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writes:I have known my bf for years, and have dated for a few months now. He beat me up pretty badly, all my xrays and catscans came back fine, but the police were called by the hospital and they want me to report it. i don't know what i should do, i don't want to report him because he has been my best friend up until this incident, yet i do because i know he deserves it as well as needs help. should i report him or not?
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (30 October 2007):
If you do not report him he will hit you again, and again, and again and again.
It will get worse and continue to do this until something gives - wreather you getting something a whole lot worse (maybe killed) or you defending yourself and ending up doing something you didn't mean to do (killing him).
By not reporting him you are effectively saying to him that it was alright for him to brutalise you in this sadistic way.
Report him - take him to court and give evidence against him.
Scum like this belongs behind bars where they cannot acost others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much for all the advice, I am going to report him tomorrow morning, i aprreciate all your help. thanks again:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): My older sister was being involved in a domestic violence from her boyfriend. she always lied to our family saying she had an acsident or made up stories, always covered up his back. why she's done it because she loved him. didnt want to be without him,she was afraid she would never find somebody else. now we know the truth about her relationship she recieved enough courage to leave her boyfriend, she became a different person. shes happy and free. shes not scared anymore and can stand up for herself. nobody deserves it so please report it or leave him. if a man lays a hand once, he will do it again. no matter what he says to you. this relationship aint worth the hasstle, the pain and anger. you only have one life. dont ruin it. live it to the full and enjoy every second of it. X
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reader, Karlos Omnis +, writes (29 October 2007):
 If you don't report this, he'll think he can get away with this sort of behaviour.
And if he believes he can escape this without punishment, what else will he consider?
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reader, kenny +, writes (29 October 2007):
 I think you should report it, and while your at it get out of this relationship while you can. He has beat you up once, so the likellhood is that he will do it again, and next time it could be worse. With wife/girlfrriend beaters invariably its not a one off beating, it normally happens again, so please get out now, and report this incident.Take care and good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): Your type of question makes me feel sick!!! I was married to a wife beater for a long time before i got away. Nail the bastard! Please.
take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): I would report him. He was your best friend up until this incident, but he is not anymore. With what he did to you, reporting him is justified. It might seem to you and to him that him beating you up is different from other kinds of abuse perpetuated by other people on other people, but its not. Both of you need to recognize this.
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reader, RNaunt  +, writes (29 October 2007):
hmmmm, a good question. i would probably report it. the fact that he could cause you some potentially serious injuries shows that this will not be a one time incident. if he doesn't do it again to you then he will do it again to another girl and i doubt that you'd want that either...
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