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36-40,
*oung mummy
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, I love him, and he loves me. The thing is he doesn't tell me this, we don't cuddle or hold hands, or kiss, unless it's just me and him alone. He doesn't compliment me, he flirts with me still, but like I said before, only when we're alone. He told me he's not the 'lovey dovey' type, it's like he's too shy too do all these things around people, and yet I know he cares cus he asked his mate 2 look after 'his girl' while he was away, but he never calls me 'his girl' to my face, am I just bein silly? Or is he really scared to open up?
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reader, neonpinkngooey  +, writes (14 July 2007):
 some people naturally don't take well to PDA (public displays of affection.) it sounds like he is one of them. i think you are a little in the heat of the moment, and a bit confused. he doesn't compliment you, but he flirts with you. to me, when someone flirts with me, it is a non-verbal compliment. maybe that is his way of complimenting you.
how do you know that he doesn't want to do all these things in public? is it only because he says so, or have you actually tried to hug him in public? it could be that he just doesn't like those couples that can't keep their hands off each other in public, and he doesn't want to duplicate that. (i personally find it annoying too.) i don't think you should hang around him when in public, but mingle around, and come back to him once in a while to give a peck on the lips, and tell him you love him. it is natural enough, and it doesn't seem too PDA-ish. if he reacts with annoyance or anger, give me an update!
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reader, cigwegbe  +, writes (14 July 2007):
i think his really shy.try and ask him if he is ashamed of u or not.give him some time and check if there will be any change.dont take it hard on yourselve.
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (14 July 2007):
 You're boyfriend through his formative years came up with the idea that showing affection is not a "manly" thing to do. There could be another reason, but from what it sounds like, he's not interested in other women. Would you consider him a macho man? Whatever the reason for his not showing affection, you have to decide for yourself if this is the kind of relationship you want. You are only in control of yourself, and he will only change who he is if he wants to. You will not be able to change him. There are approximately 150 million more men in the US alone. There might be one out there that you might find to be affectionate in the ways that you appear to need. What do you want? [email address blocked]
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 July 2007):
 I think he's not the romantic type. That's all. But, if he still does these things to you, I think he does love you.
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reader, Shan14 +, writes (14 July 2007):
 Have you told him how you feel about this? If you talk to him maybe he will do all this stuff in public. My boyfriend lets the whole world know i'm his girlfriend in public!! Just talk to him
Hope I helped!!!
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