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writes:Help.I fell in love over the internet with someone, and they feel absolutely the same thing. They were saying over the past few days that they were insecure about something, and they've been summoning up enough courage to mention it. Finally, they did. Now, it's always been my understanding and everyone else's that this person was a girl. However, what they were trying to tell me, is that they're not. They've been living under the mask of a girl on this online MMO for five years now.In a way, I feel betrayed. But at the same time I still have these feelings and that's what makes it kind of awkward. I'm not sure what to do. I only just found out today so maybe I'm just still in shock; should I wait and give it a chance?I feel hurt mostly at the idea that they aren't what I expected, in terms of WHAT they are. I know WHO they are as a person, however, and that's what I've grown to like, so is it maybe not that huge a problem? I'm having a hard time imagining them as anyone but the girl who's photos I thought they were.
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reader, MsVick +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Great way to start a relationship off, with a L-I-E. How can you trust this person after he has lied to you? Unfortunately guys do this ALL the time. They play women, lesbians or shemales and then lie to everyone about it. If you don't believe me check out my post regarding my bf of 7 years playing a lesbian shemale on Second Life. I threw away 7 years of my life on this loser.
Good thing you found out now so you don't walk the path that I did. I would say run, not walk to the nearest exit on this one.
Good luck
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Well, are you bisexual or homosexual?
If you are a girl (as says your profile) and are homosexual, let it go. You fell for what you thought was a girl. You love the personality, but you KNOW you don't like men. So it's time to call it quits and be just friends.
If you are bi, take your time to absorb the truth and think about it, then continue talking, get some REAL photos, and see if you are still attracted.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Sorry, but this is not a situation that can possibly end well. You THOUGHT you were in touch with another woman until he finally summoned up the courage to tell you the truth.
Remember, though: you have not met him in person, and until you do, any online contact is only a fantasy: i.e., its not in the realm of the real world. I think you might want to cut your losses now before you get any more involved. As tennisstar88 has so rightly said, for a relationship to proceed well, there has to be mutual trust. This is missing for you......
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 November 2010):
 You have feelings for a fictional woman that doesn't exist. How do you know what this man was describing is really him? Correction, since he lied you don't really know him at all. He could be a 45 year old creepy guy for all you know. A relationship has to have trust, if you proceed this won't go well. And say you do meet him in person, then you're faced with the reality it was all a lie. You've been deceived. There's nothing you can do to rectify it, just end it.
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