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writes:Okay, so basically, last night me and my boyfriend were messing around, i had my trowsers down but my top still on when my little sister who's only 12 walked in, we managed to sort ourselves out abit before she completley saw everything but i feel completley sick that she knows, not just on our half but mainly on hers. She knows about sex so it wasn't like she didn't know what we were doing, she just laughed slightly and walked out, when i went to comfront her i said sorry and it was basically okay, just a slightly embarrassing subject to talk about, but now things are arkward and i'm afraid she might tell my mum or someone else. I'm almost 16 (but not quite) my boyfriends 16 and we've been together 18month now so it was kind of expected. I don't want the whole lecture, I know what I did was wrong and we've deffienatley learnt out lesson from now. But what do I do about all the arkwardness? Should I just hope for the best or do something about it? Thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice given, it's given me a little more comfort now, she's not mensioned anything (yet) and the arkwardness is wearing off a little. No we're not having unprotected sex, we're safe and at the moment it's just the age that's the issue.
Anyways cheers, and oh to aunt "deliawood" i completley agree but there is no other hangout for us; or trust me, i'd be there in a shot rather than at home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): Just let it be- she knows what is going on, it happened, and now it's over with. I walked in on my sister and her boyfriend, and my sister didn't even talk to me about it! But they're married now and happy, so that's all that matters. There is much worse out there on television, movies, and the Internet nowadays, so try to not be so hard on yourself.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (14 September 2009):
 She is 12 and she will be thinking of other stuff soon. If you keep bringing it up then it is making an issue of something minor and may drag on. I would say that you should get a small lock for your bedroom door as you would probably not wish to be seen again and she may come in when you are getting dressed etc.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 September 2009):
 Just let it go, she'll forget about it sooner or later.
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reader, koenig +, writes (14 September 2009):
It's always awkward when someone walks in on you. I imagine it must be even worse if it's a younger sibling. It's happened now though, so try not to worry about it too much.In future, I'd suggest locking your door (if you can) or either put something in front of it or wedge it with something - it won't stop someone from discovering you or coming in, it will just make it a bit less awkward when they do because you'll have time to make yourself more... decent :PRight now though, I think you should just try to forget about this. If you keep thinking about it or going on about it you're going to make this into a bigger deal than it actually is.I'm not encouraging you to have sex under the age of 16, it's better to wait, even if just to prevent complications like this being such a big deal.P.S. Well done for actually being in a relatively long-term (other posters, 18 months is a long time for people around the ages of 16) and serious before having sex. Other than it being mildly illegal, it's a very healthy decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): You should be a role model for your sister. Having sex in your house is inexcusable. Find your own hangout.You will not stop having sex, I know. Most teenagers do, but that doesn't make it right. I would step up to the plate and talk to Mom. You should tell her what happened and apologize. Listen to whatever she tells you quietly. Are you having unprotected sex??? Don't risk it!!! Are you using birth control? If not, I would ask my mom to help me in getting some.
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