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I know what NOT to say, but don't know WHAT to say
Q. hi i am 21 in june and a am a virgen a have never had a girlfriend i am not shy a ask girls out after getting to know them but i always get declined i have signed up to a online dating site but don't know what to say in the messages i have looked on ...
A. 21 January 2009: Trying with a variety of girls and don't limit yourself. There are more girls than guys so you should have some luck. Also, try older women, they are less threatened.... (read in full...)
Unhealthy to immediately kiss after oral sex?
Q. I've heard that it can be really 'unhygenic' if you have oral sex and kiss immediately afterwards. Obviously I don't need an explanation as to why lol, but was wondering if there's any risk of catching something (not neccessarily STDs) and if there ...
A. 21 January 2009: STD's can be passed whenever precautions are not used. If you have to use a dam or condom during oral sex, you shouldn't kiss the person afterwards if bodily fluids can be passed. Although there are more germs in the mouth than on your sexual ... (read in full...)
He just likes to look at porn ALL NIGHT, and jerk off..
Q. OKay so, I talked to him last night about the asian porn and everything he lusts after.. I told him. When I stress it's not good for the baby.. And he told me porn is fine.. And I said "every day" He was just well, there's the door if you don't like ...
A. 21 January 2009: This is going to ruin your relationship. It should be very fortunate to have someone who wants sex all the time but either he feels he is not satisfying you or he is looking for variety that "everyday women" don't do everyday. I would ask him ... (read in full...)
Would a man get offended if a woman told him his penis was beautiful?
Q. Lol just wondering, would a man be offended if a woman told him that his penis was beautiful? Or would he be flattered??...
A. 21 January 2009: I tell my man his penis and just about everything else on him is beautiful. Why wouldn't or shouldn't you comment on something that gives you pleasure and makes you happy? I can't get to personal but I do show him I think his penis is wonderful.... (read in full...)
I know what NOT to say, but don't know WHAT to say
Q. hi i am 21 in june and a am a virgen a have never had a girlfriend i am not shy a ask girls out after getting to know them but i always get declined i have signed up to a online dating site but don't know what to say in the messages i have looked on ...
A. 19 January 2009: I didn't mean to offend you. i was just trying to help. Perhaps you're trying for the supermodel type and need to start off a little lower. don't overlook the "ugly betty" type as most are the most adorable women around. Try the afternood dates for ... (read in full...)
First time sex...the usual worries
Q. I know this is a question that has come up a lot, though thought it would be worth putting things in my own terms exactly so I can make things clear as possible... I'm 18 and met this guy about 2 months ago, he's 25 and not a virgin. We live a f...
A. 19 January 2009: You made my day.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Controlling bowels and anal sex
Q. Hi, ok Im on my thirties and in a very loving relationship of 3yrs. We have a great sex life and enjoy everything together. We've been having anal sex for a while now and I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on how to fully control my bowels. ...
A. 19 January 2009: I don't have any advice but I was thinking about anal sex now this is simply another reason to stray away.
Not to steal your post but tell me, was it or is it worth it. You are experiencing one of my fears after repeatedly use of the rectum. ... (read in full...)
Did I miss my chance to move things to a higher level?
Q. Some of my friends from high school decided to have a party to catch up with each other two nights ago. I havent seen a lot of them since we graduated 3 years ago. I probably would not have gone if not for one of my friends expressing how much she ...
A. 19 January 2009: You're a sweet guy and I'm sure she wants to talk about that night. Many girls aren't good initiators so we need you to make the first move.
Call her but it would really be romantic if you sent her flowers and a card saying you really want to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slapped me
Q. Ok, so I was walking in the mall with my boyfriend and suddenly a girl (stranger) came to me and whispered in my ears, "Check your pants zip". Obviously, I was so embarrassed and so when my boyfriend asked me what she said, I just lied to him that ...
A. 19 January 2009: Perhaps you should get a man's view point if you're so undecided. I don't think you'll find too many women who would take the chance of him getting better, I know I wouldn't, it's too much at stake and you're too young.
Relationships are built on... (read in full...)
Am I Considered A Whore?
Q. okay, so here is the thing. i am questioning myself "if i am a whore?" well okay, a little while back i went somewhere with these two guys. i took a pill (not sure what it was but my friend said it would make me feel relaxed) and i started to make ...
A. 19 January 2009: Well, you're not a whore technically because you didn't receive what you money but I question what you really want to know.
Do you want people to condone or condemn your actions? I will do either, you get to live your live the way you want as ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but he's not big enough for me!
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a while now, and I really really like him. Everything in our relationship is perfect, except for he has a tiny penis (3" when erect) which cannot satisfy my needs... I don't want to lose him but do ...
A. 19 January 2009: Size isn't has important as is the quality of the relationship.
I have a friend (a older women) who left her husband because she said he couldn't satisfy her. When they got married, he was a virgin with a small penis and she didn't know this. S... (read in full...)
How to get pregnant
Q. have a friend who had to do abortion and she want to get pregnant now it has been 2yrs she went to the doctor and every ting wz ok what else can she do...
A. 18 January 2009: After sex bask in the glow, it may sound wierd but have her jut her hips upward to facilitate the sperm's travel to the right place. Also, the man needs to bet checked to ensure his sperm is active.... (read in full...)
I know what NOT to say, but don't know WHAT to say
Q. hi i am 21 in june and a am a virgen a have never had a girlfriend i am not shy a ask girls out after getting to know them but i always get declined i have signed up to a online dating site but don't know what to say in the messages i have looked on ...
A. 18 January 2009: Poor thing. Honestly it always best however I don't trust online dating because so many people lie.
I really need information why girls always turn you down. Are you asking them to pay for the evening, do you not have transportation, do you have... (read in full...)
We broke up because of sex and I want her back
Q. Me and my gf had been going out foe 5 months ok? We were each other's first make out partner all the way to oral sex in this time. All of the people in school said we were a beautiful couple and we were perfect for each other. Even some teachers ...
A. 18 January 2009: Expound on the letter you posted, coupled with flowers and a box of candy (chocolate). Hand it to you at her house, and you should be back in business.... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to be able to cum. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together now for 4 months, we have an active sex life and really enjoy each other. We always turn each other on and have lots of fun. However whilst he can always get an erection, he hardly ever comes. It doesnt matter ...
A. 18 January 2009: When you say you don't want to spend a long time pleasuring him, perhaps he is feeling rushed and his performance is suffering. Most girls would die for a guy with this problem, so I am wondering can you relax and have multiple orgasms.
That ... (read in full...)
I'm sexually clueless, very unconfident about my body and sex never leads to orgasm, help!...
Q. I am 20 yrs old... ive been married for almost 6months.. i know, young. but anyway. My now husband n i started havin sex about 5 months into the relatinship. he was my first everythin. I had only kissed 2 othr guys and never did ANYTHING else wit...
A. 17 January 2009: Dear, you must learn to masturbate. After you learn to have orgasms, you can teach your husband how to please you. Make sure you teach him how to use his tongue (make as well break him in right) then you simply guide his penis into you and tell ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a man and it is not my boyfriend! What should I do?
Q. I'm in love with a man and it is not my boyfriend. This man makes me feel like I am on the top of the world, he is a amazing person the thing is he is much older than me and has a girlfriend in his hometown; we live in two different states. The th...
A. 16 January 2009: This sounds like the old adage, "I'm married but getting a divorce". Then you say if he caught AGAIN.....
This is not the man for you unless you don't mind getting hurt, he's a cheater who doesn't mind cheating with you.
You need to let your... (read in full...)
Do I tell him? I cheated 6 months ago!
Q. Hi, ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years on and off. i'm 18.the thing is...i cheated on him about 6 months ago when on holiday. and really dont know whether to tell him. it wont happen again for sure, im not sure why i did it to be honest because ...
A. 16 January 2009: I know misery loves company but you can be miserable alone; no need to make him miserable as well.
don't tell him as there is no need to tell him. If he knows you violated his trust, your relationship is doomed. How would you feel if he suddened... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I'm pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and have just broken up. The main problem in our relationship was that we never had time for eachother because of our demanding jobs. He got a relationship with someone at work, and that was when we broke up. We didn´t exactly part ways ...
A. 16 January 2009: Celia, I just re-read your post. If you decide not to keep the baby, I would not tell him. You are very considerate of his new relationship; however, is this something you are pondering all by yourself. I mean, isn't better to take a girlfriend ... (read in full...)
Will I know when my water breaks?
Q. how will i know if my water breaks?? i know this is dumb, but how will i know if my water breaks? my mom told me you will just know, but can you feel it? whats it feel like?? how will i know i didnt just have an accident?...
A. 16 January 2009: your brother has never had his water break. The only pain is from contractions. Sometimes the doctor has to puncture the bag to facilitate labor. Your doctor will verify your brother doesn't have a clue.... (read in full...)
If I'm supposed to get pregnant it will happen no matter what
Q. Im not sure if it is just 17 year old logic or what, but my mom is putting me on birth control, because she doesnt want me to get pregnant before I am ready. I have had a pregnancy scare before, but the test said I wasnt pregnant and life went on. ...
A. 16 January 2009: I had my first baby at 16. You don't want to go there. Pregnancy changes your entire life not just life for the moment. It also changes relationships. Although I have a MBA, I also have two kids by two different men of which neither are no ... (read in full...)
He's a hottie and I want to know him
Q. i cant stop thinking about this guy. Hes so fit lol, and seems really nice. Well i see him at my bus stop sometimes, not all the time ive seen him about 5/6 times when im waiting to catch the bus to college (we go different colleges though)...
A. 16 January 2009: don't give up. Although your schedule may have changed, perhaps his schedule hasn't, so arrange to stop by that bus stop when he's there and give him your number. You've got to meet him and see if he's interested in you so track him down like guys ... (read in full...)
20 years old and can't get up for the girl
Q. Ok, im a 20 year old male that can't get errect while with my girl. Ive tried almost everything, I work out everyday, and do keigel exercises. The exercises have helped the hardness but it doesnt matter because I cant get it up when im actually with ...
A. 16 January 2009: I don't want to embarrass you but it sounds like you are a virgin. Talk to your girl and be honest. Make sure she understands she should not expect too much during your first sexual encounter. Seeing there have been problems in the past, she'll ... (read in full...)
What is with exs??
Q. WHY DO EXES ALWAYS....? why do exes always ring you after so long and try to talk to you and wants to get back together?? soo dumb they had their chances and they messed about.. whats up with that? PLEASE ANSWER...??...
A. 16 January 2009: Ever heard the saying "man want a virgin in showplace and a whore in bed".
Ex always leave for greener grass only to find the grass is green where you water it. They realize they left a good thing and want it back because what left never me... (read in full...)
It felt as though I was having a bowel movement at the end of anal sex. How can I avoid this feeling?
Q. I have a question regarding anal sex - I have done this once with my boyfriend, but was fairly uncomfortable at the end, because when he was pulling out it FELT like I was having a bowel movement! Obviously I wasn't, but this makes me hesitant to do ...
A. 16 January 2009: Haven't experience anal yet (see my posting 1/15/09) but I understand if he cums in you or if you use a lot of lube, what goes up must come down so this feeling is natural.
If not, I need to know.... (read in full...)
Is there an easy and secure way to avoid her getting pregnant???
Q. Hi, yesterday I had unprotected sex with my girlfriend. I didn't cum inside her, I came outside but after some minutes we started having sex again still without protection and without me having cleaned my penis. She is in her fertile period, ...
A. 16 January 2009: I guess the only way you learn is by asking.
Not having sex is the only way unless she has had a hysterectomy.
Condoms and birth control are effective but I understand my brother is a condom baby. I also have a friend who is a vasetomy baby.
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But I'm sick of being so damn dependant upon him. I'm a grown up now. And I want him to see it!
Q. I want to go back to school so badly.. I have now come to the realization that I will be NOTHING in life without a degree. I have not a clue on how to aproach my father about this topic.. Let alone, it being unamimous.. Simply because, NoV 07. I...
A. 16 January 2009: I don't understand the question. I got pregnant at sixteen while in high school. Graduated, attended a junior college, had a part-time job and got pregnant again. My family thought I was a dead beat. I had to get on welfare because of the burden I ... (read in full...)
He's a totally different person when he's on drugs...
Q. Hello there, I have a major issue. I've been with my BF for almost one year. That may not seem like a long time to you but considering I practically live at his house every day is pretty much equivalent to a few years together. Anyway, my pro...
A. 16 January 2009: My experience has been this: drugs are a highway that leads only to death or destruction.
Get out of the relationship but you can remain friends. Explain you can't be in a relationship with an addict. Get him some help but you can't help an ... (read in full...)
He's stressing me out and I'm pregnant and don't need it! Help!
Q. Okay this is the third bulletin I send out in like less than 5 minutes and I appoligize I just got a lot of problems that i need some sort of opionion from a stranger that is willing to take some sort of time to care, at least a little. Well, Okay.. ...
A. 16 January 2009: I have two, pregnancy is a stressful time but remember this, whatever you feel the baby feels. Just like you're eating to two, be careful; you're living for two, be careful your baby is depending on you. Your boyfriend is not pregnant but how I ... (read in full...)
I am scared to give him my virginity, I would if I knew for sure that he would marry me.
Q. Ok, this is my dilemma. I am 17 years and my boyfriend is 18. We became friends online and then moved our friendship off-line and met in person. We became close friends instantly. As our friendship blossomed even more he would hint to me stuff about ...
A. 16 January 2009: Sometimes, we get so caught up is what we think is love only to discover it was not what we thought. Sex, tends to divert the focus from what’s really important in a new relationship – “what each person truly feels about the other.” Your virginity ... (read in full...)
My husband told me that most men don't like to give oral and he does it only because I like it.
Q. I have been married to my husband for seven years. I have told him exactly what I would like when it comes to oral sex. More often than not, he doesn't do it. He told me the other night that most men don't like to give oral and he does it only ...
A. 16 January 2009: Sad to say, my boyfriend told me the same thing. Luckily, we talked about it and he discovered he going to have good, mind blowing, sex until I was throughly wet down there. The quickest way to get me there was for him to take care of business. ... (read in full...)
Ladies do you have some suggestions on planning a nice night leading up to sex?
Q. I want to plan a nice night leading up to sex for my girlfriend. Ladies do you have some suggestions on planning a nice night leading up to sex?...
A. 16 January 2009: A nice dinner but not a movie. If you can cook, dinner at a guy's house after he's given me flowers is so relaxing and romantic. Sipping on a glass of wine listening to music while I prepare to be catered is nice. This way, I can kick off my ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend doing this???
Q. We’ve been together for 3 months.. after 2 months he changed and started been all weird and not calling me much.. he use to call me every day..last time I saw him he got really angry and accused me of cheating on him... saying I am not giving him ...
A. 16 January 2009: Sorry to tell you but he's involved with someone else or he's playing a very common game "no good" guys place to get into your panties.
You can do better and should!
Move on now before you get hurt further and deeper.... (read in full...)
First time sex...the usual worries
Q. I know this is a question that has come up a lot, though thought it would be worth putting things in my own terms exactly so I can make things clear as possible... I'm 18 and met this guy about 2 months ago, he's 25 and not a virgin. We live a f...
A. 16 January 2009: Sometimes, we get so caught up is what we think is love only to discover it was not what we thought. Sex, tends to divert the focus from what’s really important in a new relationship – “what each person truly feels about the other.” Your virginity ... (read in full...)
I have no plans but do I lie and say I do?
Q. Hello Cupiters! I am going out on a first date with this guy I met online about a month ago. Now we're just talking texting.. Anyways, we already have plans for Saturday (dinner, miniature golf). We were having a good conversation this morning ...
A. 15 January 2009: I hope you have his picture. Meet him at a PUBLIC place and you drive yourself there. Let someone know where you're going and who you're going with. Tell your cell phone and when you leave, go to a friend's house or your parents before you go ... (read in full...)
First time sex.... what can I do to blow his mind?
Q. Ok, my boyfriend and I are planning to have sex soon. The thing is I love him really I do. Knowing that we are both virgins and that he is taking it very seriously, well in the sense that he wants everything to go right. He planned everything to the ...
A. 15 January 2009: Sorry but I was to do it all over again, I'd wait until we got married. When you do make love, if it's special, he is going to want it more and more and more. Eventually, you're going to have some concerns the relationship is only built on sex and ... (read in full...)
Pain & bleeding after sex
Q. im 24 and am really worried and dont know what to do. i have been with my partner for 4 years and have had no problems but recently i have started having pain during intercourse and also bleeding after sex. i am also bleeding when i am not having a ...
A. 15 January 2009: I had that. Turns out I had fibroids. I had surgery (not a hysterectomy ) and now take a pill everyday. Go see your gyn immediately. I know the feeling of concern after sex seeing the blood. It really freaks out your man to start sex normally ... (read in full...)
Experience with anal sex please give me input
Q. I've been in a relationship with a man for about two years now. We both have children and our separate places. Our relationship is heading toward marriage so there are no insecurities. Although how sex life appears to be wonderful, a whi...
A. 15 January 2009: So far it doesn't sound that enjoyable, so I question why even doing it. I thought losing my virginity was bad until I gave birth. I swore I wouldn't do that again either but now I have two. I continue to monitor the responses and really appre... (read in full...)
I think his ex is still burning a candle for him
Q. I think my husband's ex wife may still be in love with him. This is such a bizarre story-- at least to me. My husband's ex walked out on him about 9 years ago. I'm sure there are two sides to each story and no doubt she felt like she had a r...
A. 15 January 2009: This happened to my Dad. I assume she found the grass was not greener on the other side, just where you water it the most. In other words, she realizes she lost a good man because good men are hard to find. My mom is bitter because she left him ... (read in full...)
My mum is stuck in a love triangle
Q. hi i need some help im doing this on behalf off my mum as she has never been on here before, she is in a relationship with her boyfriend who she has been with for 8 years and has got my brother who has just turned 8 living wit them, (ill explain ...
A. 15 January 2009: Been with a guy for eight years and not happy, well, she should be concentrating on her on mental state. I would suggest she resolve the current living situation first (find her own place). If your brother is by the b/f, she needs to be careful. ... (read in full...)
Will I know when my water breaks?
Q. how will i know if my water breaks?? i know this is dumb, but how will i know if my water breaks? my mom told me you will just know, but can you feel it? whats it feel like?? how will i know i didnt just have an accident?...
A. 15 January 2009: You'll know. Either you'll feel this water running down your legs (and realize you didn't pee on yourself) or you'll wake up in a very wet spot (and think you wet the bed). Trust me, you'll know, it doesn't hurt, it just gushing out - can't hold ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I'm pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and have just broken up. The main problem in our relationship was that we never had time for eachother because of our demanding jobs. He got a relationship with someone at work, and that was when we broke up. We didn´t exactly part ways ...
A. 15 January 2009: I was in that situation. Tell him immediately!!! Sounds like your man was one who wanted the free milk without having to buy the cow. When you tell him make sure you let him know what you plan on doing with the baby. If you plan to I keep your ... (read in full...)
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