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writes:I want to go back to school so badly..I have now come to the realization that I will be NOTHING in life without a degree.I have not a clue on how to aproach my father about this topic.. Let alone, it being unamimous..Simply because, NoV 07. I decided thatschool just wasn't for me.. Not to mention the fact that I was not putting forth an effort to even pass. Im 21 and all of my friends are either pregnant.. Have started a family or are getting close to graduating. I really need help with an open line on how to convince my father that I'm serious this time and ready to get down to business. I have just recently got a job working at a local floral shop in town.. I want so much more for myself. More than anything, that great feeling of success.So as far as the "responsibility" part of the whole equation goes.. That's what I'm trying to prove to him - that I am capable. I lived in California on my own for several months last year and I'm definitely gonna throw that out there. But I'm sick of being so damn dependant upon him. I'm a grown up now. And I want him to see it!Anything is helpful! Reply to this Question
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reader, megan1111 +, writes (16 January 2009):
I don't understand the question. I got pregnant at sixteen while in high school. Graduated, attended a junior college, had a part-time job and got pregnant again. My family thought I was a dead beat. I had to get on welfare because of the burden I was placing on them. Guess what, I went back to school with student loans and grants ($50K of student loans). My family saw that I was serious and gladly pitched in. Just having them babysit while I could work a part-time job enabled me to get my Masters. Now I can provide a better life for my kids and everyone is so proud of me. The best part is I'm glad I didn't give up and succomb to the advice of simply getting a full time job and babysitters because I won't have made it on minimum wage.
so go do it and pay for it yourself. When you start making some serious headway, they'll be there to support you. Also, major is something that is employable. Yoga and things like that are fun but not to profitable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): Agree with the person below.
The only way to prove to your father that you're serious about it is to actually do it. Save up money, apply for student loans, and go to school. Not enough money? Take on another job.
Paying for school is hard, and sometimes that means you have to buckle down and know that this is really what you want.
Perhaps if you show your dad that you really can take care of yourself for a year or too, then maybe he will pitch in to help.
Basically if you think you are grown-up, then you have to pick up the responsibilities of a grown-up.
I'm 21 myself and I'm in school too. It's not easy but I am having a blast! I'm not particularly that talented or smart, but I know how to work hard and that alone gets a person through school if you play your cards right.
It's hard but not impossible to hold down a job and go to school.
Cheers!
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reader, childof1981 +, writes (15 January 2009):
 You realize of course that you are putting forth a somewhat self-contradicting information. If you are grown up and serious about going back to school then the easy thing to do is get into school, start working and then tell your father about it. I am sure he will be convinced after a while.
If what you really meant was, "how do I convince my father I am serious about school (before actually doing anything) so he will pay for it?" . . that is another question altogether. If you need your father to pay for school then you really are dependent on him and are not "grown up".
You might consider joining the armed forces, many people use them as a way to get ahead early in life and pay for college.
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