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writes:help me please im 13 and me and boyfriend have had sex lots of times but once we had sex without a condom and he pulled out before he came but i found out that that doesnt work and im really scared im pregnat... please help me... i dont know wat to do... my boyfriends only 16... and i dont want to put him through all the stress of a baby... im not even sure im pregnat but i think i am... and if i am i dont know what to do about my parents... im terrified.... please help me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Ellie.. precum contains sperm and can get a girl pregnant as well so the pull out method is not at all dependable. It's not really even a method.
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (12 June 2009):
 It's funny how you say, you don't want to put HIM through the STRESS of a baby.
Are you kidding me? put yourself first, and think about the stress YOU would be put through.
You have to take a pregnancy test..
Good luck
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reader, pebble  +, writes (12 June 2009):
 Get a pregnancy test and find out for sure first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): one, you're 13 and you shouldn't be having sex yet. not to sound judgmental, but though you think you know best, obviously you don't have enough experience in life to know that the "pull out system" isn't a type of birth control. Go get a First Response Pregnancy Test or find out where Planned Parenthood is closest to you. They're free and will test you for everything and go over birth control options with you. The likelihood is that you're not preggo, but depending on when it happened, there are morning after pills you can get over the counter now.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (12 June 2009):
 You need to do a pregnancy test! Duh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-cope-with-being-pregnant-at.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/pregnant-at-15-and-madly-in-love-help.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/pregnant-and-scared.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-13-and-pregnant-how-do-i-run.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/13-years-old-and-pregnant-unsure-of-what.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-13-and-scared-that-i-might-be.html
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Here are some references for you all advice given by our aunts and uncles here.
I'm becoming a broken record on this subject.
Don't forget to follow up with us as you go though this proccess and we'll be happy to help along the way.
best of luck
~SY.
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reader, Smellyellie +, writes (12 June 2009):
 First of all if a boy withdraws himself before he comes then this does work however if he ejaculates anywhere near your vagina then this could mean that you could become pregnant.
Has your period come yet as this is one of the tell tale signs that you are infact pregnant. If your period dosent come then I would advise you to do a pregnancy test as this the only way to determine of you are at early stages.
Remember if the result is that your not preganant make sure to use protection to prevent any unwanted pregnancies in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Take a test! You must know!
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reader, daleje14 +, writes (12 June 2009):
Ok hun i've never been pregnant but im 14 and what you need to do is go to a free clinic somehwere and ask them for a free pregnancy test! You don't really have to tell your parents! Just talk to your boyfriend and ask him if he wants to come with. Hope what you decide to do is the right one! I wish you too the best of wishes!-Hope this helped a little.
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reader, niki20 +, writes (12 June 2009):
 hun, what makes you think your pregnant? what is differant about your body that makes you think this? Did you know that if you think your pregnant it is possible for your body to make your body be pregnant w/out actually being pregnant. your mind can make you think you have symptoms even if your not. im sure your ok but i need more information to help you futher :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Well, first off lets be sure before you start panicking; how long was it since your last period? You need to do a pregnancy test if you're late or missed one.Also, why the hell are you having sex? Especially without a condom? Many 13 year olds seem to think they're mature enough...but mature means that you fully accept that sex comes with the risk of pregnancy and STI's, and that you know how to prevent them and,if unfortuantely necssisary, deal with them. Clearly your'e not.Do a test, or even better, if you can, take a morning after pill, wich are effective up to 72 hours, but more effective the sooner you take them.Good luck, but after this, I think you need to have a good think about what you're actually doing.
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