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36-40,
*ingshane
writes:my best friend told my girlfried sumthing that made her mad cuz i didnt say anything to him now she broke up with me and everything i say she shoots it down what do i do to fix this and get her back
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reader, Sienna  +, writes (6 July 2007):
I can say as a girl from experience that if my boyfriend doesn't stand up for me & is too weak to tell his mates that it's not on when they do something wrong or disrespect me, it's really frustrating and annoying. If shes your girl she comes first and mates second. Just tell her your sorry for not standing up for her, she always will come first. Sorry if not standing up for her upset her. And deal with you mate cos it sound like you really care for this girl and until you stand up for her and tell him she wont take you seriously. Ciao
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reader, nologo  +, writes (6 July 2007):
 This question can be interpreted in 2 ways.
I will give you two different answers here.
"my best friend told my girlfried sumthing that made her mad"
Give her time to get over it, and start building trust again.
Another point: "made her mad cuz i didnt say anything to him"
She expects you to act in a certain way - she is not for you.
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (6 July 2007):
Not a very good best friend is he? Is he still your friend after all this? If he says he is, then ask him to tell her that he lied. It will be embarrassing for him, but he owes it to you. If he won’t do that for you, then I would find another best friend. Penta is right about emailing or writing her. That way, you get a chance to say it all without her breaking in on you and shouting. Hopefully, she will take the time to read it properly and think about it. If you have broken up with your friend over this, tell her so in the letter. If she still won’t respond after that, then I’m afraid you have to give up.
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reader, penta  +, writes (6 July 2007):
 If she's not listening to you there's not a lot you can do. My best advice is to write a letter or e-mail her. That way you can at least give her your side.
Trust, once lost, is hard to get back (even if it's not your fault it was lost). You'll have to be really patient and keep trying.
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