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writes: Hi, I have been going to school with this lad that I fancy for quite a while. He has been going out with this girl, On and off. She dumped him as she says he is boring then asks him out again, He always says Yes. I really fancy him and can't stand him going out with this girl. Am I in Love? Why can't he see sense? People have also told him I fancy him. I think he may fancy me as I always see him looking at me. I think he is scared of saying he fancies me and asking me out as one of his Best Mates really really fancies me as he has bought me loads of presents and I have always said No.PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Auntyant  +, writes (16 October 2015):
You should try practising on your friends or even a mirror, just simply asking the person out and gain more confidence for the real thing. You should just relax and take your time, dont rush! Just text him and start it off with hi or even ask him a simple question for example: do you like the band slipknot? This type of question is a real icebreaker and is a good way to get the conversation started. Once you are ready just relax, as it is easier as anticipated. Just think about how little and easy it is asking him, the only reason you are nervous is because you are expecting the worst! You have to think positive, because that is the only way. Play some loud music to get you in a happy mood and just ask him, trust me you wont even you have done it! If he rejects you just answer with a simple "okay" and walk away, if this is done in text just even say ok and carry on the conversation by saying wuu2 or something like that. Because it isnt the end of the world and it is easier to move on then ask him out! Good luck xx
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reader, CoDz +, writes (25 June 2010):
Well, i think he does fancy you if he is always looking at you. i think you should just go with the flow, and if he does want to ask you out then he will when the time is right.xxxxxxxxxx from codie
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): hey well i had the same problem and they always seem to act like they like you and my mate - ryan always was so friendly and i reali fancied him after we came best mates n i said to him i fancie you and he just said o kwl i think ur pretty to ill think about it if he says no then just sa ycan we be mates tho it may seem awakward at first but ull be alright in the end xxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): Ok girls ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!
God knows im not an expert on male female interactions but sod it ive been where some of you people are and have gotten through it and become a less obsessed freak!
If you've met up with this guy then you will have noticed his body language:
He likes you if:
a) Eyebrow 'Flash' - when you look at him his eyebrows will jerk up and then back down, or he'll have a suprised look during a conversation
b)his lips part slightly - this usually happens when eye contact first occurs
c)wide eyes or nostril flare - makes his face seem more masculine and open
d) he'll try to attract your attention
e) he'll clean himself - this is to make himself seem more attractive and to call attention to himself
f) he'll flex his muscles - not obviously but he'll stand tightly so all his muscles stand out to make him seem more macho
g)he lets you see him oogle you - lets face it, when he first saw you he already had a secret gaze at your face and body, but if he lets you see him do it means he's considering you, but only for sex!
h) he'll stand with his hands on hips or while sitting spread his legs - i hate to say it but another sexual sign, means attention is drawn to his crotch
i) he'll play with buttons on his jacket - this is an unconcious desire to remove clothes or that you make him nervous
j) he touches his face a lot while looking at you - this is either preening or nervous excitment. his mouth will be touched more drawing attention to it and the fact that he wants you to kiss him
k) he'll lean towards you
l) his feet will point towards you when standing
m) he'll constantly touch you or guid you - this is him puttin his hand on your arm while you talk or him taking your arm and leading you down the street
n)he'll lend you his coat - its an ownership gesture it says 'whats mine is yours' plus he has to hang around to get it back, and when he does it'll smell of you!
He probably wont be doing all those things but a few will stand out and that is how you can tell body language wise if he likes you, and lets face it, body language doesnt lie!!
as with what he says, well that is a different side, its not what he says but how he says it:
a guy calling you 'beautiful' could be him tryin to seduce you or him paying you and actual compliment because he thinks your wonderful! with what he says you have to figure it out by yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): hey,
This will probably sound very cliche but the only way to get answers is to be honest with him, and to talk to him. If a guy fancies a girl one of the main signs is looking at her constantly, so you may be in with a chance. He may not have asked you out because he might not be sure whether what he has been told about your feelings towards him are true, and he may also really like his on again off again girl friend. The best solution is to tell him how you feel, yes its scary and its difficult but if you really like him you'll take the risk of rejection.
hope this helps :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): Hey hunni,
my advice 2 u is 2 b urself.
only speak 2 him about it if your heart says so. theres nothin worse than doin somethin u regret.
if he says no who cares theres plenty more fish in the sea!lol!!!
Plus wat hav u got 2 lose hes the 1 missin out on hvin a girlfriend whos really into him.GOODLUCK!!!
Remeber wateva ur heart says u no is the right way 2 go!!!
P.S. I no i hav already put some advice dowm but believe me hunne this is much better as its comin from my heart 2 help urs
LUV EZ xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): If u really fancy him,then i think u should talk 2 him and just sort things out wiv him. u need 2 get ur feelins staight wiv him wise u could be stuk in this situation 4eva. as long as u b urself the right way through wateva happens least u tried and its better tryin than nothin.
Luv Becks
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): Think about this. Are you wasting your life on this guy? Are you focused or are you losing focus in your studies because of him? I had a similar problem. I liked this guy to the point where I was devoting so much time to him, and he was still going out with another girl! I started neglecting my studies, and starting failing. In the end, I realized that this guy was not worth it. It took me so long to figure this out that I was mad at myself for spending that much time on him. If you think you may actually have a chance with this guy, go for it! As for his best mate, if you like him, give him a chance!!! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): If you love this guy you should be able 2 wait for him and if he doesn't feel the same way you can't force anyone to fall in love as such. He's not good enough for you if he can't see how much you like him! So you might just need 2 move onSoz xxx Ez
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): if he does fancy u wait until he tells u properly as u dont want 2 make a fool of urself! If u love someone u should b able to wait 4 them 4evr! xx good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): I totally agre except the boy i really like was going out with my best friend but she dumped him twice and he asked another one of my friends some weeks after.She hasn't said yes....yes,and i was quit jellous i really like him.At the moment i'm just going with the flo
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): hey im a girl and a teenager and i had the same problem.
It was really hard for me because i really did fancie him and the girl he kept going back to was a real slut.
my advice and what i did is to wait until they split again then ask if he wants to come to town with you or meet up then this is the hard part tell him openly and onestly how you feel then ask if he feels the same way.
its stuff but it got me with the guy i am today ive now been dating him for 6 mounths try it and u never know u cud be in the same situation as me
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): Sounds like infatuation rather than love. I know this reply is slightly late but I went through a same kind of thing. Just enjoy the way he makes you feel at the moment it is so nice to like someone in that way. :) Very Happy for you!
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reader, hOlli +, writes (30 December 2007):
i think you should discuss this with him, and dont get jealous as it may make matters worse.
just talk calmly to him about it and dont get aggressive.
this may help, if not turn to your school welfare or nurse..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): I don't really understand your problem, because I think that you could succeed if you asked him for help on homework. Maybe you're too shy, but don't be. First try to become friends with him, if you aren't. Then after a while, if you see that he fancies you, stick with it. And girl, get your man!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007): just follow your heart he might be the one you never know
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): First are you friends with him??
Because when I went up into a new school I wanted to be with my guy bestfriends alot coz alot of girls kept asking them out and I thought I fancied them.
If you genrelly dont know him alot it means you've got a crush on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): erm.....i dnt no coz im 11 lol but i think u should tell your crushes m8 that you dont facy him and you want to go out with the othe guy kk trust moi
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): hi, I have a boyfriend and he was hard to get but im going out with him.You could get one of your frinds to ask him for you, or mabye you could go and ask him yourself but do it after school that is what i did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2007): hi, he does fancy you, he maybe taking the easy option and saying yes to the other lass as there is no one eles. give him the option. ask him
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): I thik you should ask him what he thinks of you, like does he fancy you and think your pretty and then if he says yes tell his friend that you dont fancy him and can he leave you alone because your'll never go out with him( but brake it down slowley.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): i'd say let the lad now that you fancy him as he may not take the hint from your friends occasionally flirt and tlk about things you both like. Get his adi or his number that will get things moving in the direction you want. Let his mate down gently and tell him you like someone else he will get over it in time. If he keeps looking at you look back and wink he will like the attention that your giving him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): Theirs this boy that i know for all my life and his 18/19 and at my borhter 18 he started to look at me and when i looked at him he looked away the he smiled and then stop we both had a lil drink but not alot we still knew what we was doing and this all started to happened when we was sing to song and but i think we meet eye to eye.And when i was down cosham i shout hi and waved to him and he did the same back to but then as we was walking on the other side of the raod he keeped looking over at me and i was with my mate and he was with his dad. But i am not sore if he like me so could you help me and tell me if he does like me????
but now i have a crush on him but i dont realy see him no more no realy but i realy realy very like him and i dont know if he feels the same towands me ??????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): Hiya theres this one boy at school who i am really close mates with but i fancy him like mad i don't know why he isn't fit or anything i think i just like him for who he is, hes funny, kind etc, about 2 week ago one of my best mates told him that i fancied him but he didn't believe her so he started asking me questions and eventually i told him that i fancy him we are still really good mates and get on really well its just i think he might like me as more than a friend too i have seen him looking at me quite alot since he found out how i felt about him but as soon as i look at him he looks away :'( i just don't know what to do i actually think i love him, please HELP! if anyone has any advice for me please say something :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): hey
i have to same prob but he flirts with me and it make me love him more and more
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): Ok so I Love this Guy I Know I'm inlove but I dont know if he fancys Me. I go to a club on a Monday Night and He's there were friends but I Fell for him he once Called me baby gil but one Question why did he call me Baby girl ? can anyone help me with that stitch ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): I think this boy may actually fancy you, and i think your right he is sc ared of telling you. it maybe that he keeps going back to this girl because he finds security in her as he has bin out with her more than once, although it might not seem right to you this boy is definately holding back because of his mate, girls and boys are not so different and if a close girl mate of yours really fancied someone you had a chance with would you hold back and run away to somewhere secure?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): look its obvious that this guy is still into his girlfriend coz as soon as she clicks her fingers he goes running back. maybe he does like you but you can't think like that you have to think realistically, if he liked you wouldn't he have made a move by now? would he have gone back with his girlfriend?are you sure he was looking at you because he liked you or was he looking at you because you kept looking at him?! its not love its just a crush. i really hope all goes well with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): Well if this boy has got a girl friend then he must have some feelings for her, however it sounds to me like he likes you because if a lad likes you he cannot keep his eyes off you on the other hand what people carnt have they normally want more so you may have such stronge feelings for him because he is untouchable but it does sound like he fancies you babes so when the time is right make your move.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): I know exactly how you feel. I was, and still am, in the situation that you mentioned. It was annoying at first because he and his mates seemed to avoid me. But then he started chatting to me and now we are okay mates.
When your Mr. Perfect isn't going out with the cow, ask him to talk in private when his mates aren't looking; you will never live it down if they are! Then tell him that you do like him, and that is that girl really worth your time?
Thats the best I can do! =P Lol x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007): girl slap that cow she is being nasty, sounds like she is messing him round and dsnt respect this poor lad. cant he c that someone decent actually likes him just tell him how you feel and he may tell you, just give it a try!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): thats the same as me there is a lad at my school i really like but he likes this other girl and i always see him lookin at me. i think he likes you but you have to put yourself out there beacause you will never know otherwise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2007): aw babe im sorry. if he keeps going back out with this girl it sounds as if he loves her, why else would you take someone back who keeps dumping you, which is embarresing, by the way! you wouldnt unless she was special to him. if you have been going out with someone for a while, you get attached, guys fall deeper than girls believe it or not. he still has feelings for her even though she treats him bad.you may think you love him but in reality its infatuation. its safe to look and admire from afar. I know that sounds easier than it is but believe me, if you cant though, you can try to become his friend. talk to him alot and eventually he'll trust you. you can be there as a shoulder when he needs you, beacuse he wont tell his guy friends hes hurting. itll take months for him to be that close to you though but you say he's worth it. maybe something will develop from the friendship but hes not just going to ask you out and you need to realise that. i know it hurts but you have to know that. if he really wanted to be with you, he would. im sorry hun. i know how hard it is but as soon as you accept it, youll be better off. you cant make someone like you. but theres a match out there for everyone, so just wait for that special guy who will love you as much as you love him, and who will treat you well, hold your hand in public and who will introduce you to all his mates by saying -'this is her!'you'll be okay in the end.i promise.oh and if you do end up going out with him he has been hurt enough, so treat him right and with respect coz after time its easy to lose it. but thats what will make you the one he'll love xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2007): hey
this has been happin with me to i like this boy and he looks at me and then i look at him nd stuff lol i think dat u shuld ask him out and if he says no just say ok nd stuff yeye?... ok cyaxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): hm.. well. ive been going through the same proble
m.... and its really annoying because it seems like he likes you but hes going out with someone else...
ive tried to live with it but i cant.. i really like this guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): i think that if he does fancy you, he is not comitted enough. he shouldnt care what his friends think. also, he probably is only saying yes to the girl who is asking him out because he is desperate or thinks she is popular and will do him well.
my advice is too find a better guy who will fancy you and express his feelings no matter what anyone else thinks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): hey...this has been happening with me aswell...just tell him how you feel he can either say yes i like you to or no i think we hsould just be friends...so really you dont have anything to lose!
honestly it really works!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): your problem is the excate same as myn but i just cnt tlk to the lad i like but he no's i fancy him. and his best mate fancies me.!
what i do is get along with his best mate reali well and its helps me confidence to grow and slowly get closer to him.
It may seem tht im using his mate but im not because it make his mate happy coz he gets it spend time with me.
so in the end were all happy.
im now going out with the lad ive fancied for 2 years !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2007): you should start talking to him and be freindly without making it to obvious that you really like him. see how he reacts to you. if he keeps talking to you, let your realashonship become stronger and start dropping hints to him. it will be obvious how he feels after that. if he doesnt seem to interested, maybe you should give his freind a chance, theres no point in wanting someone who doesnt want you! if when you talk to him he seems a bit shy, try and get him to feel confortable with you and let your realashonship build. this girl probly doesnt really like him if she keps dumping him, ans once he see's how nice you are he might just ask you out! if he doest seem bothered move on, afterall, he's the one missing out! i hope this answer was helpful, good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): well i think first you should become really close friends with him and that way he will get to know you and start to like you it will turn into love he won't say yes to the girl he's seeing (obviously they're relationship isn't working out) and tell him that you don't fancy his best mate things will calm down and soon you will be like to love birds meant to be xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): this is quite difficult. it sounds like he's madly smitten with this girl, but shes always screwing with him, i would suggest becoming friends with him first then talk to him more, show him youre interested. dont let your friends tell him you fancy him, tell him yourself. hes prolly wondering if your freinds r actualy telling the truth. show him you like him. as for his friend, tell him that youre not interested, but you really like him as a friend. let him donw gently, dont be mean
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006): you should write him secret messages. that way hell stop going out with the other girl so he can find out who fancies him. then invite him to go somewhere with you and if he says n then say good but your frends wanted to know if he fancies you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006): Hey
I think you should go for it, find him when he is alone! Then just ask him if its true if he fancies you and if he does the you know what t do......
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2006): I had a problem similar 2 that myself, i reli fancyed a lad and den he got a girlfriend. I was so annoyed but i got a m8 2 tlk 2 im and he dumped her 4 me! I no it sounds unrealistic but i didnt belive it wud wrk 4 me but it did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2006): tell him the truth he might only be going out with her because he doesnt no that u fancy him or that he deserves better if u dnt wanna tell him say to him if i asked u out wot would u say coz i might just perfere being mates
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2006): Well I think you should talk to him because you are never going to know the truth otherwise. Don't get anyone else to do it because he won't tell them what he will tell you. And also tell him how you really feel because then at least he knows and you never know, so good luck! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): omg dis is so weird ok i reli like dis lad aswel he but he is about 2 ask dis uda gal out nd im like shit so in skool i alway stare at gim nd he turns around agen nd agen i tld him on messanger i liked him . in skool he wave nd smiled but naw sum1 has td me he blocked me on messanger but i was speakin f9 wid him 2day fckin hell i h9 crushes :'(
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2006): Listen, Honey, you are better than this. If he keeps going back to this chick, then his intentions obviously lie elsewhere. Look at the facts - you say everybody has told you he fancies you, but he still hasn't made the move. His best mate sounds like the a really nice guy- why don't you give him a chance? Think of all the presents! If this other guy you like really does have a crush on you, it will make him jealous and then you can have the pick of the bunch!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2006): well if i was you i would go for the man who keeps asking you out cause if you are still wait around for this boy dont cause that was the mistake and he never came so he will hurt you so show him what he is missing this other guy adores you so i say go for it and show that other what he is missing xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): yeh mee too i fanci a guy in my classs hes always lokin my wayand today he asked me for an arm wrestle i was well chuffed. but i dunno if he fancies me.i have told him i fanci him and he knows i do i just dunno if he like me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2006): well i've got the same problem i fancy this lad and people say he fancies me.he knows i fancy him.Ma m8s say that he fancies me and his best m8s fancies me.his best m8s always stares at me in class.all i do is flirt try and talk to him as much as possible and talk to his sister on messenger all the time and me and his sister always talk on messenger.
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reader, Lil Lyds +, writes (9 April 2006):
Ask him whether he likes this girl if your too chicken get one of your mates to do it for you. Guys go gooey for compliements so give him a few not too many or he will think your a suck up! Flirt with him and dont use cheesy chat up lines
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2006): Well, go out with his mate an c ow it goes, dump im if ur not appy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2006): I think you should follow your heart! :D If you like this lad and he likes you then go for it! If you don't like his mate then nothing can happen!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2006): hi yep i defiunutly think your in there! just keep flirting with him giving him eye contact and just wait and see..... this kind of happened to me once but please dont be over keen meaning: he knows ou like him or it will be easy for him! thanxz hope ive helped a little p.s. hope it all goes well for u :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2006): look, if he likes you then he wouldn't be going out with this girl and he would be going out with you.
if he is interested look out for body language and everything else that would lean towards you and him together.
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reader, pops +, writes (29 July 2005):
At your age, boys are emotionally a lot younger than girls. Don't expect him to have the kind of radar you have now, until he is several years older. Why not ask him out on a date? The worst thing that can happen is that he says, "No." But if he says, " Yes", you can begin to get to know if he is really everything you think he is. Its sounds to me like he is worth taking the risk of being rejected. My second wife was 15 years younger than me, and I would never have thought she would be interested. However, she asked me out, and I said, " Yes", and we went to a dreadful sporting event, but spent the first half getting to know what other activities we enjoy. I found out she was a skilled pool player, and I hadn't played much since finishing school more than 15 years before. So, we skipped the second half, and found a pool hall, where she learned what rust can grow on a grown man's skills when he doesn't keep up with his practice. But, she was a little rusty, too, and I won more games than I should have. We continued to date after that, and finally married. It can happen to you. Just give you both time to grow up.
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reader, jess18maine  +, writes (28 July 2005):
 Okay Hun, Here's what I got to say:
I have always thought that if your not sure if your in love then your not, when your in love you will know for sure, there will be no doubt in you mind.
I think you may love the thought of him, because you have never had him, but I dont think you can be in love with him because to be in love both partys have to be in love with each other and know each other. I thing what you feel for him is lust, that wants to bloom into love.
My advice to you is when hes on the outs with this other girl, you should ask him out, just say hey do you wan to come over to my house and watch a movie, or hey I'm going to the movies Firday night, you should come with me, and give him your number. As for this other guy that likes you and his freinds with the guy you like, whats wrong with giving him a chance, becuse thats all u want from the guy u like is a chance for him to know you right?
also maybe the guy you like does like you but does not want to step on his friends feelings for you.
This is just a saying my girls and I stick to and I think he may be putting it into use when it comes to you.
"Worst comes to worst my girls comes first"
Or in his case
"Worst comes to worst my home boy comes first"
Just sumthing to think about hun, but i suggest asking him out, or hell just talk to him and say I've heard you like me, do you want to go out sumtime? yeah never no. it's worth taking the chance, because it better then sitting at home wishing you were out with him. at least you'll know and can move on if he dont like you. Best-Of-Luck-Babe!
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