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writes:A boy who i really love ive done things with him in the past and now he has said he doesn't fancy me anymore and he doesnt like me hugging him or anything. Whats this all about ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthing is i mean hug as in a friend. He hugs all his other female friends although he doesn't hug his best friend that much and shes a girl =s .. and were very close.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): You are both only 14. At that age teens are still figuring out who they like; who they have things in common with, and what they want.......its perfectly normal for feelings to change and typically relationships don't last too long.Why? Because there is a lot more to learning to grow up. Part of growing up, or becoming more mature, more experienced, if you like, is learning how to end a friendship when you find - as he evidently has - that his feelings are no longer there for you, and to let you down gently. Ending a friendship in a gentle, kind way is a skill that has to be learned. And he has not acquired those skills yet.This hurts, but you don't have much choice except to accept that his feelings have changed, and to move on yourself, in such a way that you get back to being happy with yourself and your life. And THAT is YOUR learning to become grown-up yourself, lesson!
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reader, JessAgonyAunt +, writes (14 July 2007):
 Hey babe, he has told you that he doesn't fanci you anymore so that's the reason he will not hug you, you can't make him fall back in love with you. so just move on and meet new people, you will eventually find somebody else.
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reader, love-him +, writes (14 July 2007):
 Hey babe,
Id expect him to havve either fallen out of love, or he has decided he doesnt like you like that anymore..
I hope i helped,
Mail me if you would like to talk x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwere really close friends. and we have everything in common. he liked me once, we went out. Im 14 by the way
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): This is right, when one of the parts involved decides he can't continue the relationship he should really act in a considerate way. He should have told you a "why" and avoid any insensate attitude. He seems to have changed out of the blue instead. Some boys can even give remarks that if you allow so, can make you feel nasty and insecure for the future, that's when you know it's not worth it. A relation can end and should, on gentle terms. Keep your chin up, you'll make it through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): Hi hun,
You dont say how old you are sweetheart, Im guessing not that old.
Sometimes and it doesnt only happen to girls it happens to the guys as well, someone can appear to be well into you. You mention you have done things in the past and would I be right if you meant sexually, It sounds like this guy was after one thing, And now he has had what he wanted is being quite nasty with you in saying he doesnt fancy you anymore. Darling he isnt worth your time and worry leave this young man to his nastiness and try and forget about him and remember you are worth alot and look for the guys who dont want to do sexual stuff straight away... Hope this helped a little if you need to talk mess me ok.... YOU TAKE CARE HUNNY LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, neonpinkngooey  +, writes (14 July 2007):
 well, he's honest with you, and doesn't like you anymore. maybe when you hug him, he feels as if you are trying to make him like you back. be a little more casual around him, as hard as it may seem. try to give him some space. if he doesn't come around to you, drop him, and find someone else.
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