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writes:I have known this guy for years and over the summer we became great friends, then we became more than great friends and he became ever so lovy dovy and often said that he loved me. But recently he has become distant, he never says that he loves me anymore and always seems to be busy, i have told him about this problem and he has assured me that he and us are perfectly fine,i even proposed that we stop what we are doing but he tells me he doesn't want to, he also told me that he recently has noticed that he doesn't feel the need to be with me all the time as much like before but that he doesn't know why! what is going on here? I'm scared to think that he is just keeping me around for when he is bored as i love him very much, please help me! should i leave him or wait a while longer to see whats wrong? if i should leave him please tell me how i can do it so that we can still remain friends!thanks a lot Reply to this Question
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reader, Twilight#1  +, writes (30 November 2008):
 umm if you guys had sex, he probably just wanted to get into your pants and being all "lovy dovy" was the way he did it, guys do that sometimes... be all romantic to have sex and once they had it the romance is no longer there... BUT if I'm wrong... then he probably has other issues at home or a problem with school or work that is probably requiring his attention. I think you should tell him how you feel.
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reader, michele21 +, writes (30 November 2008):
 well you are in a weird situation....if you have talked about it and he says it has nothing to do with you guys than maybe it doesn't but it seems kinda odd that all of a sudden he would stop doing all the things that he use to...if he really loves you he would want to be with you all the time he wouldn't stop thinking of you....my opinion i would just tell him you don't think things are working out you wanna just remain friends unless that might be too hard seems like he just leaves you on the back burner for when he wants some love and attention because he knows you will give it to him...move on sweety there plenty of guys out there that would love to be with you and around you and not blow you off like that expecially if they love you....good luck
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reader, shiraz +, writes (30 November 2008):
hiyah, wel youve spoken to him which was the best way of strating it and he obviously doesnt want it to end i just think the shine has come off your relationship thats all. when you first get together with someone its so good you really do want to be with them all the time and do everything constantly together but after a while you get used to each other, the i love yous become less and its almost like a routine of when and how you say it, it doesnt mean any less! it just means your used to each other. it can get boring though unless you do something to add back the sparkle. its like the honeymoon period, married people dont carry that on forever you know and thats how it is in relationships.it means your closer than you thought so in a way its a good thing, havin someone that knows you and all that is a quality to have and something you should cherish. he seems different but if hed of wanted it to end it would of by now you just need to get the sparkle back and only you know how go for it! dont panick over things that arent there, everyone goes through this stage its normal, talking to him helps so you did well to do that first.best of luck xxx
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