowning because you aren't used to your normally confident guy relying on you so much. Chat with him but do it in a way where he doesn't feel you're having a go. Maybe he can back off a little and give you some room to breathe as everyone needs that in a relationship.
Hope he finds out whats wrong :)
xxxxxx
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