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Controlling bowels and anal sex

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Question - (19 January 2009) 7 Answers - (Newest, 9 February 2009)
A female Ireland age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hi, ok Im on my thirties and in a very loving relationship of 3yrs. We have a great sex life and enjoy everything together. We've been having anal sex for a while now and I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on how to fully control my bowels. Please don't take me the wrong way but I make sure I am ready for anal sex and we are very clean about it all but is it normal to have a little leaking( for want of a better phrase).

Sometimes this happens and while it's not a lot I hate when it happens but thoroughly enjoy anal and I get very embarrassed, thankfully my BF is fine about it and never makes a big deal but I wonder, surely this must b a turn off?

Thank you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009):

My sister is a massage therapist and says that people come in to get their ass tightened up after to much anal! She refuses to assist them and let's her employers knows this as early as her 1st interview. So I think it can become a medical issue and it shouldn't be done to often. They say the anus is a muscle and there are a lot of sensitive nerves down there.as 4 "leakage"..if your man wants his thing in your end then I'm sure he already excepted the reality of what comes out of there. I'm sure he really doesn't find it a turn off probably more of a turn on that u allow anal sex..most girl are afraid to do it!

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A female reader, MutantKitten Canada +, writes (20 January 2009):

MutantKitten agony auntFrom what I understand, doctors don't really recommend enemas..the tip can make tiny perforations in the lining, which is especially dangerous for women. Enemas just increase the risk that is already posed by having anal sex. Worst case scenario, an infected perforation can become very infected or enlarge into a fistula, and no one wants that.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009):

I think it possibly just depends on the person - I never had that 'leaking' with my ex.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Ok thankyou every1. Needless to say this has to be the most embarrasing question I've had to ask. I appreciate your answers

Thank you

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009):

Umm, ok i've had anal before and that happened once ((needless to say i was afraid of anal after that)) but anywho, you should really try to clease yourself before any more of that.

Ok i had a really good answer for you and now i'm kinda embarrassed about this.. i'm really sorry.... just make sure you've cleaned your pipes for the day and you shouldn't have any more problems ((sorry if my answer disgusts you))

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A female reader, MutantKitten Canada +, writes (19 January 2009):

MutantKitten agony auntfrom what I understand, a little leakage is normal, but having a bowel movement prior to engaging in anal sex can help.

The reason most men and women in porn don't leak is because they fast for 48 hours prior to.

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A female reader, megan1111 United States +, writes (19 January 2009):

I don't have any advice but I was thinking about anal sex now this is simply another reason to stray away.

Not to steal your post but tell me, was it or is it worth it. You are experiencing one of my fears after repeatedly use of the rectum. I've heard porn stars have to have their rectum "tighened up" after a few years of repeated use. Are you at this point?

I sure hope others answer you so I can read the posts.

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