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writes: Some 2 months ago, after much conflict between myself and my girlfriend's teenage son, we thought it was best that I move out of the home so that we could all get some space so that we could work thru our issues. Since then, my girlfriend has said to me that she wanted our relationship to end, which was a surprise. I've heard thru the grapevine that her girlfriend - who's also going thru a breakup at the moment - has been giving my girlfriend some misguided advice about our relationship. I haven't made contact my girlfriend at all for the last 2 weeks and suddenly in the last 2 days she has phoned me on several occasions and we met briefly in person. I need to know what this means, considering that she was so determined 2 weeks ago to completely end the relationship. How should I proceed from here?
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reader, jess18maine  +, writes (30 July 2005):
 Talk to her, tell her your still intrested in her, and that whatever happened with her son and you that you want to fix, it because you should want to fix it, remember your not his dad all you can be is his friend, u have nothing to do with his life, kids can be mean, but if he dont want you there he dont and thats that. your stepping on his turf. talk to him and just tell him you like his mom and u want to be his friend thats it, tell him you know that your not his dad and that u dont want to contol him because thats his moms job. tell him u just like his mom and think if would be nice to get along with him too, remember he just loves his mom and wants to protect her. Now if shes taking the bad advice from her friend then shes the stupid one, if she cant see that she likes you by herslef then o-well 4 her. you dont want her if she lets her friends control her life. tell her you want to make it work with her but you want to take it slower and stay where your living for much longer. consider that boys feelings as well. wouldnt you be angrey if some man came in thinking he was a big shot and moved in your house and took ur mom from you. tell her that ur worryed that shes taking too much advice from her friend without thinking first. there not much you can do her besides talk to her and that boy. talk to her b4 u talk to him. good luck dont step on his toes, he lives there too.
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