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writes: I have a reasonably high sex drive but my wife seems to have lost hers. I am 45, she is 39 and we have been together for 8 years. She admits she has lost it and only goes through the motions to try and keep me happy but it doesn't.
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reader, jess18maine  +, writes (30 July 2005):
 Wow, I think all you can do is wait her out and hope her drive comes back real soon, maybe if she stops having sex completely she'll become to want it more. dont have sex with her till she wants to. U'll just have to have fun on ur own for awhile. If u love her your let her go through this, plus sex is not everything in a realtionship, was it always good 4 her when she did have a higher sex drive? tell her you love her and dont want to have sex with her untill shes readdy to, say u'll wait her out because sex is not everything to you and that you love her. 8 years is alot to throw away over sex. Don't stray from her thou, just because shes not giving you ne dont mean ur allowed to go else where to get it. I find your situation so sad, and it's so sweet of her to go through it for you to try and make you happy. this is just a bump, in your relationship, i would guess you have had bumps b4 within 8 years. if its been over 6 months or so, if its been a really long time since shes wanted to then maybe take her out on a date, maybe the romance is gone, take her on a date buy her flowers and a teddy bear and then take her home and watch a movie with her on the couch and cuddle but tell her you dont want to have sex again till shes readdy and that will make it all the more better when she is readdy. be sweet and romantic, cook her dinner, take the time to write her alittle poem, even if it sucks she'll still love it because its from you! Love is great! and Sex can be too! LOL Good luck Hun, just remember her feelings, and being on your own want be so bad you'll be fine. maybe the problem is that yous gotten bored with the same old bedroom routin? try a new approch, buy some whipped cream and spray her down! just because your ageing dont mean u cant have fun, make the sex be all about her when he does happen! and when she is readdy I just know that its going to be amazing! Have faith keep the love and communication open. buy a bag of chocolate kisss and leave them around the house with notes... eash kiss could have a not card with a reson why u love her... and i know there should be lots of note cards because you can here to get advoce because you love her... Have fun, be creative...
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