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writes: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now (but we have been friends for about a year before) and things are going great, but I am afraid that I am not open enough sexually for him. I have never had a problem experimenting or giving oral sex or trying different positions before but there is something stopping me from doing all this. I do not feel self concious and he is always telling me how beautiful I am, but I just get shy with him and I dont know why. Is there any explanation? Are there any things that I can try to help ease my mind and help me be more experimental?
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reader, jess18maine  +, writes (31 July 2005):
 I've been with my hunny for almost 8 months now and I'm just opening up to him sexually. We have had sex and talked about it and all but i never felt quite okay with him till just this week give it time u'll open up soon and thing will be fine... just try... and tell him how you feel about everything. Talk to him, thats all.. the more u talk the more comfortable with will be. Good luck hun
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2005): Sweetheart. I have two pieces of advice for you...you have to choose which one you feel strongly for k. One is this..you see a woman's intuition...trust it like you trust your big toe to keep you balanced! It is the strongest confirmation tool a woman has. If you are feeling strange or uncomfortable...trust it and take it slow. Three months in my opinion is not long enough for ME to trust someone to be all adventurous and stuff with. I will say I think you are opening up yourself too soon.
On the second hand...the other piece of advice is this...talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him your fears and that you feel you are letting him down sexually. Ask him if it bothers him. Be honest. Shyness is not a bad thing. It is just how you are. Better to be shy I say than a raging sex maniac and give the boy the wrong impression. Just talk to him and relax. Maybe you guys can play silly love games to ease into the mood or something. But please take your time. Sex is so emotional for women...make sure you are comfortable in all that you do and don't do anything because he wants you to. Make sure you want to do it. Take care sweetie...ana
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