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writes:I need help!!! I have a stepsister and she told me that when you love someone, you're scared to be with them, scared to know that somebody wants to be with you that you love, and I don't know what to believe. Is this true? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): Love is scary to a person that has been hurt or had they're heart broken...I am one of those people. I am very afraid of opening up to others, relationships and marriage. The fear of losing that person or having that person turn on you as time marches on is my problem. It's not that I can't be with one person or that I think the grass is greener on the other side. It's just a scary thing to give your heart, feelings, time and body to another person for fear that they may betray you. The betrayal is what I scared to death of...so scared that sometimes I think I may die an old maid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi...it's me!Ok, so I knew when I poted my question that my step-sister has bad experiences but I nevr thought that she would lie to me.She told me that she was just trying to help me not to get hurt the ways she ha in the past.I know it was in her best intention but I'm going to prove to her that all relationships aren't bad.I hope she finally starts trusting once more and I hope that I find someone that won't hurt me and that she will like him.Many thanks to both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): Your step sister sounds a raw one? What does she mean about being scared? You love them so much you cannot bear to think of a time when you are not with them. You love each minute that you are together, cherish it. Be with them as much as possible and no it is not scary. Forget these strange notions.
take care
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reader, Karlos Omnis +, writes (1 November 2007):
 I'm not quite sure what angle your stepsister is coming from.
When you truly love someone, you want to spend as much time with them as humanely possible, and I wouldn't say fear would factor in.
Perhaps she has just been hurt, and she's trying to protect you in her own way.
Sit down and have a talk with her as to why she believes this.
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