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Boyfriend was robbed and says that if I love him I should go cash in my bonds and give it to him

Q.   My boyfriend was robbed for several hundred dollars, right before Christmas. He has a 6 yr old we've been together for 3 1/2 yrs. The past year has been rocky because he cheated on me and I'm stiiill trying to regain all the trust. He says because ...

A.   12 December 2010: RUN away! Far away from this one. He is trying to guilt you into giving him all your money and for what? something that may not have even happened. Tell him to go to the bank, they are in the habit of giving out loans to people and wish him good... (read in full...)

I like a guy 17 years older than me, should I go for it?

Q.   Hey. I have to admit I am attracted to a guy 17 years older than me and I know he is attracted to. But I don't know if I should go for it or if I should just forget it and find someone my own age. I like talking and spending time with him, but I am ...

A.   8 December 2010: I am speaking from experience here. It can work, BUT there will be obstacles and at that age a lot of people are going through "Mid life crisis" Yes even men go through it. Also realize he is getting older and there will be some health issues ... (read in full...)

I want to watch my wife have sex with another man!

Q.   I am another husband that would love to watch my wife having sex with another man. We have talked about this for the past year and I want to take it to the next step. She loves to talk about doing this while we are having sex and says she wants to ...

A.   5 December 2010: Sounds like she is, find someone and talk it all out and have fun.... (read in full...)

Why does my boyfriend spy on me?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for just over three years. During this time, he has broken the relationship off about 4 times. Every time this happens there is no warning. Things are going along fine. We are spending all of our nights ...

A.   5 December 2010: This guy has a variety of issues, one of which to blame you for everything that he thinks makes him unhappy. Personally, I would tell him to hit the bricks, change the locks on the doors and forget him. He sounds like trouble with a capital T. ... (read in full...)

Which one should I marry?

Q.   I have two marriage proposals. one girl with average beauty and professionaly just good another is very ugly but professionaly very good my confusion is whom to marry? I have no thoughts at all regarding my future plans...

A.   3 December 2010: Which one do you love? sounds like neither, how about skipping the whole marriage thing until you meet someone that you actually have feelings for.. Good luck... (read in full...)

He's sure I cheated so he's going to cheat too

Q.   My BF constantly accuses me of lying and is insistent that I have cheated on him on more than 1 occasion. In fact, I have never cheated on him. I don't know what to do to convince him. Now, he has "assumed" since he "knows" I have cheated on him ...

A.   3 December 2010: This doesn't sound healthy at all and it makes me wonder if HE has already been cheating. A lot of times when a person is messing around on their partner they will accuse the partner of doing things that they themselves are gulity of. Sex is no base ... (read in full...)

My bf's a drug dealer and also very agressive but I still love him

Q.   My bf and I have been together for 9 months. I thought I'd be happy with him but guess what? I'm not! I want him to stop dealing with drugs but no one on earth could stop him. The more i try to stop him the more agressive he gets. I love him so much ...

A.   3 December 2010: Drugs can only bring you heartache and is probably aggressive because he knows he cant get out of selling drugs that easily. It could be dangerous for him to try and quit dealing or perhaps he just likes the fast easy money so he doesn't have to get ... (read in full...)

Will this perpetual on/off relationship ever work?

Q.   Can two insecure people have a healthy relationship? My partner and I have both had bad experiences with relationships in the past (my partner more than me) and so we both have various insecurities. Those insecurities seem to manifest themselv...

A.   1 December 2010: Seek counseling to help you sort out these insecurities and then you can work towards having a healthy relationship. It sounds like you maybe co dependent and also you do not want to be dependent upon this guy for your happiness. Find happiness ... (read in full...)

What's with this threesome double standard?

Q.   My boyfriend told me he'd like to try a threesome. I told him I'd do it but that I'd also like a threesome but with another guy. He went from totally enthusiastic that I said yes to furious. I told him I didn't want him to do anything with the other ...

A.   1 December 2010: Males tend to be territorial, so he views a threesome with 2 women as fine and great, but to share you with another male? No he isn't going to do that and in fact probably feels threatened by the idea, after all this other male may be better in bed ... (read in full...)

How do I learn to be ok with this? My partner wants to become a woman!

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year and a half. serious for about 10 months. we live together and he gave me a promise ring because neither one of us is ready to get married but we are committed to each other. he is very sexual and ...

A.   30 November 2010: You will not be happy with this man. He has pretended to be a masculine man for years. He will need counseling to help him through this. I went through this with my BF of seven years. A transgendered person needs support, they need counseling and ... (read in full...)

Is he using me or her?

Q.   my ex and i are split up for about 7 month now. He go a new girlfriend that stays with him. But call me in the night, wanting me to go to his place when she is not there, we still sleep together is he using me or her? I still love him what do i do? ...

A.   30 November 2010: He is using, lying and deceiving BOTH of you. Do you really want to be with a scumbag like this? Do yourself a favor, find a real man who will be truthful and not cheat. Good luck... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend disappeared on me, and I can't get over it

Q.   I'm still heart broken, after 4 months. I was seeing my ex boyfriend for 1 year, even though it was a long distance relationship , he lived an hour and half away by train. I was very much in love with him. He last came to visit me for a week in ...

A.   28 November 2010: I am sorry to hear this. I went through something like it recently myself. It sounds like he found himself someone else and just didn't have the balls to tell you like he should have. I know how it hurts, all the unanswered questions that you have ... (read in full...)

I only asked her out on a date because it was a bet, now I'm having trouble brushing her off!

Q.   I've gotten myself into a fix and I need help as soon as possible. A few months ago, a friend and I made a bet. She told me that if I could get this girl's attention and ask her out on a date, I would win some money from her. Let's call this ...

A.   28 November 2010: Your paying the piper now aren't you? and I have to question what type of a "friend" would pay you to harm some other innocent person in such a cruel manner. Almost sounds like she wanted to hurt the girl and paid you to do her dirty work. Don't... (read in full...)

Ex keeps up with me, does this mean he still cares?

Q.   Was with my ex for five years, he keeps in regular contact via IM. He ended the relationship. I then deleted him off my contacts as I was finding it too difficult. He always answers my calls and texts back when I contact him. When we bump into each ...

A.   27 November 2010: I don't think he cares like he used to and his questioning of who you've kissed etc is strange, that is none of his business. It's almost as if he uses that to keep tabs on you, that is a control issue that you don't need. I frankly I would hold him ... (read in full...)

He's a good man but has commitment issues

Q.   My boyfriend broke up with me on Nov.19. He said our relationship was not what he wanted and that he really does'nt know what he wants. He is 49 years old and never been married. The longest relationship was 3 years. The love this man very much, so ...

A.   26 November 2010: Let him go. He told you he doesn't want to commit to a relationship and he has his reasons. Try to move on as best you can. Good luck... (read in full...)

My husband tries to discipline me when I make a mistake!

Q.   I've been married for about 4 months now and I'm having a strange problem with my husband: he wants to walk all over me. he's into spanking in the bedroom which I like but he also tries to "discipline" me when I make a mistake. I tried to play along ...

A.   25 November 2010: It sounds like he is into BDSM or Domestic Discipline, you can do a google search on both. But with both of these its supposed to be consensual. If he is doing it without your consent, then yes he is being abusive and you need to do something at it ... (read in full...)

How long do men stay horny?

Q.   I'm 17 and i'm currently dating someone. when we're together, he tells me that he's horny and the next day, the feelings stay the same. How long do boys stay horny?...

A.   25 November 2010: At that age, all the time. If he keeps telling you about it, its his way for asking for sex without having to ask. Good luck... (read in full...)

He moved out, but he still contacts me! What does this all mean?

Q.   I lived my bf for 1 1/2 years. Last weekend he told me he found a place and needed to do things on his own and moved out. Since then he text me everyday. Says things like we aren't like we used to be. This past Friday he wanted to hang out and ...

A.   22 November 2010: He wants sex and feels that he can use you to get it. Frankly I would cut him off clean. You need to get over him so you can move on and it is unfair of him to try and keep you until he finds someone to replace you. Take care of yourself and let ... (read in full...)

He says I'm not what he wants. should I wait for him?

Q.   Okay, so im madly in love with my ex who has made it clear as day he doesnt want anything to do with me. we were together for three years and we both just let life get in the way of our relationship. he recently left to the marines. before he l...

A.   21 November 2010: Don't wait, keep going on with your life and when he comes back IF something happens, fine, but I wouldn't count on it. ... (read in full...)

He says I'm not what he wants. should I wait for him?

Q.   Okay, so im madly in love with my ex who has made it clear as day he doesnt want anything to do with me. we were together for three years and we both just let life get in the way of our relationship. he recently left to the marines. before he l...

A.   21 November 2010: Don't wait, keep going on with your life and when he comes back IF something happens, fine, but I wouldn't count on it. ... (read in full...)

If I'm the perfect girlfriend then why did he break up with me?

Q.   This is eating me up inside...My boyfriend of 1 month broke up with me on thursday and his reasons were very unclear, here is some of what he said: I feel like im not being a good boyfriend to you, you have done nothing wrong and you have been the ...

A.   21 November 2010: Hmm sounds to me like someone else may have walked into the picture OR he could have some hidden issues (gay, cross dresser etc) and he self loaths, therefore he feels no woman would be good enough for him. I can only speculate. Don't blame yo... (read in full...)

Cumshots! Outrageous???

Q.   I have heard that one of the latest things in porn is to have multiple oral cumshots. I've heard that some of the women have had up to 20 or more men cum in their mouth and pretty much mad to swallow all of it. How can any woman like that? Do any ...

A.   20 November 2010: In porn movies the actors/actresses are getting paid to do it so I doubt that they really care one way or another.I am sure some women do this in real life who enjoy it. Some get off on being a "slut" or the humiliation of it. Some feel that they ... (read in full...)

Does his girlfriend of 5 years deserve to know the truth about her "perfect man"?

Q.   Does his girlfriend of 5 years deserve to know the truth about her "perfect man"? I starting seeing this guy who I really feel for only I always got the impression he wasn't all he seemed, anyway after a long time I found out that he had a girlfri...

A.   19 November 2010: Don't tell her so that it will break them up so you can have him, trust me if he is doing it to her, he WILL do it to you too. I would walk away from this guy and if he asks why, tell him what he is a liar, a deceiver and you deserve better. ... (read in full...)

He keeps making profiles on sex sites! Should I just let this go?

Q.   Anyone else go or going thru where in a committed relationship and boyfriend/husband on the internet(phone) alot not just porn but also make profiles on sex seeking sites (discrete hookups etc).I didn't know he was doing this until a fluke msg came ...

A.   19 November 2010: I went through this with a guy who I had been with for 7 years. It is internet sex addiction and like any other addiction they will do whatever they have to to get it. Eventually he will meet someone and either have an online affair or move it into ... (read in full...)

He dumped me but is trying to talk to me under a false screen name?

Q.   ok my ex boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago im deeply inlove with this guy and hes acted like it didnt bother him 2 weeks after the break up i star gettin private calls back to back nonstop (i know its him) so one day on aim i get a im ...

A.   18 November 2010: He just wants to see what you are up too and what you will say about your "ex" to him. I went through something sort of like this and basically it is a way for them to be with you, but not be if that makes sense. Many guys don't want a woman, but ... (read in full...)

He keeps my belongings and owes me money but says he still loves me?

Q.   Im just curious as to what others think about this type of behaviour from men, and if my own conclusions are wrong. When I broke up with my boyfriend he told me he loved me and always will, that he will leave the door to his heart open for me and ...

A.   18 November 2010: He is using your belongings to keep you in contact with him. He has no plans to give them back nor pay back the money he owes you. This is just a way for him to control you and stroke his ego. I would say let the items go and forget about it. Write ... (read in full...)

He never lets me leave this relationship!

Q.   so me and my boyfriend have been dating a little over a year.. we have had our problems where i want to break up its happened like three times were i get fed up and just want to leave him but he never lets me like he is like "you will never leave ...

A.   18 November 2010: He is trying to control you and he is threatening you in order to do it. RUN do not walk to the nearest exit on this one. He is nothing but trouble and if you value yourself at all take someone with you when you break up with him, it sounds like he ... (read in full...)

Heeeelp! Is my boyfriend cheating?

Q.   I need advice on what to do... I've been with my boy 3.5 years now, he was my first love, first everything. I am 21. A few months into our relationship he got drunk at a party and spooned a girl he used to be intimate with...he promised nothing...

A.   16 November 2010: He is a liar and a manipulator. He wants to control you while having your relationship on his own terms. He will NOT stop this behavior, he can't it is how he has always been. You have to decide which is more important, living with him and his bad ... (read in full...)

Why does my boyfriend prefer porn over his hot girlfriend?

Q.   Okay, My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years now and been living together for about a year. At first we had a really good sexual relationship and had sex often. Now we have sex like once a month, but all other aspects of the relationship ...

A.   16 November 2010: What kind of sites is he going to? Are they things that you and he do not do? If so it could be his interests lay there. Example if he is into BDSM and you two aren't doing that, he is trying to work out some of his addiction this way. It is not ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend is sexting other women!

Q.   I've been in a 2 year relationship. We broke up last June because he had been sexting a Married Woman. Yes, I checked his phone (1st time) and I found the texts. I broke up with him. He claimed that he had done Nothing wrong because it was only ...

A.   16 November 2010: He is addicted to the online sex thing, some people just can't seem to live without it. Its like cheating only without the exchange of body fluids. They get a rush from it. He WILL continue to do this, it is an addiction so you have to decide ... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend disappeared on me & is now in a new relationship

Q.   I was in a long distance relationship with a guy who I fell head over heels in love with. He lived an hour and half train journey from where I live. This lasted a full year and I spent a lot of time visiting him , and he would also come to visit me ...

A.   16 November 2010: Do not contact him at all, forget him. I went through something very similar only we were together 7 years before I found out he was addicted to cyber sex and online relationships. Some people cannot handle reality at all, so online is all they can ... (read in full...)

Sex - what do women prefer? And why do some women like to swallow when others dont?

Q.   [Mod Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged into one] Here is a question that I always wanted answered by someone other than my wife.....Why do some girls like to swallow seamen and some don't? What do most woman prefer, oral sex...

A.   10 November 2010: I can only speak for myself as everyone is a unique individual, no two women are alike. I don't swallow, I hate the taste and consistency of it. I spit it out on his stomach, let him deal with the mess. What kind of sex do I like? The kind whe... (read in full...)

Everyone says I should fight to get my ex back

Q.   Ok , I am not with my ex and he is with someone else. i love him and miss him. Everyone is telling me that I should fight to get him back. I have spoken to him and told him how much I love him. i even asked him if he loves me he says that he won...

A.   7 November 2010: You can't get him back of he doesn't want to come back. I would say give him his space and let him figure it out. That may mean he won't come back so be prepared for it. Good luck... (read in full...)

I'm pretty, why don't I have a boyfriend when ugly fat girls have one?

Q.   All of my friends continue to tell me to ask outthe guy I've liked for 6 years. They continue to say I'm pretty and the refer to me as the 'hot one.' I do believe I'm pretty, but, these over weight, ugly, and mean girls have boyfriends, yet I have n...

A.   7 November 2010: It could be because your so judgmental about others and they are picking up on that. Most men like someone who is fun, intelligent and easy to get along with, most don't want someone who looks at other people and calls them names. Good luck... (read in full...)

Boyfriend wants his friend to watch us have sex

Q.   My boyfriend wants me to have sex with his friend infront of him ! I don't know what to do! help me please xx...

A.   7 November 2010: You have the right to say no and he should accept that answer and respect it. If he doesn't toss him he isn't worth worrying about. Good luck... (read in full...)

I flew across the country to meet him and now I'm not attracted to him

Q.   I got into a relationship with someone online. We've been dating for 3months and I fell in love with his personality. I flew across the country to meet him and now that I have I'm not really physically attracted to him. My question is, should I stay ...

A.   7 November 2010: 3 months is not a long time especially if you have never met face to face before. Sure you love his online personality, but if your not attracted to him physically it is doubtful it will work out. I would say be friends, tell him so and move on.... (read in full...)

I think I'm wasting both of our time because I love her but am not in love and don't think I ever will be

Q.   Please take a minute and help me try to find an answer to this insanity I feel I am living in. I have been dating a gal for a little over 6 months. She is 28, I will be 32 next month. We had been online friends for nearly 5 years before we started ...

A.   5 November 2010: Who cares what anyone else thinks of this woman it is YOUR opinion that matters. If you don't love her you don't love her. It is kinder to tell her now and get it over with then to prolong it and give her hope that you do indeed love her and want a ... (read in full...)

He has the final say about everything in our marriage, and I cant even get him to talk about our problems!

Q.   i have been married to my husband for 27 years. ever since we married he has the say in our marraige, i was married for ten years before we had our son he never helps me around the house he works hard and is a good provider. we have not had a ...

A.   5 November 2010: He has gotten away with this for 27 years, he probably figures why should things change now? After all you have allowed this bad behavior and he has in a way made you his slave. Of course he won't listen, he doesn't feel he has to. He probably also... (read in full...)

We had sex and now he threatens to tell my husband if I don't do what he wants!!! Help!

Q.   Long story short, I met a guy and we ended up having sex. I'm married. Now he threatens to tell my husband if I don't do what he wants, when he wants. How do I get out of this? Please help me....

A.   3 November 2010: Tell your husband then this jerkwad has no power over you at all. Though I have to ask myself does he really want to tell your hubby and maybe get himself hurt in the process? Who knows probably better to tell your hubby. Good luck... (read in full...)

I fell in love with what I thought was a girl...but she's a he

Q.   Help. I fell in love over the internet with someone, and they feel absolutely the same thing. They were saying over the past few days that they were insecure about something, and they've been summoning up enough courage to mention it. Finally, the...

A.   3 November 2010: Great way to start a relationship off, with a L-I-E. How can you trust this person after he has lied to you? Unfortunately guys do this ALL the time. They play women, lesbians or shemales and then lie to everyone about it. If you don't believe me ... (read in full...)

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