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writes:Straight guy with gay porn addiction.i seem to always want to fap off to hot pictures of guys. Usually its the jock type with the amazing bodies. I actually feel not much sexual attraction to them and the thought of gay sec doesn't really do much for me. I've never particularly wanted to try it either. If the guy has his cock out or his ass out then that's almost an immediate turn off for me. For some reason its the toned body that's a turn on. I literally have no desire to put his penis in any oriphis of my body. I'm getting very confused. I do like straight porn as well and in real life am attracted to girls but a guy with abs turns my head for some reason. Am i sexually attracted to men or is it some weird fetish of the male body in general... Help dear cupid...
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reader, Lovehelp2000 +, writes (21 September 2013):
It could mean that you have a desire to look like they do or have you ever considered that you may be bisexual?? It is actually normal to be attracted towards men (not in a sexual way) It could be that it just turns you on and you don't know why. You could maybe try kissing another male to see whether you like it not. That way you will know if you are gay, bisexual or your a just a straight guy who likes gay porn.
Theres nothing wrong with it at all!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2013): Original poster here. Three amazing answers and plenty to think about, thanks. I think the first two sort of sum up what I'm feeling at the moment but all answers were great. Maybe porn wasn't the best word to describe it, it's more soft core porn if anything (pictures, no intercourse). I've decided to go cold turkey like some of you suggested and reevaluate my life, i can see the "addiction" if you can call it that is unhealthy. Many thanks to all of you, I want to give you big internet hugs! X
ps. Sorry about the awful spelling in the original, it was late ;)
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reader, ModelCitizen +, writes (13 September 2013):
Do you have dreams of looking like that yourself one day? I ask because I am currently eating right and working out with the intention of improving my body confidence. I have no desire to sleep with a woman at all, in fact the idea is a serious turn off for me, but occasionally if I see a woman with the type of body I'd like (like you they are always clothed enough to cover the essentials, and never anyone in real life so far only celebs or models) I get a bit turned on. Like you I was confused, but when I spent time looking into it I worked out that I'm getting turned on about how sexy I'LL FEEL when I reach my goal. Perhaps you look at these guys and deep down think how great your sex life would be if you had a great body like them? Just an alternative thought for you.To me it seems if you have no desire to have sex with them and if you're not turned on by the 'crucial' parts then I doubt you're gay or bisexual, but that's just my guess. Remember too, most people can appreciate the sexiness of either gender without wanting to sleep with them or having to label it in any way. Some people just look great and there's no need to worry about appreciating that. All the best.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (13 September 2013):
 Maybe it's just a result of too much porn use? http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/ask-us-iam-attracted-to-gay-transsexual
Lay off watching for a few months and see what may have changed for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2013): Gay or homosexual means having emotional and/or sexual attraction to the same sex. If you are "turned on" by a man's abs, his toned body, and you claim you are addicted to gay porn. It is highly probable you're bisexual.
You have gay tendencies which you satisfy with porn. However; you fear crossing that line that you've drawn in your mind, which you feel will define you as gay.
Watching two hot guys having sex and getting aroused by it, is gay. If you also have sexual attraction for women; coupled with your gay-porn addiction. You are bisexual in orientation. Maybe at some point in your lifetime, you might attempt to have sex with another man. If you are more attracted to women, that may never happen.
You can live in denial, and resist the urge, as long as you can. Maybe indefinitely. You should give up the porn; until you come to terms with your feelings.
The sexual attraction you have for the male form will not go away. It is what attracted you to the porn in the first place. I am gay, and I have a bit of experience.
Any "addiction" is not healthy. Your attraction to the male body, is a part of your true nature. Your realization of your sexual feelings toward attractive well-built men, has become apparent to you all the same. That's why you wrote your post. You are not a freak or sick. If you like porn to the degree of addiction, that is unhealthy; and requires help. You should quit cold-turkey. That's the best way.
Seek counseling if you can't.
Addiction may not be the word you meant. I didn't take you literally on that. I think you mean you are strongly drawn to the subject matter. That being good-looking men with chiseled bodies. Porn is your chosen outlet.
Accept who you are. Don't let your appetite for porn of any type, take away from your relationship. If it does, then seek help with the addiction.
The gay attraction may not go away. It might be a part of your sexual orientation. You'll learn that in time.
You have a choice about "watching porn," gay or straight.
Sexual attraction isn't a choice.
You have to put your girlfriend first. If you feel the pull of your addiction taking over, it is time to give it up.
All of it.
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