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*axxie
writes:Hello everyone! Basically I'm writing because my love broke up with me. We had been dating for around 1 year. We had an intense relationship and it also got a bit serious because we would spend time with friends and his and my family. I used to feel a bit insecure and unappreciated so I nagged to death. In fact I nagged so much he dumped me... for the second time. The thing is - I didn't learn my lesson. I worry if it's to late to correct my mistake! He says he loves me but if we get back everything will be the same :( This time I have had 1 week for reflection and I have seen my mistakes. I just need to know how to approach him. He doesn't want to see me in person because he is afraid of me begging to get back together... Is my situation completely hopeless? Has anyone been in my shoes?thank you for the advice.
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reader, maxxie +, writes (3 March 2009):
maxxie is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the support everyone!
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reader, cupids_friend +, writes (26 February 2009):
Okay I hope that this helps what I would tell him you will do whatever it takes to fix it if it was a lack of talking or maybe talking to much whatever it takes I am willing to do so. He was the one that broke up with you so let him know that your willing to fix it however it takes I really hope this helps let me know please
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reader, maxxie +, writes (26 February 2009):
maxxie is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have spoken to him, i apologized for the drama, he said "i didnt break up with you beacuase i don't love you, it was just a comunication problem" i changed the subject. i think he may be opening up. i need some tips on how to approach him! without scaring him. he obviously still loves me because he says he isnt interested in meeting girls and the stuff he's said.
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reader, maxxie +, writes (26 February 2009):
maxxie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOP here. i am taking it slow, talking on IM with him and letting him know how i am improving on myself. i try to talk minimally about our relationship for the time being, i am giving him time to reflect. to all men out there? would you give me a chance if you were in this guys shoes?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): I feel you both should get back with each other. I am going through a crisis myself after having to babies with this women, getting married she is over nagging me to death. I use to get very upset then it dawned on me to stop because I seen what my 15 month old was acting like. I'm in counseling and I feel if you want change, you both love each other who ever is the nagger needs to really work hard on themselves. I would not stay apart for change but I would change myself in the relationship. Back off...Let him be him, let him change also it is not all you. but for it to work back down. The other thing I would say also is that all relationships go through things. If the love is there it will endure. For him to break it off with you bothers me a bit only because I look at what we are going through and I WOULD NOT leave her over nagging or insecurities. We all have them, we all are imperfect. Work on yourself don't beg him. Put the ball in his court. I know you hurting so bad inside and you want to love him but don't beg. I hope I'm not too late. You go and remember God made us we are all sinners and imperfect.Best Wishes and always remember each one of us makes mistakes, each one of us has issues, Love is blind and you are not perfect, if he wants a perfect person you need to explain the only thing perfect in life is him. Be careful and I'm sorry for all the pain you are going through as I have been there in life.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 February 2009):
 It might be to late. It might not. However I hope you learned something from the relationship.
You might want to spend sometime working on your self esteem and insecurities. We all have those insecurities but how we let them rules us makes a difference. Try and analyze what is it that makes you feel so insecure.
I don't know if 1 weeks reflection is enough for you. But if you are willing to work on and he is willing to give it another go then go for it. Stop looking back, look to the future.
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reader, cupids_friend +, writes (26 February 2009):
Okay I have never been in your shoes well couse I am a 20 year old guy. But my advise is to just call him up and tell him that you like him so much and the only reason that you nag is to get his attition. You don't know what you would do without him and just tell him that your sorry and if he would give it another chance if not you will understand. I hope it works and I hope this helps please let me know
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