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writes:I'm 24 years old but I look like I'm 15. Never had a serious relationship. My question is, who am I supposed to be targeting as a potential partner here?Girls my own age aren't interested because I look like a kid.Girls who are my age but who look young aren't interested because they are just as superficial as everyone else, and they don't want to be with someone who looks like a kid.And girls who are the same age that I look are out of the question, because that would make me a pedophile.As a result of my looking young, I don't really have any friends and I don't have a social life... so that just makes everything that much harder.I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place here. As far as dating goes, I am screwed. What the hell do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): well i know how he feels, im 31 and still look about 19. alot of them tips wont help him any, at his age it may be too late to join some random sports league out of the blue and telling him to suddenly become confident as if its some kind of light switch that he forgot to switch on won't help either. i dont know about him but i get tired of people saying "ill luv it when i get older" i wanna luv it now, i dont wanna be miserable for next 20 years till my age catches up to me lol most my age look at me like a younger brother and its hard to find a younger woman with enough maturity level or im thought of as a perve even though she is an adult. now there is your rock and hard place
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): I agree with Danielepew, When you are 40+ you will be grateful for your youthful appearence! I was in my 30's and still getting carded. Now I am in my 50's but, damn! It seems to be catching up to me!!!! I enjoyed looking cute and young! I guess it is more difficult for a male but as I said, one day it will be a blessing!
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reader, 24yeahright +, writes (10 November 2008):
24yeahright is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Danielepew for that much needed injection of the obvious.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 November 2008):
 When you're 40, you'll be glad you look younger than your age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2008): dating sites can work, i am currently in bed with a beautiful sweet girl i have been seeing for 3 months-met her on a dating site and she only lives 1mile away, would never have found her otherwise.
Not everyone on sites are good, but that is the case everywhere.
Good luck buddy
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2008): Well then have you tried going on a weight gain program,work out at the gym,a haircut that will make you seem older.I have always noticed that men with a light stubble look older.A french beard helps too.Have you tried dressing up in formals?Try and wear shoes that have heels.you can wear spectacles.They make anyone look older.Can you please try this out?
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reader, 24yeahright +, writes (8 November 2008):
24yeahright is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know what gave you the impression I looked 15 when I was 15. When I was 15 I probably looked about 12 or something. I am very slow in the growth department.
Asians are just as superficial as everyone else, they dont want to be with a kid, even if they do look young.
Call me cynical, but I'm pretty sure that looking for love on a dating site is a bad idea. Already got infatuated over some girl on the interner and then she went cold... ruined my life for a good month.
I don't have friends that I can go to bars with. I have anxiety issues resulting from my years of not fitting in, so I'm not likely to join any kind of sports club. Bla bla bla, yada yada yada. I'll just deal with it until I'm 30 and hopefully by then i'll have some friends and i'll actually look like an adult, then I can persue an 18 year old or something.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (7 November 2008):
I'm with Sirena here. I don't think it's your looks that should matter, or what really keeps you from dating. You looked fifteen when you were fifteen, I assume, and, from your post, it looks you didn't date then, either.
If you act like a serious man, people will treat you as such. Maybe the will get carried away by looks at first, but then they will know better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): try the online dating, opens up a wider range of women to you. Clubs and bars are very superficial. Unless you are super confident and very good looking these places can be a nightmare.
Dont stray below 20 years old. 4 years either side at your age is acceptable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): Have you ever tried dating Asian Girls?They are really Petite.They look much younger than their ages.I have known of 30 year old people looking like 16 year old kids.Check it out if you are feeling this sad about it.
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reader, 24yeahright +, writes (7 November 2008):
24yeahright is verified as being by the original poster of the question16 is the legal age in New Zealand - where I live.
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reader, blackroses2989  +, writes (7 November 2008):
 This I can help you with! It really depends on the maturity level that you are at, however DO NOT go lower than eighteen. If you do, make sure than she is seventeen and will be turning eighteen this year. You can't risk your life and going to jail when a minor accuses you of Statutory rape. (consentual sex with a minor) But there a LOT of fish in the sea! If you preffer online dating to meet people a great site is Okcupid.com Its 100% free. lol I have a profile on there as well lol. Make sure your first relationship is fun, because it would be hard ot say it will be your last! lol. Good luck to you!^_^
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reader, michele21 +, writes (7 November 2008):
 Well yeah as you said don't go after gurls who look your age if you look that young you would be a perve.....i would like go to a bar so that way they know your of age at least and you could conversate and at least get friends out of it if anything....but i would stick to people your age don't rush into trying to meet people it always happens when you least expect it too...but u always have to put yourself out there to be found...i don't know how it works in new zealand but i live in america so it could be a little different there would love to see it there and check out the night life could be intresting...good luck give me feed back if anything happens
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (7 November 2008):
 Your emotional maturity level is what is really going to count in the long run in a relationship. It matters so much more than your appearance... just because you look young doesn't mean that you can't have a social life. It doesn't mean you're unattractive, either.
It's easier to meet people and get to know people if you have interests in common. Have you tried getting out and going to places where you can meet people? You could work with theatre or play in a soccer league, for example.
In reference to dating, I think that relationships are more stable if they are based on friendship and if someone is a true friend they will judge you for your emotional maturity and not how young you appear to be physically.
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