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writes:my girlfriend and i have nearly broke up over a debate we had . i asked why she will not give me oral sex anymore and she said it was because my penis is wet from precum so its disgusting . in te past she has given me oral sex alot but now its been months since i have gotten any . i even found a solution , i suggested that she should give me head straight after i have a shower so i will be cleaner than ever . but still no luck . please help :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes i go down on her regularly and she enjoys it . also yes the pre cum is all in her head as its no over powering with a smell or anything . anyways we have started useing flavoured
condoms so i guess thats progress .
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (19 July 2012):
Have you checked out yourself how your precum smells or tastes?
If you don't find anything odd then I'd say it's all in the head of your gf.
You might want to try it under the shower with her.
You do seem to be very lucky with this girl and you are aware of it, so I'd say that you keep on cherishing her, with or without oral sex.
Oh, and I do assume that the oral sex wasn't a one-way street.
You do go down on her regularly right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes she says that pre cum is way worse than cum , maybe thats true.in any case the relationship is going great , we rarely fight , have a totally great time together and the sex is more than perfect . i cant really ask for more than that . i just miss the feeling of oral sex but i guess ill deal with it . yeah i sound like a pussy but i really dont want to lose my girlfriend for any reason , let alone over a bj .
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (16 July 2012):
 If she's decided she hates it, there's not a lot you can do I'm afraid. I had an ex who was once a bit smelly down there. I didn't tell him because I didn't want to be rude (I should have told him, I know) and it really put me off for a while. Not saying you smell, but once we have an idea in our minds, or the memory of something unpleasant, it can take a while to let it go. I'd advise to stop mentioning it to her - it might make her dig her heels in even more - and see if things she gets over her phobia (can't think of a better word) on her own.
I also wonder whether things are generally going well in the relationship?
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (16 July 2012):
 That's weird and a little bit mean of her. Precum is completely normal and not disgusting or harmful at all. You could suggest putting a condom on first. But I am intrigued to know if you are having any other problems in your relationship as this is a weird thing to come out of the blue.
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reader, Glacier +, writes (16 July 2012):
she is okay with cum but not precum??
This is getting really strange...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2012): I know how she feels. Some guys do have precum some don't. I don't like giving oral to those with precum. It disgusts me also. I know it seems unfair to you, but if she hates doing it, she won't do it. Sorry
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay i am greatful for the answers and i do love my girlfriend . its not a terrible thing that she wont give oral . however i do feel as if i really need a bj . im almost beginning to forget how good it feels . is there any possible way around it that could possibly make her like it ? i try my best to comfort her and i clean my penis more than enough and i shower everyday so its in no way smelly . she is okay with cum but not precum .
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 July 2012):
 no she's not selfish...
the issue is that she used to give it to you but now she does not.
so she was more of a "bait and switch" she needed to tell you in the first place that she didn't like giving blow jobs.
my partner told me from day one that he did NOT give oral but he HAD to receive it or the relationship would not work. Since I was willing to give up receiving the oral and I like giving oral it works well for us.
so if you give her oral because you like to, then keep doing it but don't expect her to give you oral just because you give it to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni can handle the fact that she will not give me oral . i told her it doesnt matter anymore i love her and wouldnt sacrifice our relationship over a bj . but is she not the selfish one for not giving me oral when i always give her oral and she loves it ?
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reader, IamJess +, writes (15 July 2012):
 Maybe she just doesn't like doing it? Some people don't and she might of done them all them months before to make you happy and try and move on in the relationship, but she's not interested in it anymore.
I wouldn't argue over it though, if you can't handle her not giving you oral then thats something different, and she should be breaking up with you for being so selfish.
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reader, Glacier +, writes (15 July 2012):
Unless you didn't have precum when she still happily blew you, I'd say there's something else going on.
Is she less interested in sex in general? Is your relationship in decline?
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