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writes:Hi: I have been talking to a very nice gentleman online for approx. one month. We will be meeting this weekend. He seems very nice. He is totally the opposite from my ex boyfriend. This person is intune to my feelings, he calls, he texts, he sends me ecards, he is very caring, he is in tune with my feelings and emotions. He is a stable man who is looking for love and a woman who is in touch with herselfwith no drama. I am looking for someone I can share my life with, but after being in a relationship where I gave it all, and he took, I learned that being in a relationship like that was not healthy. It was a very terrible breakup, and I felt completely lost and defeated. But I have bounced back again, and this gentleman has brought a smile to my face, with the kind words and gentle being. I hate to say it, but I feel suspicious at times, how can a man be that nice. I guess they do exist, I have prayed for a nice and caring man, I think I met one, but I guess the trust is not there yet, it angers me how one cheating liar(ex boyfriend) can destroy ones self esteem. I am taking it slow, I don't want this new guy to thing I am distant should I tell him what exactly happened? Or should I start this new chapter in my life and see where it takes me....
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reader, holikdad +, writes (17 June 2009):
Yes, nice guys exist, usually however they end up with women who abuse them.
Trust is built over time, don't expect it to happen over night.
Since you're starting a new relationship with someone I would keep the talk about previous guys out of it for now. You could possibly turn him off quickly if you start discussing other guy's you've had relationships with.
Later once you both become comfortable and trusting with each other then you can start providing that information.
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reader, niki20 +, writes (17 June 2009):
 i wouldnt tell him everything, just maybe you have been cheated on and that it may take a while for you to trust him no matter how much you want you it will take time and i think you that. congrats on this new man it sounds like you found your prince. i hope things go well with you two. you seem very nice and a very strong women.
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 Dont tell him. I'm friends with only men and they all tell me about their issues with girls. The main one being girls with issues, especially the ones who talk about their exes and how badly they were treated when they havent even been together long. It scares men and makes them believe you still have issues surrounding it and arent over them. So dont tell him, and if your gonna dont do it on the first bloody date! wait a few months.
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