No no to doggie style!!!
Q. I'm a teenager and have been seeing my boyfriend for about 8 months. We recently started having sex (he isn't my first). And every time we do it, he seems to be wanting doggy style. I find it excruciatingly painful and we've talked about it several ...
A. 24 September 2009: "No means no"
You have a right to refuse to have sex in any way for any reason. If you don't want to do it, say so and hold your ground. You shouldn't let men walk over you, I know it can be hard, but you have to be strong. If he really won't le... (read in full...)
Making a move on the math teacher
Q. im a male and i like my male math teacher when he is teaching i fantsise about him and he is so hot. i dont know if he is gay or straight but if he is gay i want to make our relationship go further. i have an A in his class and we talk on facebook ...
A. 24 September 2009: This is all completely illegal. If he is found out, your math teacher will lose his job (at the very least) and will risk a prison sentence.
I hope it's worth it.... (read in full...)
Will anyone want me with this virus?
Q. Hi, I am an 18 year old girl who has recently been diagnosed with genital herpes. I have only ever had sex once. This occured when I was very drunk,and even though I didn't want to, I was persueded otherwise. I now feel as though I will never be ...
A. 22 September 2009: Don't worry, treat it as well as you can and you won't get many problems with it. I very much doubt that it'll have a significant effect on your search for a partner...
While it isn't curable at the moment (just manageable), I have heard about va... (read in full...)
How long should I wait to take a test again if I don't start my period?
Q. My husband and I are trying to have a baby, so maybe just like every other month I am just anxious, but... I took a test today because today is the day I should have started my period and I was negitive. How long should I wait to take a test agai...
A. 21 September 2009: Levels of hCG, the hormone that pregnancy tests use to detect pregnancy, can be relatively low during weeks 3, 4 and 5 since your last period. I would suggest taking it again in another 7 days, if that is still negative, take it again in a further 7 ... (read in full...)
The Condom Came Off Inside Me, Could I Be Pregnant?
Q. ...is there a high chance of pregnancy when the condom comes off inside you??...
A. 21 September 2009: Yes, get the Morning After Pill (from your doctor or a clinic, in some countries, it is also to get one without a prescription) as soon as possible (as in, within the next 24 hours at max). The Morning After Pill is sometimes sold as Plan B or ... (read in full...)
Am I bi? Should I confess my feelings to hall mate?
Q. I'm a freshmen at a college and I live in a dorm. I met this wonderful hall mate who I have gotten quite close to. Oddly enough I can't stop thinking about her and I think I might be experiencing feelings for her. I never really had any feelings...
A. 20 September 2009: I think that the fact that you're both girls is the minor issue here.
I'll break down the issue for you:
* She's one of your few good friends
* She's having issues with other things right now
* She may not be into girls
* She may see you as ... (read in full...)
I gave him my virginity and he's already moved on
Q. I've just broke up from a short relationship problem is i lost my virginity to him im 17 and i thought he was special we broke up on monday and it was last night (saturday) and hese already found someone. I keep crying and i don;t know wet...
A. 20 September 2009: I'm sorry, on behalf of this arsehole, I'm sorry.
Unfortunately at your age, our age, a lot of guys are just looking for sex. Definitely not all guys, plenty are perfectly honourable. However, you've got to make sure that you don't fall for the ... (read in full...)
He says that sex is chore for him and he'd rather cuddle! How do I bring back the spark?
Q. I'm 18 and my bf 23 we've been going out for nearly 16 months now and i thought everything was fine until last week. He said he wanted to talk about us that he feels we've been drifting apart and doesnt feel a connection with me anymore and that he ...
A. 20 September 2009: Good :) Things are looking up! :)
You shouldn't be complacent yet though. Keep doing engaging things together, keep occasionally not seeing him every day (but don't do this too much) and keep doing anything else you think is helping.
I compl... (read in full...)
Am I confusing the signals?
Q. Im a 16 year old female and over the past 3 years ive had feelings for my female 29 year old pe teacher.The past year has got out of hand, ive grown to love her. Sometimes i wonder if she feels the same way.... Ive been reading a book on body lan...
A. 19 September 2009: You may be reading into her body language too much. Some people naturally mimic the body language of others to put them at ease and appear friendly. It's also possible that you could be seeing things where there is nothing - it could be completely ... (read in full...)
How do I stand out during an interview?
Q. Hi guys, I hope you can help. I found out today I have a group assessment and individual interview down in London next week for a 6 month paid placement, these placements often lead to full-time work. I have been to interviews before for part-...
A. 19 September 2009: Do practice interviews with anyone that is prepared to help, it'll make it easier for you to answer on the day. Do as many as you can. You can also write out questions you think you may be asked and prepare answers to them.
If you've sent ahead a ... (read in full...)
He says that sex is chore for him and he'd rather cuddle! How do I bring back the spark?
Q. I'm 18 and my bf 23 we've been going out for nearly 16 months now and i thought everything was fine until last week. He said he wanted to talk about us that he feels we've been drifting apart and doesnt feel a connection with me anymore and that he ...
A. 19 September 2009: On one hand 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' but on the other hand, you seem distant. So backing off is a bit of a tough issue.
Lets talk about sex first because it's a bit less complicated (I think). Perhaps you should try to put off sex ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship between cousins wrong and how do I tell my parents?
Q. Ok I know this may sound weird but I'm in a relationship with my second cousin twice removed. We only met recently and had no interaction as children and our families aren't very close. I really like him and he likes me. He's told his family about ...
A. 18 September 2009: I believe it is legal here in the UK (in fact, I think that even first cousin are allowed to marry here...).
I don't think there's anything morally wrong about it, you're relatively distant relatives anyway and you've never had much familial... (read in full...)
He says that sex is chore for him and he'd rather cuddle! How do I bring back the spark?
Q. I'm 18 and my bf 23 we've been going out for nearly 16 months now and i thought everything was fine until last week. He said he wanted to talk about us that he feels we've been drifting apart and doesnt feel a connection with me anymore and that he ...
A. 18 September 2009: I expect a lot of it is him having too much time on his hands. I can definitely identify with that, I had a patch where I wasn't working and I also socialised less and it made me much more moody and all sorts of negative things. I'm going to s... (read in full...)
I quit my job! Do I have to show someone else how to do things?
Q. I have handed my notice in at work having worked there for almsot 8 years as I cannot stand being picked on indirectly-anymore although I havent got another job to go to-unwise I know but I couldnt stand it after the last straw when one of the staff ...
A. 14 September 2009: Legally, you can probably just quit. They might dock some of your final pay, but that'd probably be all. See advice from your local Citizen's Advice Bureau or your solicitor. You may even have a case against your employer for any bullying y... (read in full...)
Where to buy tasteful gay pride jewelry
Q. Hi So I've recently came out to people as being gay However I can't be bothered to tell everyone, and tbh I don't really know how to bring it up in conversation So I want to buy a small gay pride rainbow badge or item of jewlerey, something that...
A. 14 September 2009: You could order online and just get it posted discretely. I mean, posted in a plain envelope. I'm sure the retailer wouldn't mind doing that for you. A quick search came up with this online (and high street store) based in Birmingham: http... (read in full...)
My little sister walked in on us having sex, what do I do?
Q. Okay, so basically, last night me and my boyfriend were messing around, i had my trowsers down but my top still on when my little sister who's only 12 walked in, we managed to sort ourselves out abit before she completley saw everything but i feel ...
A. 14 September 2009: It's always awkward when someone walks in on you. I imagine it must be even worse if it's a younger sibling. It's happened now though, so try not to worry about it too much. In future, I'd suggest locking your door (if you can) or either put somet... (read in full...)
How can I prepare mentally for first time sex?
Q. Im 14, almost 15 and my gf is 13, almost 14 (her bday is 3 days before mine) I havn't been on this site for a while because i havnt had much going on that i couldnt talk to my friends about. But i have recently gotten back togather with me ...
A. 14 September 2009: DISCLAIMER: This post is legal in the United Kingdom as specified by section 14 part 3 of the Sexual Offences Act 2003. This post is intended to protect your well being and not to encourage sexual activity.
In almost all jurisdictions in the Unit... (read in full...)
Why did he deliberately have unprotected sex with me when he knew I could get pregnant?
Q. My ex (father to my daughter) and I have cultivated a friendship or so I thought after fourteen years of separation. As consenting adults we were involved in consensual intercourse. However, he purposely came inside me knowing I can get pregnant. ...
A. 14 September 2009: Who knows... You're both equally irresponsible. Rather than trusting him not to get you pregnant, why not be responsible for yourself and use some contraception. Condoms, the pill, the implant and IUDs - you're pretty spoilt for choice. P.S. ... (read in full...)
Pill? Or no pill?
Q. ive put on a little weight over the last couple of years, and my boyfriend has suggested i come off the pill. its always been a good choice to go on it, the sex feels better for both of us and its safer than using condoms. altho ive tried a few ...
A. 13 September 2009: A review of medical studies about the pill and weight gain by the Cochrane Library (it's a source of information for doctors), found that there is no significant weight gain from taking the pill. I really would suggest you stick with a hormonal ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend works with her ex lover(not boyfriend) is it wrong of me to ask her to quit that job?
Q. After my girlfriend and i got together, i got her a job at a bar i work at. during a short breakup, she had sex with a co worker of ours. We are back together but i hate seeing them interact on a daily basis. Is it wrong of me to ask her to quit her ...
A. 13 September 2009: Yes, it is completely unreasonable. I understand why you feel uncomfortable, but her changing jobs isn't the solution. You need to realise that what you have with her is much more valuable than any one night stands she had. You also need to trust ... (read in full...)
Could I still get pregnant?
Q. Today me and my boyfriend was in bed, we didnt have full intercourse but he put his penis inside me with no condom but didnt ejaculate or move it about, could i still get pregnant?...
A. 13 September 2009: It's unlikely, but yes. There could have been sperm in his 'pre cum' (otherwise known as Cowper's fluid) from a previous ejaculation. If there were, then yes you could be pregnant. If you want to be safe, and I suggest you are, especially if a... (read in full...)
How can I stop the shaving rash?
Q. Everytime I shave whether my pubic hair or my legs I get a hideous rash for atleast a day. On my legs it goes with cold water and if I pat them dry but when I shave my pubic hair it comes out in this horrible red rash wich I think is highly ...
A. 13 September 2009: You're 13-15, it's understandable that you're starting to think more about shaving in or around your pubic region. I'm a man, and from what I gather from my girlfriend, it seems to me that it's even harder for men to shave that area well. My tip... (read in full...)
Can a guy tell if a girl is a virgin during sex?
Q. Dear cupid, Okay i was just wondering when having sex can guys tell if the girl is a virgin? Would they feel any different? Thanks :)...
A. 29 June 2009: Yes and no. There is no definite physical way to tell whether someone is a virgin or not. A lot of girls bleed on their first time, but not all do, and some bleed when it's not their first time. It's more likely that they'd be able to tell by h... (read in full...)
Husband's been exchanging emails and planning a holiday with another guy! I think he could be gay. What should I do?
Q. I was checking my emails this week (well, actually our emails, we have a shared email address, e.g. johnandjane at yourdomain.com) and got an email entitled "RE:Holidays" Nothing odd about that, you might say. I was expecting the content of it to...
A. 29 June 2009: Oh my God, what a shit.
I'm so so sorry...
Unfortunately, the signs are pretty clear. Your husband is gay. The fact that he's gay really isn't the issue. It's that he's cheating on you or imminently going to.
Get out while you still can. I k... (read in full...)
Me and my obsessive adopted brother....
Q. me and my adopted brother are in love with each other. Is that weird? Is it considered as incest? last week, we had our first sex with each other. Its just that, i feel wrong and im scared if my parents found out. Its not easy to just end our ...
A. 27 June 2009: People are saying that this isn't incest. I can't speak for the law in the US, but certainly in the UK and in some other parts of Europe, it would definitely be considered incest by the law. I have read the actual text of the law and I'm certain.
... (read in full...)
I need to keep the spark!
Q. Im in love wit my bosses daughter we've been together for over 6 month now n were having problems I need help to keep our relationship from losing it spark, how can I do that?...
A. 27 June 2009: Your post doesn't really give us that much information to work with.
Here are my top 3 tips:
1. Make time to spend alone together - not necessarily for anything sexual, but to just talk
2. If you're arguing with each other, try to be the... (read in full...)
My parents don't like him because he lacks motivation! How can I get them to change their mind?
Q. my boyfriend and i have a true love story......we met online and i got lucky. well my parents loved him at first and then after 4 months they started to say he doesnt have a car, and he doesnt have a desent job.....but the working world is harsh and ...
A. 27 June 2009: It's great that you love him, even if he isn't the highest earner.
Your parents want what's best for you. They want to make sure that you're with someone who can provide from you (even if you can provide for yourself) and that you're not with som... (read in full...)
Cooking and romance!
Q. hey just need a quick peice of advice i have relised that i have never cooked for my girlfriend and it is something i would like to do for her, she likes ittalian food. but how could i turn a night to cook for her into a romantic setting. ...
A. 25 June 2009: It kind of depends on the kind of thing that she likes, but I'll try to give some general advice that you can adapt. First of all, you need to decide whether you want cooking to be a bonding activity between you or whether you want it to be a ... (read in full...)
He doesn't mind pleasuring me on my period!!!
Q. When I'm on my period, I feel digusting and fat and yucky even if I'm not and some of the time I totally do not feel like having sex. But my boyfriend insists he pleasures me orally and I'm suprised he doesn't find it disgusting that I'm on my ...
A. 25 June 2009: It's really not as bad as you think. It's pretty much the same as normally really... Sex is a bit messy, but it's not gross - it all washes off. As satindesire says, if your boyfriend is doing it, then he doesn't hate it.... (read in full...)
I'm getting so frustrated. What can we do to get pregnant?
Q. My fiance and I have been in an relationship for a little over 5 years, and we have been trying to have a baby for a year now and nothing happened. He keeps asking me if I'm pregnant and why I'm not pregnant yet. I'm scared it might be me because he ...
A. 3 June 2009: The previous poster was right. Go and talk to your gynaecologist.
Try to convince your husband to stop smoking. It doesn't matter that people around you are conceiving, because you're not. It's probably not the smoking on its own. But the smoking ... (read in full...)
I'm not invited on holiday as my boyfriend says "It's a lads thing!"
Q. Hi my boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. He normally goes away with the "lads" on holidays without me. When he goes he usually doesnt contact me very often and we usually would be have alot of contact during the day normally. He's ...
A. 3 June 2009: I think that at around your age onwards and after a relationship as long as 3 years, you should be able to expect your boyfriend to choose going on holiday with you instead of going with his friends.
I think you're right to be upset, and I think ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to do it?
Q. Do girls care about what the penis looks like, and when they give you head, do they pull your foreskin back? And what is the best way to pleasure a girl, finger her or eat her out?...
A. 2 June 2009: Generally girls don't care, if they do, they're probably not worth the hassle.
As for oral or fingering. Both will be enjoyed if done well. It depends what the girl is in the mood for.... (read in full...)
Ingrow hair is affecting my esteem and sex life
Q. i've had a problem with ingrown hairs down there ever since i became sexually active, and it's got to the stage now where it is actually affecting my sex life. how many ingrown hairs i have determines whether or not i can have sex. i've tried ...
A. 2 June 2009: You could look for skin care products with AHA and/or glycolic acid in them. They promote skin shedding and so reduce your risk of ingrown hairs (and you only need to use them in the areas that you're shaving). Don't worry about getting the most ... (read in full...)
Worried about color, shape of "down there"
Q. hi, im 17 and this is quite embarrasing but im worried about down there, it seems to be quite big and the lips hang quite low,and im ideal weight, so its not fat or anything but im really embarrassed by it and i have a boyfriend and wont let him go ...
A. 2 June 2009: Sounds completely normal :) Your boyfriend is going to be happy that you're letting him go down there, he's not going to go down there and come straight back up again because of the size or shape of your genitals.
You're honestly normal, if you'v... (read in full...)
Is there anyone who can answer some questions about PCOS or PCOD?
Q. I was diagnosed with PCOS or PCOD not sure which is the correct verion they use since my doctor sucks and all i know about this is what i've learned from the internet which is not much. Um, so she decided to put me on the pill which I haven't ...
A. 2 June 2009: Exercise can help with PCOS because it makes you more sensitive to insulin (PCOS is can be caused by too much insulin causing an increase in testosterone production). Also, reducing your consumption of sugar and sugary foods could help. Diet is ... (read in full...)
He falls asleep before I'm done!
Q. Dear Cupid, My fiance' has fallen asleep several times while stimulating my clitorous, leaving me frustrated and angry. No matter how tired I am, if I start a hand job or blow job, even if he has to help me finish, I don't stop till he gets off...
A. 2 June 2009: Even if it's hard for you with whatever background you have, you need to communicate what you want to him. Communication is crucial for a satisfying sex life and for a successful relationship in general.
Men get very quickly tired after they org... (read in full...)
Is it worth trying to analyse a break-up?
Q. Is it worth trying to analyze a break-up? I literally just broke up with my boyfriend 2 hours ago and I know he and I won't be talking, seeing or emailing each other ever again. I don't understand what went wrong and why it all ended when we both ...
A. 2 June 2009: I think it's fine to analyse breakups, but for some people it becomes an obsession, forever dwelling on what could have been. From what you've said, I don't get why you broke up either. If he felt that way about you, surely he'd want you to stay... (read in full...)
I'm naturally quiet and he can't stand it, what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend thinks I'm too quiet when we're talking on the phone. We tend to text message a lot throughout the day and we talk on the phone at least once a day too, so my feelings are that by the time that we talk before bed it's normal to have ...
A. 2 June 2009: I think he just needs to learn to just be happy that you're on the other end of the line. I know with a lot of people, even though they're not always talking, when it's silent, they're just glad that their partner is there. I really think that the ... (read in full...)
Is there any way of finding a random stranger to do it with?
Q. my boyfriend has asked me to have a threesome and im fine with it cos ill try anything once but he wants me to ask one of my friends and im not really confortable with the idea of it being a friend so i was wondering is there any way of finding a ...
A. 2 June 2009: Do an internet search for "adult dating". Have you thought about what this could do to your relationship? Bringing another person into the bedroom can really complicate things.... (read in full...)
Why do I have stretch marks if I'm not growing?
Q. Why do I have strach marks in my chest area if i'm not growing quickly? I also have them on my inner thighs, really embarassing to waer a bathing suit anyway why I don't think i am growing there and is there a way to get rid of them?...
A. 2 June 2009: You may be growing, just not in a very noticeable way. During puberty, girls generally put on more fat all over their bodies, not loads in one place, just little its everywhere. That could have caused your stretch marks. It's also to do with ... (read in full...)
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