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*axxie
writes:My boyfriend left me because he needed "space", instead of respeting his decision i cryed and made a whole lot of drama for 2 weeks. he got very angry, later he got better and said we should start as friends, we had sex and he said he still loved me. one night i drunk dialed him and he said he missed me. then 2 days after the sex i invited him to a fancy dinner- he got pissed he said i was "pressuring him back into the relationship" and said he never wanted to see me or talk to me again...so i called him the next day (today) and said sorry for being "pushy" but i was just beig nice or at least trying... he said he wont forget me but he believes at the moment we shouldnt talk because he doesnt want a relationship...i told him "i hope you forgive me but i cant forgive you, i cannot call you again because you hurt me enough already" My plan is to stop contact for a few weeks so he sees what its like to lose me... any better advice? **TALKING TO HIM is not a good answer because he needs space... THANKS :)
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reader, maxxie +, writes (3 March 2009):
maxxie is verified as being by the original poster of the question HEY everyone! thanks for the advice. i think he will most likely crawl back and understand he needs to appreciate me. BTW can anyone help me change my age? I'm 20 not 13-15. and he is 25
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reader, onefleshmin  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 No offense but are really 15 yrs old? If so, give him the space he needs. If you are really 15 he can't be committed to you because his to young to really know what he wants. Remember, a man can placed as much value as you placed on yourself. Your body is the container or vessel and your soul is the treasure. Don't give your treasures to uncommitted men.
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (3 March 2009):
 all sounds good to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): Noo no no ....you need to be single girly!
This guy is not the one for you! He is unsure of what he wants and you need to assert your self worth and independence by ignoring him...for way more than a few weeks. Just forget about him, move on, and dont have reckless sex!
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reader, Heartbroken-xx  +, writes (3 March 2009):
My mom always told me, 'don't chase the boys, let the boys chase you' which is exactly what you must do. Cut off all contact with him completely, no matter how much you love and miss him, you cannot let him know it! If he really does love you, he will come back to you.. he knows right now, that he can get you if he wants too and he knows what buttons to push and he'll keep on pushing them.. if he wants him space, then give it to him.. see how much he likes it, chances are, he'll come crawling right back and then it's up to you to decide if its really what you want, and if the answer is yes, then you guys can dicuss how you guys will patch up your relationship.. it's not too late.
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reader, LoveHearts101 +, writes (3 March 2009):
I think you can do a lot better than this guy. He should not be treating you this way. Having sex with him and him telling you he loves you ismuch more than being friends. You were right in thinking its okay to invite him to a fancy dinner and he was a jerk for getting angry at you.
Let him go. It may be hard, but in thelong run you will be a much happer person.
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