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writes:hey just need a quick peice of advicei have relised that i have never cooked for my girlfriend and it is something i would like to do for her, she likes ittalian food.but how could i turn a night to cook for her into a romantic setting.i realy want to show that i have made a big effortcheers Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (25 June 2009):
 What to fix? Frutti di mare (seafood) Italian-style? You can't beat that. Spaghetti bolognese (meat sauce) or al pomodoro (tomato sauce)?And some "insalata" (salad)? Oh, I've got an idea! I like the background music idea, but I have a new one: Are you musically inclined? Why don't you personally serenade her? That's what I would do... if I had a boyfriend.
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reader, koenig +, writes (25 June 2009):
It kind of depends on the kind of thing that she likes, but I'll try to give some general advice that you can adapt.First of all, you need to decide whether you want cooking to be a bonding activity between you or whether you want it to be a 'sweep her off her feet' affair.If you want it to be a bonding activity, you could make something together (even if you did the bulk of the work before hand). For example, you could make a large pizza base and then together, you could decide what to put on top and do that together.If you want to just do it for her, then you'll probably want to go for something a little different.So, if you're just cooking for her, here are some tips. Do something slightly complex, but something that you know you can do, no one wants to eat cardboard. Limit you cooking while she's with you to about 30 minutes, get anything else done before. Also, try to do the messy things first so you can clear them up and not have them to think about after your meal (so do things like all of the chopping and peeling first). If you want her to know how hard you've worked, then having her in the kitchen would be a good idea - you can talk to each other while she watches you work.Personally, I'd make a main and a dessert. Be careful not to make the portions too big or too small, being bloated isn't romantic ;)Now let's talk atmosphere. Go for something conventional. Get a nice white table cloth, some candles (the long variety) for the middle of the table, maybe some appropriate flowers to put in vase or to give to her, some calm/romantic music that you can play quietly in the background. Have a really good clean up as well, make the room extremely tidy.You could run her a deep warm bath, put some essential oils in there (the nice smelling oils you get for aromatherapy), put candles round the outside (tea lights of the fat ones would be best), plenty of bubbles. This could be for before while you do most of the cooking.As for what happens afterwards, it's up to you what happens. All I would say is no TV, maybe go to bed early together. Also, when it comes to sex, it might be nice if you left it and let her initiate it if she wants to, otherwise it could almost look like the night was bribery for sex. Make the sex romantic if you have it, how you do that is really down to you.Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): Candles, romantic music, chilled champagne on ice and a few small gifts to give her during courses ie, a red rose, necklace, underwear;) ect, it depends on your budget really.Just don't try too hard as i'm sure the fact that you have cooked her a meal would be good enough.
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