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*blitherate
writes:I'm a 16 year old male, who has been masturbating for a year or two now, and one of my guy friends is going out with one of my girl friends. They're happy together for the most part, but sometimes he'll make her sad or they'll fight which I know happens.I think I might have feelings for her cause when I have days off from work I'll stay up in case she needs to talk. I'm scared that I don't want a relationship - all I want is the sex. She had a boyfriend before this guy and she told me they had sex and the whole works. and so I'm worried that's the only reason I think I like her. I'm worried even more cause I'm masturbating. I really don't know where to go from here, so any input would be appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, Oblitherate +, writes (15 July 2008):
Oblitherate is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah that's probably the best course of action, thanks for all your help everybody.
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reader, Dream_Girl  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 go find another girl
there are other fish in the sea
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reader, Oblitherate +, writes (14 July 2008):
Oblitherate is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell that's just it i'm not sure if all i want is the sex or if i have real feelings for her. as it is, i don't think her boyfriend would take it well, he was going out with one of my other girl friends when the girl he's going out with now was going out with her old boyfriend. both couples broke up because they had long time feelings for each other and they are really really in love. and if i tell her how i feel she'd probably just get even more upset because she's so in love with my friend. and she's liked him since grade seven or so and we're in grade 11 now, it took 4 years for them to actually get together. i'd rather not get in the way of that.
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reader, jess18maine +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Deffinatly just tell her how you feel then.. but if it is just sex that you want, your going to turn out to be the bad guy. Also how is her boyfriend and ur friend going to take the news of ur feelings for her. Tell her what ur telling us!
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reader, Dream_Girl +, writes (14 July 2008):
First of all NEVER go out with a friend's ex!If you respect his friendship, if not then pursue her.Masturbating is so common among teenage boys, don't worry!A lot of guys have weird thoughts or desires while doing it that later on they look back at and can't understand why.If you're willing to listen to this girl's problems and thoughts, and truly care about them., then you might have found someone who you want to be in a relationship with.I take it you're already physically attracted to her.You can be in a relationship that's both sexual and a friendship. That's the best kind!But if all you want is sex, wait til your older.It's not really convenient at this age.
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reader, Oblitherate +, writes (14 July 2008):
Oblitherate is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe problem is she's still going out with my friend, and i already listen to her problems and stuff, but also i get annoyed sometimes when i talk to her because how i view things and how she views things are very opposite. for example she has very low self esteem but she has no reason to, she's pretty and has a good personality, the works. but she refuses to see it. and as much as i try to tell her that she doesn't believe it.
thanks for your help so far
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reader, jess18maine +, writes (14 July 2008):
Just wait it out and see how you feel... because she does not need to go from a bad relationship with ur freind to a just secxual based relationship with you. You need to just be her friend and friend only right now.
Consdier dating around with no strings attached.
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