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My girlfriend always has to know WHY!!!!
Q. My girlfriend always has to know why. It seems like I can't ask her to do anything without her knowing why I want her to do it. For instance, we'll be walking along and I'll say stop (because I want the people behind us to pass us) and she'll k...
A. 19 May 2009: By the sounds of what you wrote you sound more like the controlling one. I hope that you have better examples then the stopping to let some people pass because it sounds like your over reacting. If someone asked you to jump for no reason would you ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to continue taking another pack (the third) of contraceptive pills without a break?
Q. Need your help please ladies!!! I was just wondering if anyone has continued taking their pack of contraceptive pills twice in a row therefore not having a period (7 day break) for two mouth running? Did you have any major side affects? I continu...
A. 16 July 2008: I've done it for about 3 months before and I had no side effects and I have also asked if it's a big deal where I see my doctor and they said just be sure not to do it all the time. I say go for it for your vacation but when at home take the 7 day ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I want a girl just for sex - confused and masturbating!
Q. I'm a 16 year old male, who has been masturbating for a year or two now, and one of my guy friends is going out with one of my girl friends. They're happy together for the most part, but sometimes he'll make her sad or they'll fight which I know ...
A. 14 July 2008: Deffinatly just tell her how you feel then.. but if it is just sex that you want, your going to turn out to be the bad guy. Also how is her boyfriend and ur friend going to take the news of ur feelings for her. Tell her what ur telling us!... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend only wants me for sexual stuff!
Q. I'm 14 and my boyfriend and I have been going out for a month and I started too really like him. A couple weeks ago he asked for head and I gave it to him but yesterday he asked me again and he asked to see my boobs. I said no but I feel like thi...
A. 14 July 2008: Yes, get rid of him, his track record sucks and your friends don't like him for a reason and I assume it's this reason. He's a loser. Leave him. Plus your to young for sex... and you want it to be with sumone that you "know" loves you. ... (read in full...)
Seriously - Would you cheat with a celebrity if it was safe?
Q. i need serious answers. Married or single women - if you could sleep with any hot celebrity you wanted to and there was no way in the world you could get caught would you cheat on your husband or boyfriend? Serious answers only please....
A. 14 July 2008: This of corse depends on the women and the seriousness of the relationship that shes in when offered the sex with the celebirty... and you can't judge your lady on our anwsers....
If I were married and completely happee then I don't forsee m... (read in full...)
How do I masturbate properly?
Q. Hello All! I'm a 15 year old with a question to ask. I was reading about masturbation a while ago and I want to try it myself. However, can someone explain how, in depth you "do it". Plus,I don't have any lube or anything and I don't particu...
A. 14 July 2008: So anal masterbation... start with sumthing small like the tooth brush and go slow and gental.. it can hurt at first until' ur use to it but becare you can cause damage up there and infection....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to move in but won't get engaged!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. He’s 27 and I’m 25. We love each other and we both know that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. We currently don’t live together because we live 2 hours away and have our own careers ...
A. 14 July 2008: It sounds like yuor caring to much about what your family and friends think and just letting his feeling float under undetected. He's just not ready for a commitment bigger then moving in together. Try the moving in together and see where that goes. ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I want a girl just for sex - confused and masturbating!
Q. I'm a 16 year old male, who has been masturbating for a year or two now, and one of my guy friends is going out with one of my girl friends. They're happy together for the most part, but sometimes he'll make her sad or they'll fight which I know ...
A. 14 July 2008: Just wait it out and see how you feel... because she does not need to go from a bad relationship with ur freind to a just secxual based relationship with you. You need to just be her friend and friend only right now.
Consdier dating around w... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 14 July 2008: He sounds like a horriable guy and it has nothing to do with is age. He isnt considering you or your feelings at all. You do not want kida with this man. He's contolling and if sounds like he raping you if your saying no and he holds you down. Get ... (read in full...)
Is there a quick way to stop periods?
Q. Hey :) Is there any quick way of stopping periods? I've heard that lots of fluids and exercise do it. Is there any other way? Thanks :))...
A. 14 July 2008: Doing this is very unhealthy and the fluids won't do anything, but excessive exerice will and lots of stress will stop them... in some cases... but even trying to stop them is silly, there suppose to come. Can I ask why your trying to stop them? I ... (read in full...)
How do I masturbate properly?
Q. Hello All! I'm a 15 year old with a question to ask. I was reading about masturbation a while ago and I want to try it myself. However, can someone explain how, in depth you "do it". Plus,I don't have any lube or anything and I don't particu...
A. 14 July 2008: Slivia is fine, its a commen lub for lots of couples. Also you don't have to put something in your but to masterbate, but if you want to try it go ahead, but wash it incase of infections and be careful tearing can happen and there can be blood and ... (read in full...)
When and how should I come out of the closet?
Q. I'm gay and only 13. Here is my situation. I go to a catholic school. My dad is an uber republican. All of my family is super religious(christian), as are my aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, grandparents. I live in a community where a lot ...
A. 14 July 2008: You will know when coming out is right for you. Make sure that your really homosexual before you deside to create all that drama of coming out. Your young this may just be a phase, but consider finding chats and blogs on coming out. Comeing out to ... (read in full...)
My GF is on contraception injection and bleeding all the time!
Q. my gf is on the contraception injection that you take every 3 months. It goes in the bottom! She`s on her second injection now and her third one is coming up soon. Ever since she has started taking this injection our sex life has died because ...
A. 14 July 2008: This is very bad, she needs to see her doctor and be put on a new method of birth control... this injection sounds like the depto shot, but has been known to cause lots of problem like excessive bleeding or none at all, along with weight gain and ... (read in full...)
When will my periods start? Brown discharge!
Q. Hello, I am 14 and have had a discharge and pubic hair for about 2 years now and I am 10 stone. My boobs are small but so are most others in my family. I haven't started my periods yet but today I got a heavy brown discharge! It doesn't smell or...
A. 14 July 2008: You deffinatly need to talk to your mom or an adult because yes it does sound like your period but you now need to start your womanly doctors visits.
Congrats your a woman.. now life gets crappie! lol... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex when seven months pregnant?
Q. I am 7months pregnant. Is it safe to have sex?...
A. 14 July 2008: I'm almost 9 months pregnant!
Assuming that all has gone will in your pregnancy so far and that you and baby are in fine health then yes it's perfectly okay to have sex, but laying on your back for a long period of time with weight (ur partner ... (read in full...)
Can a 16 year old date a 30 year old legally?
Q. When you're 16, can you go out with a 30 year old or older without getting into trouble with police??...
A. 14 July 2008: Thats very wrong here in the USA and he would go to jail because you are still considered a child and he is an adult and he would go to jail for rape. What can a 30 year old man see in a 16 year old girl?
Hunnie, I know you want to believe ... (read in full...)
My wife told me she would cheat on me with George Clooney if she had the chance!!!
Q. Guys, would it bother you a lot if this happened to you? My wife and I were watching tv last night where a woman was asked a question, if George Clooney asked her to have sex with her and there was no way she could get caught would she cheat on her ...
A. 14 July 2008: GREAT anwser TasteofIndia, Celebs are just that, for looking at and fantsing over.
I think that this husband is being alittle over dramatic and that he as well must have a celeb that he would consider sleeping with, but it's just that somethin... (read in full...)
14 years old and have a 14.1cm penis... bad???
Q. Hey,well so I'm 14 years old and my penis is currently 14.1cm's. And I'm Asian [Vietnamese], I've heard the Asians tend to have a more smaller penis than other races, so I'm wondering if this is really small? will it get any bigger? The...
A. 14 July 2008: Great second paragraph Danielepew, I completely agree.
But as for where you stated that genes do not matter, well there are proven studies that genes do count when it comes to size. It has been proven that the size of your penis is based on your ... (read in full...)
He has bad breath!
Q. my boyfriend has really bad breath but i dont know how to tell him this? i mean we kiss alot and i try not 2 because of it what do i do? ...
A. 14 July 2008: Well if he's your boyfriend then you should feel plenty comfortable about mentioning it to him. It's not like your telling him you don't love him. Just be like, "wow, is today a bad breath day or what have you eatten today OMG."
If he loves yo... (read in full...)
New to christianity..so is it wrong to masturbate to porn?
Q. Hi everyone, I have a simple question to ask. I'm new to Christianity and was wondering if it is wrong to masturbate or to watch porn? I want to know because I do both of these regularly and it has been eating me up inside and I don't have ...
A. 14 July 2008: God, would not have made the orgasum if he didn't want you to have it! lol
Your young enjoy your youth while you can, you will not go to hell if you masterbate! I'm also Christian and have had plenty of self-intuceded orgasums, with and with out... (read in full...)
Unexpected pregnancy when I only know him for 6 weeks, he'd respect my decision but I can tell he would prefer abortion, help?!
Q. I have been dating a really great guy for 6 weeks. We are both in our 30's and divorced and we are both making decent money. He has a child and I have children. We have had a wonderful time together and are very compatible so far. My youngest ...
A. 13 July 2008: To begin, I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant with a mans babys that I weren't even dating. I was leaning towards abortion in the begin but ultimatly I knew that I would never be okay with it and I would always regret it. I'm almost 21 and it was a huge shock ... (read in full...)
Why was my girlfriend so upset???
Q. hi everyone I need some insight as to something that happened. Today I had my girlfriend over and I was (for lack of a better term) fingering her, and everything was going fine until she said something felt weird. She wasn't sure what happend and...
A. 4 November 2007: Okay, so yes there is a possibablty that it could be a bladder or yeast infection but nither of which will indanger her from having kids, and both are very normal for women to get, its not a sign of anything bad... see just needs to talk to a dr. if ... (read in full...)
I have to see her everyday, but afraid to get rejected.
Q. i go to the sports centre everyday and see this beautiful girl workin at the reception. I really fancy her. I've spoken to her about twice just sortin my account out and jokin around with her. She calls me names for a joke. Everytime i walk in ...
A. 4 November 2007: I think that passing her a note would be appoirate for this situation and your age. She does seem to be flirting back with you; hence the calling you cute names! Address the note with her name, (I hope that you at least know her name)then mention ... (read in full...)
I have a question and it's very delicate to me....
Q. hello. I have a really weird question to ask and I hope it gets posted. Here goes... I really need some advice with regards to a gay situation, I am male and I'd really like the advice of a "gay agony aunt" or someone that knows how hard and scar...
A. 18 April 2006: Hey Hun, you don't really state much about what u need advice on but I'm more then willing to listen. I have a quite a few gay friends and love them to death actully i think i love them more then my straight ones. But if this is about you cumming ... (read in full...)
Is she stringing me along? How can I take back control of this unequal relationship?
Q. Hi, I've just recently been dumped by my girlfriend of 6 months, who I am madly in love with. Our relationship has sort of been one-sided with her always being the one who was in control of us staying together. From the beginning she was very busy ...
A. 13 March 2006: Dear Male Reader,
I feel so bad that you have to go though this. It must be horriable to love sumone and no fully get it back. I just gave the same words ur g/f gave you to my b/f and basically told him that I loved him but was not him love wit... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I'm sexually adventurous enough for my boyfriend!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now (but we have been friends for about a year before) and things are going great, but I am afraid that I am not open enough sexually for him. I have never had a problem experimenting or giving o...
A. 31 July 2005: I've been with my hunny for almost 8 months now and I'm just opening up to him sexually. We have had sex and talked about it and all but i never felt quite okay with him till just this week give it time u'll open up soon and thing will be fine... ... (read in full...)
I can only have an orgasm when I'm masturbating or during oral sex...
Q. I am a 17 years old female and I have had sex in the past and recently but I have a problem with having an orgasm. The only way I know I am cumming/have a orgasm is when I am receiving oral sex or when masturbating. My partner have told me many ...
A. 30 July 2005: This is Jess18Maine again and I just learned some new things meself, because I'm also 17 and not the experienced, but I found this to be intresting so I thought you might too. I was reading a question the anwsers and found some stuff on orgasms ... (read in full...)
My wife only goes through the motions of sex to "keep me happy", but it doesn't!
Q. I have a reasonably high sex drive but my wife seems to have lost hers. I am 45, she is 39 and we have been together for 8 years. She admits she has lost it and only goes through the motions to try and keep me happy but it doesn't....
A. 30 July 2005: Wow, I think all you can do is wait her out and hope her drive comes back real soon, maybe if she stops having sex completely she'll become to want it more. dont have sex with her till she wants to. U'll just have to have fun on ur own for awhile. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is getting advice I think is misguided and now her attitude seems to be changing!
Q. Some 2 months ago, after much conflict between myself and my girlfriend's teenage son, we thought it was best that I move out of the home so that we could all get some space so that we could work thru our issues. Since then, my girlfriend has said...
A. 30 July 2005: Talk to her, tell her your still intrested in her, and that whatever happened with her son and you that you want to fix, it because you should want to fix it, remember your not his dad all you can be is his friend, u have nothing to do with his ... (read in full...)
Never took the chance with the girl when I could have. Can't help thinking "what if...?"
Q. I fell in love with a girl a few years ago, she knew I liked her a lot, and we were good friends. I felt she liked me a little too, but she was with a guy, and she was happy with him. One day she came in upset, crying her eyes out; her boyfriend ...
A. 30 July 2005: I think writing to her as an old friend is a great idea, do it and don't think about it, but don't mention your feelings for her unless you feel like you must. Wait for her to reply to the letter as friends, to see if she still wants to be your ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 3 months dumped me 'cause there was no spark. Is there nothing I can do?
Q. Hi there, I'm a 25 year old male, and at the start of this week my girlfriend (21) broke up with me. We'd been going out for nearly 3 months but it had felt like a lot longer. Both of us had talked quite a lot about the future and both of us had f...
A. 30 July 2005: The only thing to do is be her friend. Maybe your right she just needs time to see what she's missing,(you). You need to just leave the subject you you two closed untill she wants to open just mkae her aware that you still have feelings for her and ... (read in full...)
The problems I've been seeing with my family have made me lose faith in relationships of any kind...
Q. Hi, I am a 23 yrs old male. I feel my relationship with my family has shattered and I see no point of reconciliation. It all started when my family went through a bad face when my brother's engagement broke up. It was nightmare for my brother...
A. 30 July 2005: Don't ever lose faith in love hun! Well you did not really let on to what happened with you brother and this girl but I don't thing what happen has anything to do with your parents and theres sons relationships should not get them all worked up and ... (read in full...)
I can only have an orgasm when I'm masturbating or during oral sex...
Q. I am a 17 years old female and I have had sex in the past and recently but I have a problem with having an orgasm. The only way I know I am cumming/have a orgasm is when I am receiving oral sex or when masturbating. My partner have told me many ...
A. 30 July 2005: First of all, there are lots of women that can't orgasm through intercorse and thats normal. Also it's possiable too cum and not orgasm as well. I think what he's feeling is just your pre-cum which is what cums out when you get arroused, of corse ... (read in full...)
I'm her "first everything", so she broke up, saying she wanted to explore with other guys!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. It is the best relationship I have ever been in. We both love each other very much, and constantly express it. The connection and memories we have are awesome. Her family embraces me as ...
A. 30 July 2005: Wow, I'm sorry about you'r girlfriend. It sounds as though she is insecury about her love for you, but if she knew for sure then she would stuck w/ you, but she's not and she's out there looking to see if theres any better, shes not satisfyed with ... (read in full...)
How important is physical attraction in a marriage?
Q. I have been married for just a few months. I am not attracted to my wife. We are great friends. Our personality matches. We support each other. However the physical attraction is just not there for me. It is not that she is not an attracti...
A. 29 July 2005: I have no idea what you were thinking when you married her. If everythigns not there for you then you should not have married her. You need to get over the fact that shes not Miss. America and love her for who she is; or let her move on without you ... (read in full...)
When he's sober, things are really, really good...
Q. My boyfriend and I have known each other for about 6 years.We would get together every now and then to have a few drinks.We always ended up staying the night together then the next morning we went our seperate ways. He knew everything about my relat...
A. 29 July 2005: Hey Hun,
I agree it sounds as though the problem is his drinking. You need to tell him, that it's is drinking or you, and if he does not pick you then, i guess his drinking is more important. Don't let his drinking rule your relationship any long... (read in full...)
Does he fancy me? Am I in love with him?
Q. Hi, I have been going to school with this lad that I fancy for quite a while. He has been going out with this girl, On and off. She dumped him as she says he is boring then asks him out again, He always says Yes. I really fancy him and can't st...
A. 28 July 2005: Okay Hun, Here's what I got to say:
I have always thought that if your not sure if your in love then your not, when your in love you will know for sure, there will be no doubt in you mind.
I think you may love the thought of him, because you have... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting my girlfriend to get rid of old romantic keepsakes?
Q. I was watching my girlfriend cleaning out her closet/junk drawer and I happen to notice some things. Things like old pictures, cards, and letter from ex-boyfriends that she still keeps. I can't say I don't care but it is bothering me. The way I see ...
A. 28 July 2005: I have teddy-bears, cards, love letters, dryed flowers and movie stubs all in one shoe box. I don't think i could part with that box if I tryed. I have been with Eric my new boyfriend for 8 months and I even have stuff from him in the box. It's just ... (read in full...)
He's 23 and I'm 16, but I think my parents would approve. How do I get to know him?
Q. I am 16 years old and I have a crush on a 23 year old guy. I know my parents would agree with the relationship. He plays for my local football team and I talk to him after every game but I don't know whether I should tell him that I like him or how ...
A. 28 July 2005: Hey Hun,
I feel connected to you alreaddy. I'm 17 and my b/f is 24! Same thing as you adn this guy but my b/f and I are just older by a year each! Don't let the age be a problem, exspecially if your parents will be cool with him. Just like that othe... (read in full...)
Can you fall in love with someone over the phone?
Q. Is it possible to fall in love with someone you havent met in person yet?? I feel I have fell in love with my soulmate! We talk on the phone all the time but with our schedules not meeting up is the only thing that is keeping us apart! Not to me...
A. 28 July 2005: Yes Hun, falling in love is possiable over the phone. I meet my man online and we talked on the phone and computer for 8 months. We have exchanged pictues, gifts, letters, my family knows about him, his family knows about me. I love him, I have ... (read in full...)
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