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writes:I was checking my emails this week (well, actually our emails, we have a shared email address, e.g. johnandjane at yourdomain.com) and got an email entitled "RE:Holidays"Nothing odd about that, you might say. I was expecting the content of it to be about our holiday booked as I'd asked our travel agent if they had any more info about the package - but the contents of the email were far more different than I expected.Far from being an innocent email, it was actually an email exchange between my husband and another guy called Tony saying "thanks for sending me photos of yourself in underwear, I'll send you some of me in mine along with some of my cock. Don't forget about the holiday we booked and meet me at the airport next Friday for our holiday together. Two weeks of hot fun!Love Tony xxx"I confronted him immediately and asked him what the hell it was all about, and he insisted Tony was just a friend but I said he's not, and asked my husband if he was gay/bisexual, but he insisted he isn't. My husband said he's met him a few times in secret since he spoke to him via a dating site.I'm furious. We've only been married 3 months and this happens! Not to mention that I'm pregnant too.He insisted to me he is going on holiday with this man.I don't know what to do - I could divorce him, but he's been a loving and caring man up until now who was so loyal and kind to me.Where do I go from here and what should I do?please help, Katherine
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): WOW...! I cant even imagine how you must feel right now, i am soo sorry! this man sounds like a complete ass! not only did you find his kinky email and he lied about it but, he also refuses to cancel there gay vay cay?! HELL NAH!
Personally i would pack my crap and head to the hills... but let his mom read the email before i went, but thats just me;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): katherine, whether your hb is loving and caring in the past doesn't matter. your hb is hooking up with another male and having sex with this man. is this what you want. is this what you want to subject your baby to? your hb is not faithful to you. have you considered what is going to happen if you contract a STD. why are you playing with your life and your babys. well he insisted that he is going on holiday with this man - meaning he is going out with another man, f*cking him and the hell with you. if you allow him this freedom what marraige do you have. why are you being so naive, you may be pregnant but certainly not helpless. pregnancy is a condition, not a sickness so please take the bull by the horns and put a stop to this sham. if you allow your hb all this, then you should not complain. you know what is going on, your hb is cheatig on you. you need to decide what your babys fate will be. you should not onyl consider yourself but your baby too. i think your baby should not be born into turmoil, deceit and betrayal.
you need to run, fast away from this cheater. if not, you will be pulled into his seedy world. you owe your baby the responsibility to do the right thing . your hb is messed up, the quicker you realise it, the better of you would be. plse take care of your self, baby and make good choices. plse do not stay in this marriage just becaasue your hb is nice. there are 3 or more people in your marriage. be careful, be very careful. warning bells.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Oh hell no. Tell him if he goes on holiday with this man your marriage is over. Two weeks of "hot fun" with some dude he met on a dating site? Is he serious? He is a cheater and a stupid one at that. And honey, if he was messaging people on a dating site and sending underwear pics he is not that loyal or kind.
I'm sorry that you are pregnant and in this messed up situation, but you can't tolerate this craziness.
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reader, koenig +, writes (29 June 2009):
Oh my God, what a shit.
I'm so so sorry...
Unfortunately, the signs are pretty clear. Your husband is gay. The fact that he's gay really isn't the issue. It's that he's cheating on you or imminently going to.
Get out while you still can. I know you're pregnant and that up until now he's been a good husband, but this won't work... I can't even begin to imagine how hard it is and will be for you to leave, but, somehow, I think you have to.
Before you get carried away though, try to make sure that the email is genuine and that there haven't been any misunderstandings. Your husbands explanations so far have been pathetic. I agree with the anonymous poster, a lot of things about this don't add up. I'm not saying you're lying or anything like that, but unless your husband is a complete idiot, this really doesn't make sense to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): Hi.......this sounds odd!
It sounds to me as though it would be the sort of thing you would get from a mate trying to wind you up and cause trouble! After all, why would your husband give a gay lover your shared email address?? He could have easily created another one to receive emails.
One thing i dont understand - your husband said he met him through a dating site?!...what was he doing on a dating site when married to you??
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): this does sound like your husband is gay im afraid or maybe he is just curious ,i think the two of you need to sit down and have a heart to heart try to be understanding it may be hard but remember he is embarresed if he is not addmitting it
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