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How can I handle seeing my boyfriend with such a controlling mom?
Q. Hey I need help. My mom is constantly blackmailing me about my bf and won't let me see him very often. She doesn't really like him and hasn't given him a chance. His parents arnt being very nice either. But he's a really sweet guy. We've only met ...
A. 12 June 2008: As we all know, parents can be so controlling. But sometimes, they are right. You haven't really told us much about him. I can't say if your moms actions are justified, but it is a possibility. What does your mom know about your boyfriend so far, ... (read in full...)
Should I cut him out of my life or not!! I need lots of advice!!!
Q. Hi...i'm looking for advice on sort of a relationship. I dated a close friend for some time and things didnt work out due to previous baggage on his part. We broke this off and didnt talk for some time. Recently he came ack into my life and we ...
A. 12 June 2008: I think you should take another short hiatus from him.. Right now you're heartbroken, and you need time to get over him, and to get over what happened. It is really hard to jump right back into friendship after all that. Tell him you feel strongly ... (read in full...)
My date may want to return to my best friend who is her ex, this situation is so confusing!
Q. Heres the deal ive been goin out with this chick for a couple months and her and my bestfriend used to hate each other because they had gone out and it didnt work but now there hangin out again and now she's talking about how maybe we should break ...
A. 12 June 2008: It would be best if you confront your girlfriend. Just tell her that you are confused about how she feels about you, and how she feels about your friend. If there is anything going on, they should fill you in. Ask her why she thinks you should break ... (read in full...)
Should I dump my boyfriend?! I need my freedom!
Q. ok i have been going out with thi boy for 2 months now, hes quite cool and i nearly said no. when we started going out i had regrets, but then later i got into it, ive recently went to germany with some cool guys from my school, they were so funny ...
A. 12 June 2008: Hi! If you don't want a boyfriend anymore, you should tell him just that. Needing freedom to see other people is a good enough reason to break up with someone... I know that if I were in his shoes, I would want to know the truth. I don't think you ... (read in full...)
What does "love" mean to men?
Q. I am a person who beileves in just having sex with the one you love,but not someone else, no matter how hot others are. And being faithful to your partner is vital to a relationship based on true love. I have been wondering what does "love" mean to ...
A. 12 June 2008: Men don't have a universal view on what love is, just like women. Some men cheat, and some men don't. Some men can have sex without emotional attachment, and some can't. The same holds true for women. I think your view on love is the best way to see ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a mean sister-in-law!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together now for a few years and I am afraid his sister-in-law (brothers wife) has never liked me. She is very insecure and feels threatened by me - she will make rude comments towards me and always make it clear how ...
A. 12 June 2008: It seems as if she is being overprotective because she cares about your boyfriend, and because she is territorial about the family that she is a part of. I would understand this behavior if she has been with the family for a long time. That doesn't ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get a relationship for more than three months.
Q. why cant i stay in a relationship for more than 3 months, after that i always try pushing away, finding her flaws, and making fun of her? all in all i become an asshole...
A. 9 November 2007: I have a friend like that. She has always pushed men away, until she found the one person that made her weak in the knees. It's not that I am condoning the way you treat women, but maybe when you find the right person, this attitude will fade. Your ... (read in full...)
I cant seem to stop being jealous
Q. why am i so jealous? ive been seeing my boyfriend now for 1year and 4 months and i cant help but get really jealous when he talks to his female friends or any woman. i know i shouldnt be acting like this but i can help myself getting so worke...
A. 8 September 2007: You can get to know his friends a little better, hang out with them. Treat them like your own. Then, you will see that there's really nothing to worry about. And when you feel jealous, try concentrating on something else. Read a book, watch TV. ... (read in full...)
She loves me because I'm Asian!
Q. My Girlfriend of 3 years Just confessed That She Only Loved Me Because Of My Japanese and Chinese Background (She was drunk).. i fell so hurt I've Been with her Since i was 17 She took my virginty and i took hers...I havent been wtih anyone eles and ...
A. 29 July 2007: hey. i think you should just tell her how you feel, instead of trying to find a reason to break up. If your feelings have faded, or if you feel that it's time to move on, then tell her. That alone should be reason enough for you to break up with ... (read in full...)
She loves me because I'm Asian!
Q. My Girlfriend of 3 years Just confessed That She Only Loved Me Because Of My Japanese and Chinese Background (She was drunk).. i fell so hurt I've Been with her Since i was 17 She took my virginty and i took hers...I havent been wtih anyone eles and ...
A. 28 July 2007: Have you talked a little more about it, besides the one time that she was drunk? She may have been joking. I highly doubt that she likes you purely because of your background. She could have easily found someone else of the same background. She co... (read in full...)
How do you make your vagina tighter?
Q. whats the best way to get your vagina tighter? ...
A. 23 July 2007: i'm not sure exactly what you mean by tighter. do you mean that you want it to permanently be tighter, or to be able to make it tighter during sex? either way, you can do kegel exercises. kegel exercises dont exactly "shrink" your vagina, but they ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Moderators needed!
Q. Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING -- many moderators drop out after just a couple of weeks so if you're not committed please don't apply! ...
A. 23 July 2007: Hey Andrew, I would love to be a moderator. I have had an account with dear cupid since april, which isn't too long, but I log on at least every other day. Also, my ratings are pretty good. Thank you!
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My mother in law even had the nerve to open our mail...
Q. I have tried to get close to my mother in law, but it feels like she only puts up me because I'm married to her son. She always has something nasty to say, but it is usually when it's just her and I! For example it was just her and I in the car ...
A. 20 July 2007: Your marriage ties you through thick and thin. He will be by your side, just as long as you are not being irrational. Since he is close to his mother, remember not to say anything critical of her. Let him know that you truly enjoy his mother's ... (read in full...)
I warned my ex's GF that he is going to use her, but I am afraid she will tell him I told!
Q. my ex boyfriend is now my close friend and he has told me he is going to use his girlfriend and i said to her have you ever thort he is going to use you? and she said no he isn't like that. and i said he is a user a player and a liar he is ...
A. 20 July 2007: hm... i don't think you should have said that to her. there is a code of conduct that needs to take place between friends, under most circumstances. keep your mouth shut. you could have told your ex that you think his intentions are wrong, instead ... (read in full...)
What should I do? Should I sleep with his friend or not before the wedding?
Q. My wedding is in September 2007 and I have been engaged for 4 years. Two years ago when my son was born I started being attracted to my fiancee's best friend. Keep in mind he will be the best man at our wedding. As the days go by and we hang out ...
A. 14 July 2007: Although many people go through the same predicament as you, not many people actually go through with their fantasies. Honestly, it would be morally wrong for you to sleep with your fiancee's best friend. it would be morally wrong to sleep with ... (read in full...)
Why does he never show me any affection?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, I love him, and he loves me. The thing is he doesn't tell me this, we don't cuddle or hold hands, or kiss, unless it's just me and him alone. He doesn't compliment me, he flirts with me still, but like I ...
A. 14 July 2007: some people naturally don't take well to PDA (public displays of affection.) it sounds like he is one of them. i think you are a little in the heat of the moment, and a bit confused. he doesn't compliment you, but he flirts with you. to me, when ... (read in full...)
I love him and we have done things together in the past. Now he won't even hug me!
Q. A boy who i really love ive done things with him in the past and now he has said he doesn't fancy me anymore and he doesnt like me hugging him or anything. Whats this all about ??...
A. 14 July 2007: well, he's honest with you, and doesn't like you anymore. maybe when you hug him, he feels as if you are trying to make him like you back. be a little more casual around him, as hard as it may seem. try to give him some space. if he doesn't come ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to pay for sex as long as you're very careful?
Q. I am male, who is mssing sex. is it okay to pay for a shag, as long s you are very careful.....
A. 14 July 2007: well..... no. but i am from the US, so i am not sure how laws and culture apply in the UK. why don't you woo a lucky lady into bed with you, instead? anyway, would you feel better paying for sex, or knowing that the power of your own persuasion led ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if he likes you back?
Q. I have recently discovered that I fancy a boy I have known for three years. I thought that he liked me, but now I'm not too sure. One day he'll talk to me for ages and we'll get on really well, then another day he might completely ignore me. I want ...
A. 14 July 2007: you know that a guy likes you when he remembers little details about you. it could be something so small that you won't even remember talking about it. also, that he acts a little more shy around you than other people, yet still makes an effort to ... (read in full...)
How can I end our relationship without ending our friendship too?
Q. i'm in a relationship with someone who i have been good friends with for years and i want to end this relationship but i don't want to mess up our friendship. how do i end this relationship?...
A. 21 June 2007: Be kind when you end the relationship. Be honest about everything, even if it will hurt. And of course let this person know that you have the intention of being friends. Don't expect results right away though. Your ex will be hurt for a while. Give ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to want to watch you giving him oral....?
Q. Is it normal for a guy to want to watch you give him oral sex?...
A. 21 June 2007: OH yeah... definitely. instead of stimulating only 2 senses (touch and hearing) it stimulates 3 senses, the third being sight. that makes it more enjoyable for guys. if it makes you feel self-conscious, don't even worry about it! i'm sure guys don't ... (read in full...)
He's emotionally negligent and I'm sure he cheats; I don't know what to do
Q. i have been in a relationship with a man whom i have known for 4 years.these years have given me enough time to grow to admire and love him, but also hate him.there have been times where i consider him cheating, but i wouldnt say anything.i have ...
A. 21 June 2007: So you have identified the problem. You let him have his cake and eat it too. Why do you continue to do this when you know it is self-destructive? I hate to say it, but any person in his position would take advantage of it too. That is human nature. ... (read in full...)
We're just friends but we have sex; I feel so jealous of the women he dates
Q. I recently moved in with my friend of 8 years and over the years we have had a sexual relationship. The relationship has never been more than sex and every time he meets someone new I'm left feeling jealous and alone. Once his relationship ends we ...
A. 21 June 2007: Yes, you need to put your foot down and say no more. For 8 years, it has been a never-ending cycle of pain and pleasure, which is really not healthy! It was not wrong for you to move in with him; I think you can manage having him around without ... (read in full...)
My best friend is incredibly flirty with me, has often hinted that there's something more than friendship between us
Q. I want my best friend and have him around for three months. Ok, this is kinda a follow up to my last question. I recently split with my bf after being with him for six months, despite liking one my best male friends for much, much longer. My b...
A. 21 June 2007: I know you really like this guy, but please don't get involved. He has a girlfriend already. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if someone stole your boyfriend away. For now, his relationship doesn't seem to be ending soon, especially if they go to the ... (read in full...)
We've been married 12 years and he's never given me an orgasm
Q. My husband of 12 years has never given me oral sex. I give him BJs all the time. He's a missionary-position type of guy. I'm very clean and shower often, and have shaved everything, too, because he said he might like that. But he has a hang up ...
A. 21 June 2007: Don't feel undesirable! Of course he wants you. I understand it sounds a little lazy on his part... but realize that after 12 years of marriage it can get a little tiring to keep trying different techniques without an orgasm from you. Ok so he likes ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but he still loves his ex
Q. I met this guy a little over a week ago and we hit it off immediatly. He told me straight up he was still in love w/ his ex and the reason they werent together is because she was in love w/ someone else and couldnt make up her mind who she wants to ...
A. 20 June 2007: I commend him for being straightforward with you. He seems like a good guy. It is nearly impossible to wait around for something like this. Give him time to straighten things out in his head. You can still be casual friends with him, but try not to ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and never been kissed or had a bf! Any advice?
Q. Hi, im 20 years old and have never had a boyfriend nor been kissed...I keep telling myself its God's will or that the time will come. Yet I really dont understand. I dont think its my looks since people keep telling me im good looking (and i mean ...
A. 20 June 2007: Of course, God ultimately controls the universe, but you mostly control your circumstances. If you have people telling you that you look great, and you are funny, chances are, you're a good catch! so why don't you put yourself out there a little ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and now..I want experience dating other girls. Should I stay faithful?
Q. I love my girlfriend but as some of you know she has cheated on me. She tells me that it wasn't because I made her mad but because she wanted to know that she has experienced this that only her and i have ever experienced together meaning we took ...
A. 20 June 2007: if you think that sleeping with other people will enlighten you in some way, go for it. if this is something you really want to do, and you don't fulfill this urge, chances are that you will always think about it. both you and your girlfriend want ... (read in full...)
She keeps going back to her rich ex, but I am thinking of proposing anyway.
Q. I am almost 29 and I have been in love with a woman 20 years older than me for the past 3 years. We have dated off and on since we met. She has waivered and gone back to her ex - because he can provide for her financially better than I can - a ...
A. 19 June 2007: if your ex frequently leaves you now, what makes you think she won't leave you when you are married? if you are with someone that jumps between being provided with love, or provided with material possessions, she is too confused to settle down! i ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me i feel like I've lost the plot, I have such strong feelings for my boyfriend and feel so down at the minute
Q. What's wrong with me i feel like I've lost the plot, I have such strong feelings for my boyfriend and feel so down at the minute, I don't feel like his feelings for me are as strong. He has kids and i understand i come second to them but just want ...
A. 18 June 2007: I can understand where he is coming from. it is a commendable thing to keep his children as his first priority, but why can't he have you meet his children? if you want to meet them, let him know that because they are a big part of his life, you ... (read in full...)
The man i have been dating was hiding phone calls with married woman he was interested in.
Q. I am so hurt. The man i have been dating was hiding phone calls with married woman he was interested in and it's happened more then once so I had to end it. He of course kept denying it but there was no reason for the calls. Whether or not I was ...
A. 18 June 2007: It is easy to think that they will end up together, happily ever after, but have you realized that maybe you should be really proud of yourself? if you were right about them, you left a very sticky situation that will probably never end. this ... (read in full...)
He's got me hooked but withhold affection
Q. I feel like I am being manipulated by a man who loves me a lot. I thought I was so deeply in love with him but gradually all the pleasure is seeping out of our relationship. He is changing his behaviour towards me, I think he is not aware of what he ...
A. 17 June 2007: Well. now that you realize that you are being manipulated by him, it wouldn't be so hard to stop this pattern. i am a little confused about how he does things that you don't approve of. do you mean that he spends a lot of time with his friends ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said sex hurt him, is this normal?
Q. My guy and I recently had sex after a few months because we were in different parts of the country. He said that it hurt him, he felt good but also pain. Is this normal ? I am worried for him. I was on top of him just for the record here. We did ...
A. 31 May 2007: maybe the sex was dry? i know guys can hurt from that. it feels raw down there when the girl is "dry," and pleasure is replaced by pain.... (read in full...)
My wife and I want to try out some new ways which are exciting but extremely pleasureable sex wise, any ideas?
Q. me and my wife have been married for 7yrs this summer and been going out together since we were 16. We have always had a really good sex life and still at the age of 33 we still have sex between 3-5 times a week even though we have 2 kids. One is 17 ...
A. 29 May 2007: you can be a bit of an exhibitionist and do it in public places, such as a bathroom, the train or your car in a random, desolate spot. of course, it has to be spontaneous, not planned. you can bring food to bed, subscribe her to cosmo, do it a ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he answer my texts, even if it's to say he doesn't want to stay in touch?
Q. Hi I've wrote a couple of times before about me and my ex being friends. Anyway a couple of weeks ago we had a conversation he said that he sometimes got the feeling that I didn't think he'd stay mates and I said that I got the feeling he thought ...
A. 24 May 2007: some people get weirded out when exes try to stay friends. he could be one of them. maybe hes trying to hint that he doesnt care to be your friend. dont pursue his friendship if he doesnt want yours. also, if you werent friends before your ... (read in full...)
Anybody any good ideas for losing weight ?
Q. I'm wondering if anybody has any advice on how to lose weight. I weigh about 70kg (70 x 2.2 = 154 Pounds) and I'm 167cm tall (5 Feet 5 Inches). I feel this is over weight. I'm joining a gym tomorrow and plan to go a few times a week but was ...
A. 4 April 2007: i agree with the person below me. small meals more frequently helps boost metabolism. if you dont have the schedule for that, as long as you eat well, youll be fine. caffeine also helps metabolism. weight lifting removes body fat most effectively. ... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to make more of an effort in the bedroom ?
Q. How do i get my boyfriend interested in making sex enjoyable for me as well as himself? I have only orgasmed with him once and we have been together for nearly 3 years, everytime i try to do something different and interesting in the bedroom he ...
A. 4 April 2007: maybe he says he is tired because he doesnt want to let you down. you should have a talk with him. it shows laziness on his part. i would be insulted if that happened to me. on a lighter note, you should try being on top. you know what makes you ... (read in full...)
I've been having an affair for 2yrs with my husbands friend! I'm trying to end it and do the right thing, but he keeps threatening suicide! What do I do!?
Q. I am in such a mess and I don’t know what to do anymore. Without going into loads of detail and not wanting you to condemn me straight away, I have been having an affair for the last 2 years. Thing is, my husband is lovely, we have been together ...
A. 4 April 2007: sounds like he thrives off attention. he basically has no one but you to help him recover from this. so, since you partly got him into this, you need to help get him out of it. it will take a lot of strength on your part, but you should help him ... (read in full...)
He's my soulmate and I can't imagine a life without him. I am so hurt that we split up. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years just ended what seemed like a perfect happy relationship. I thought we were soul mates and would be together forever. I thought he felt the same until out of nowhere he told me our relationship wasn't working and we couldn't ...
A. 3 April 2007: i know this sounds a little cliche, but be strong. because he broke it off suddenly, chances are that he has had a lot of doubts about the relationship that he felt he couldnt talk about. try to imagine urself in his shoes, and remember if there was ... (read in full...)
She ran me down with my car because she thought I was cheating on her! Should I forgive her?
Q. I'm 19 and i have a girlfriend that ran me down with my car beacause she thought I was cheating she is begging for my forgiveness. Now I love her but I may never use my legs again. Should I forgive her?????? please let me know!...
A. 3 April 2007: forgive her because you understand that people make crazy mistakes. as for getting back with her, it shouldnt even be an option. not right now, at least. give her time to mature a little more. lets face it: she needs to learn how to communicate a ... (read in full...)
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