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writes:can somebody please tell me why people think sex is so paramount in a relationship. when u split, i find that family things are the most hurtfull once gone. sex is a physical release which can be so special with the person you love and not when it means nothing, then its just sex. strange that. help ARRRGH Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): Women don't really get it than men can completely separate sex & love. Men don't really get it that most women cannot.
I think both sides really need to own up to the truth about the other. Women need to accept some responsibility for their actions when they sleep with a guy; if he tells her it's not serious then they can't blame him for not being serious later. Men need to own up to the fact that if they sleep with a woman and don't make it perfectly clear that it's causal sex ahead of time, then the woman will feel like it should be serious.
There are exceptions with both genders. These are just generalizations about what goes on.
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reader, Karlos Omnis +, writes (29 October 2007):
 Because it's a closeness that is shared between two people and only those two people. Every other action can be shared with anyone.
Men see being wanted physically as being wanted emotionally as well.
That's why its important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): I have no idea. I don't find it important. I have lost my sex drive a few months ago. But I think it has to do with not getting what I need out of my relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry i should of said, i am male, not female.Why is it people pin so much emphasis on sex. Why is sex so important. Yet, when, after you split from someone, and have casual sex, it becomes clear that its not really so important as you thought? From a male or female point of view.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): Yes spot on. As soon as a person see's it as a recreation, then you got all the baggage that comes with it. By that I mean big relationship problems.Stick to your guns, there are still some of us out there.Rx
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (29 October 2007):
True. not trying to be sexist at all but i think that is because with most women they can't seperate there feelings with sex. ITs just the sensation you get with being wanted and that closeness is what gets us.No matter how hard you fight it some people just cant separte there feelings with sexThats why sex will always be seen as a big deal
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