Does she need me like I need her?
Q. Hi again :) I am a little sad/concerned right now. My girlfriend of 8 months and I always joke around with each other (hence our many problems of me taking a joke too far) and sometimes we are..playful about leaving the other for someone else. (O...
A. 16 December 2012: If you have a joke type relationship maybe she thinks you won't take what she's saying seriously and if you are, you need to tell her so she's aware not to say such harsh stuff in the future. Definitely talk about this though.... (read in full...)
I think my live in boyfriend of 2.5 years has feelings for his co-worker
Q. I think my boyfriend has feelings for a coworker and it's making me feel really insecure. We've lived together for 2.5 years now and talk about getting married. We have an odd relationship because we have very little in common. This coworker is...
A. 16 December 2012: I think that just because they have a lot of things in common doesn't mean he would prefer to be with her instead of you, that was if you was not around, and you are, and they do say that opposites attract more then when they have too much in ... (read in full...)
When are hugs from another woman mean more than a hug
Q. how to tell when a hug from another woman means more than a hug ...
A. 16 December 2012: People hug in different ways...
Maybe one of the reasons are when they are hugging for a long period of time and it just feels like its romantically connected in a way, or their hugging hands low.... (read in full...)
I think rejection has scarred me. How do I overcome it?
Q. What can I do to stop feeling bad about myself? I feel ugly and fat and low all the time because the guy I loved left me after 2 and a half years together. I have a new guy who says I'm beautiful and gorgeous but that rejection has truly scarred me...
A. 16 December 2012: It WILL take a long time to get over the relationship beforehand, but I'm unsure why you're blaming yourself for this, people change and feelings change and you shouldn't believe that its because your ugly or fat, he wasn't with you for two and a ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend say I'm annoying when I'm just trying to be helpful/positive?
Q. hi everyone, my boyfriend has recently started saying im annoying. ive asked him what i do wrong and all he says is that i am too enthusiastic about stuff. we live apart so dont see each other too often, so when i get to see him or cal...
A. 16 December 2012: Maybe he doesn't believe in himself that he can pick himself up and make things better, if thats the case then just let him be and just carry on motivating him to try make it better.
Also tell him he's been nasty about it and that you're only try... (read in full...)
Do we stay friends after admitting liking one another?
Q. Hi, my best friend and I recently revealed we had feelings for eachother, we haven't known each other long but clicked straight away. He's known I've liked him since we met but he only told me recently that he liked me because I admitted I still...
A. 29 November 2012: Maybe I'd see how it goes with him carry on talking normal, maybe allowing the flirt to continue, it will spiral out on its own you won't even need to do anything probably if he does like you.
Its hard when your close friends though to go out of t... (read in full...)
I'm pretty sure he cheated on me but he wont admit it, what do I do now?
Q. I am married 24 years, and recently found out that my husband cheated on me, but he won't admit it. I have been going through treatments because I have cancer and he started a new job. Because of the chemo I was very sick and not thinking clearly so ...
A. 29 November 2012: I'm so sorry that is absolutely disgusting behaviour of him that he could not even stand by your side when you was/are ill and I find that horrible.
I think the guy is a heartless person and cheating is just unacceptable, texting or talking ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to give her support? Or is she using me? Should I distance myself from her?
Q. Hi there, I m male 42, married. Couple of years back, we came across a divorcee (46, self employed) and now she is good friend of us. We used to visit her home once a week for drinks or just chat, go movie / restaurant together once a month. ...
A. 16 July 2012: I think its important that you understand she's probably lonely, and not got anyone else to talk to, and the fact you two flirt a lot replaces her need for someone to be there, because she thinks she's got you. She might want something to happen in ... (read in full...)
Should I contact a long lost love?
Q. I am thinking about messageing a guy I went out with a long time ago through one of the social networking sites. I think of him often and would love to reconnect with him, the only thing stopping me is the fear that he will reject me or not respond. ...
A. 16 July 2012: As you said you only have once chance, and you obviously feel like now is the time, I'd go for it, because if you don't you'll always wonder what it could of been like, and if he would of wanted to speak to you. If he doesn't, then that's his loss, ... (read in full...)
I want to invite my friend over for a meal but don't really have the room!
Q. Dear Aunts (and Uncles), I'm not sure what to do about this dilemna and really need help! I have decided that I REALLY must invite a close friend of mine over to my place and I want to prepare a nice meal for him. The trouble is, I rent a r...
A. 16 July 2012: If he knows, he should understand you can't particularly do it at your place because its too small and you don't even have a fridge, its literally just a room. If he wouldn't mind you could maybe do it at his place for him, and surprise him or ... (read in full...)
Any ideas for my daughter's 16th birthday party?
Q. So my daughters 16th birthday is coming up in August and I don't know what to do for it I've read things on themes but she's not. Into stuff like that and we live in a small town so people aren't willing to do dances or anything formal...any ...
A. 16 July 2012: Take her on a trip or something, anywhere that she wants to go.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure that I can handle this long distance relationship
Q. Hello there, So I need some advice from you guys. I have a met a really wonderful guy recently. We got together at the beginning of May at Uni, unfortunately around revision period and then on June 7th following the end of term we had to separate...
A. 16 July 2012: Long distance is hard but if you can't imagine yourselves been away from each other or you think its too hard, then I don't think there's any point in prolonging the agony what it'll be like missing each other. It sounds like he knew you was coming ... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend is harrassing me! please help!
Q. Hey, I'm only 15 years old and my 17 year old ex- boyfriend is harrassing me. I ended the relationship just about a month ago for no mega dramatic reason but I just knew his wasnt for me, we had been together about a year and a half and now he's ...
A. 16 July 2012: Carry on ignoring him is the best thing you can do, do not even give him one bit of attention because he will take it the wrong way and expect that you suddenly miss him or something. If anything weird carries on I'd report him, but I think he's ... (read in full...)
I wish they didn't exist!
Q. This is very harsh as I'm a mother to a 3 year old myself but I seriously cannot stand the sight or thought of my boyfriend's children. He has 3 kids to 2 different women they are 6, 4 and 2 and I'm now 3 months gone with his 4th. At one point I ...
A. 16 July 2012: Probably your hormones if you felt differently before you was pregnant, its probably just because he's had them with different women that aren't you, so it makes you feel different about them obviously, and they've got stuff that would connect them ... (read in full...)
We have no communication and he wants to get married!!!
Q. My boyfriend blocks everything out, including me. My kids love him to death but this relationship is going dead fast and i have talked to him about it and he sees he does nothing wrong. i am about to blow up because we have no communication and he ...
A. 16 July 2012: Well he's obviously thinking there's something there that isn't, have a serious talk with him, the fact your kids are very attached to him could make him think this is a real family and he wants to make it more formal, talk about this.... (read in full...)
Trouble with forgiveness...
Q. Does anyone else have a problem with forgiving people and had to watch people they dearly loved pass them by? Did you decide to forgive them when it was too late?...
A. 16 July 2012: Forgive and forget, because you can be a better person then they was to you. ... (read in full...)
I thought my trainer was my friend but he has upped his prices!
Q. Over the past year I have become good friends with my personal trainer. But recently he told me he had to raise his rates and asked me for more money. Of course I was surprised he would do this to me and I am hurt by it. I thought he conside...
A. 15 July 2012: I think he's genuinely had to put his prices up for a reason, not to make you feel like this like he's not been a friend, he must of put your price lower for the friend rates, but he still has to make a profit out of this, business is business, and ... (read in full...)
Can you lose your virginity without sex?
Q. hi,my question is,m not married yet,,but i m in relationship,my boyfriend put his hand finger inside my virgin and rub inside me many time,i also smooch his penis many time,,,but sometimes i feel i lose my virginity,,,,without sex..is in it ...
A. 15 July 2012: Losing your virginity means you've actually HAD sex, penis into vagina kind of sex, and you haven't so technically speaking you've not yet lost your virginity, until you do that.... (read in full...)
Should I clear the air by telling him I love him?
Q. Hi ladies! So i know of this guy through a chat site and we've been talkin for almost 2years now. We've gotten close recently and say i love you to each other all the time over the phone. It used to be pure flirting but recently its more than that. ...
A. 15 July 2012: Have you two met? I probably would suggest meeting him first before jumping into the boat of saying you love him and stuff, you love what he is appearing to be, because your just talking on the phone and over the internet, and it seems fascinating ... (read in full...)
I'm caught in the middle between my parents and don't know what to do
Q. Hi I am 26 years old my parents split up 3 year ago they both live in the same area I feel totally stuck in the middle all the time if I go see my mum my dad goes in a mood with me and vice versa I am completely exhausted I am a single parent I have ...
A. 15 July 2012: You shouldn't be torn apart like that, and their adults they should be able to deal with the fact you want to talk to both of them because they are BOTH your parents, they can't expect you to chose sides, and its selfish of them to even be acting ... (read in full...)
We split up but he suggested a FWB arrangement. Should I do it?
Q. I've met this man right after I ended my marriage of 20 years. It was so nice to feel being wanted and loved again. He is 16 years older than me. Four years on I don't love him any more. He is not a caring person and just enjoy being looked ...
A. 15 July 2012: Whats the point when you don't have feelings for him? Sex is meant to be an emotional thing, you might miss sex but do you really miss sex with him? I don't think you should, if he's not caring he's not worth it. Just turn around and say no, let go ... (read in full...)
I'm having issues with oral sex. Help!
Q. Hi everyone. This is really embaressing. My guy wants me to deep throat him but he's too big! I literally just choke and have to stop and go back to just normal oral. Will the gagging go away with practise or is he doomed to never be satisfied? ...
A. 15 July 2012: Not everyone can actually do that, and if its that big he's kind of asking for you to do something that needs to be tried out and practised it won't just happen.
Do what you feel comfortable with, you can satisfy him with other things, you don'... (read in full...)
I feel like no one really cares about me. What can I do?
Q. Dear Cupid Please will you help me? I feel upset, ashamed and embarrassed. It seems as though no one wants to form any genuine friendships with me. I'm making the effort to get in touch with all the people I know because I'm fedup with fee...
A. 15 July 2012: Maybe your just paranoid thinking people don't care about you, your friend replied and said she's glad your ok, if she didn't care I don't think she'd of bothered texting back, she might of been busy at the time, and everyone might be busy for a ... (read in full...)
Should I get back together with my ex?
Q. I am in love with my ex boyfriend. We only dated for about 2 months but I liked him for the longest time. I'm 15 years old and he's 18 and going into the Marines. That's the only real reason why we broke up. Turns out, he's not leaving for a while ...
A. 15 July 2012: Why would he be using you? The reason you two broke up was because he was going in the marines, and he isn't now for a little bit, but he's still going to go, so if you can put up with being with him for a while but then maybe breaking up again when ... (read in full...)
I love him, but I'm not happy. Should I let this relationship go?
Q. Hi! I am in an interesting relationship. It's not an easy one to be in. My partner and I have been together for 5 and a half years. Through out that time I have struggled with turning into an alcoholic and depression. When we were first ...
A. 15 July 2012: You've obviously both been through a lot together, like when you first was together and stuff, and it seems like you've got through that, but you've changed yourself into a better person and left drinking behind because you obviously felt like it ... (read in full...)
Should I still be her friend?
Q. well me and this girl have been best friends since middle school. Her mom and step dad sheltered her extremly growing up. Her mom was raped when she was 13 and and had her a year later she was raped again and her son. her and her brother are a ...
A. 15 July 2012: I think you should be there for her, she obviously is troubled a lot by her mums past and her past, her mum was raped obviously a bad situation she will feel like that can happen at anytime, and her herself was molestered that must really of scarred ... (read in full...)
How do I not appear to be the stereotypical blonde to my bf's family anymore?
Q. Hey guys, I dont know what to do in this situation my boyfriends little brother (hes 14) thinks im a idiot no matter what i do and i want him to like me but i dont know what to do? I have been with my bf over a year and we have been spending time ...
A. 15 July 2012: His brother is probably acting this way towards you because he's jealous of the time your now spending with his brother because they probably used to hang and do boy stuff like before he was in a relationship with you. Its just jealousy, and at the ... (read in full...)
What's up with this guy's behaviour? Why does he never mention his girlfriend?
Q. Hi everyone. I have a simple question: Why would a guy go out of his way to tell me he spent the night alone on a Friday night. He fell asleep on the couch. Is it possible he has a reason for telling me this? Because he volunteered it to me...
A. 15 July 2012: It seems like he's not really interested in the girl he's dating otherwise he would want to show her off to everyone and make them aware she is his. He's more interested in getting your attention and making it quite clear he has a thing for you, I ... (read in full...)
I need to find a better way to cope with our break
Q. My boyfriend and I recently decided to take a break and I'm not handling it too well. Before I begin, I just want to clarify that the break had nothing to do with a fight or change of feelings... it's something a little different than your typical ...
A. 15 July 2012: The reason of a break is to do things you broke up because of, like whether its family issues or just spending more time with them, make them matter aswell and just hang with them showing them you are still there and not just focused completely on ... (read in full...)
To rebound or not to rebound?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about 3 weeks ago because I cheated on him with my guy friend (over a month ago). I didn’t break up with my boyfriend because of guy friend though- I did it on my own terms and this incident just made me ...
A. 15 July 2012: Its complicated because this guy is a friend of your ex boyfriends who you both cheated against, and he might feel guilty to his friend because he's supposed to be a friend to him and he hasn't been acting that way, and because you broke up with ... (read in full...)
He constantly thinks I am cheating on him, this makes me feel insecure!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We have an amazing relationship except our insecurities. I think he truthfully feels I am cheating on him and I am not. I love him more than I have ever loved anyone and I thought the ...
A. 15 July 2012: He's probably really insecure about you because he lied to you before and its his own guilt shadowing through, if you've proved and proved yourself to him the most you can, and he still doesn't have faith in you, thats HIS problem and you seriously ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of rushing into things but am afraid to do nothing
Q. I have somewhat of a problem. I haven't been in any real relationships and I recently met this new guy, he tells me how much he likes me and how he thinks I'm nice looking, but I mean we've literally only known each other for days. I don't want to ...
A. 15 July 2012: You know when you like someone and want to take it further, and if you don't get that feeling then why waste yours and his time? You will eventually find someone you really do get that spark with, and you'll just know, you won't even have to ... (read in full...)
I still love him but am unsure if I should answer his messages.
Q. My boyfriend brokeup with me two months ago and after a couple of days he send me a message saying he is sorry for how things turned out but i did not reply back. now after one and a half month of no contact. he send me a message on fb. we are not ...
A. 15 July 2012: Think why you broke up and then ask yourself that question again, if you broke up for a reason and wasn't working or something worse then that, then is it really worth putting yourself through the hurt again? Although you still love him and care ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to find the right guy
Q. How can i find the right boy? Boys round here are just players and think they're great! I just want someone who can respect me and give me a good time and just be there for me etc. I've been single for about 3-4 years now and i'm really bored of ...
A. 15 July 2012: Go out and enjoy yourself and love will come to you, is the only answer anyone can really give you, usually love comes looking for you when you least expect it and when you least want it, so be happy for now, they'll come along.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont give me oral sex anymore
Q. my girlfriend and i have nearly broke up over a debate we had . i asked why she will not give me oral sex anymore and she said it was because my penis is wet from precum so its disgusting . in te past she has given me oral sex alot but now its been ...
A. 15 July 2012: Maybe she just doesn't like doing it? Some people don't and she might of done them all them months before to make you happy and try and move on in the relationship, but she's not interested in it anymore.
I wouldn't argue over it though, if you c... (read in full...)
Dating 2 years and he's bored with me. Should I end things?
Q. Dated this man for 2 years. He's bored with me already. He prefers gym over dinner with me. He prefers to chat online with random girls over chatting with me. p/s: we don't live together Should I put up with this?...
A. 15 July 2012: First of all, nobody should be putting up with this.
The gym thing not so bad, because he's caring for his body, but if he ditches you ALL the time for the gym and never takes you out, that is a problem and he's not appreciating you like he shoul... (read in full...)
Freind with benefits coping methods
Q. Hello, a month ago I met a guy via an online dating website. We got along well, went on a few dates and after 6 dates he slept over at my place. The next morning I was rather shocked as I did not want to turn this into a relationship, so...
A. 15 July 2012: Friends with benefits is never made to work without emotions developing and the more you continue this the more your going to feel for him, obviously guys like it because they get sex whenever without actually having to commit to a relationship.
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Why is it that I always like guys who don't like me and ignore those who really like me?
Q. Dear Aunts. I got a problem here with myself. Why is it that i always like guys who dont like me and ignore those who really like me? Then at the end i always get heartbroken and i dont know how to deal with this matter. I know i might be young for ...
A. 12 July 2012: I think you are young, why think of the future now when you can just have fun and whatever will be will be, and your not affecting your future if you just live your life and stop looking for love, it WILL come looking for you eventually.
You'l... (read in full...)
Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex?
Q. Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex? I always have to initiate and then it's to pleasure him as he just lays there, maybe he touches my nipples, but that's it. He does not get ontop of me and have intercourse. ...
A. 12 July 2012: I basically just think he's not interested anymore in the whole you and physically doing stuff with each other. If he had started "religion" that he talks about, when you ask about it he would openly talk about it with you instead of saying that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mention of my recent weight gain has lowered my self esteem. I need some advice!
Q. Recently a close family friend died and ive put on a little weight because of it. My boyfriend mention the other day that i had put on a few and when i asked him if it bothered him he swore it didnt but i think it bothers him even if he wont admit ...
A. 12 July 2012: I think he's being really unreasonable and horrible, obviously you was going to be upset when your close friend passed away, so the thing girls usually do is comfort eat to make themselves feel better, I find it really inconsiderate that he'd even ... (read in full...)
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