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writes:I had previously asked a question regarding the fact that my breasts have started sagging as a result of weight loss and my boyfriend hates them and wants me to have surgery.I want to know if d cup but saggy breasts will be a turn off for all men or is it just my bad luck that I'm with a guy like that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2009): Hi
So, tell him that his penis is too small for your satisfaction... and that you'd like him to fix it!!!
And, what we are all unanimously agreeing on here is...
MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DUMP HIM!!!!!!!!!!!
(and try to convince him that his penis is extremely small, no women will ever find it attractive and that he is lousy in bed. And every time you made love you imagined being with... insert the name of someone you find truly hot...) AND THEN dump him!!!!
Seriously, how long are you going to let him emotionally rape you????
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reader, darknessandmist +, writes (24 September 2009):
darknessandmist is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe said that I should get surgery done.He said at 20 I should not look like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2009): You saying "my BF wants me to have surgery" is kind of vague. It's one thing if he's saying out loud "I wish you'd get surgery to fix that" on his own. This kind of guy sounds like an a______le to be so critical of your body.But it's a different situation if you're the one saying "I hate this sagging, don't you think I would look better with surgery to fix it?" and he uncomfortably admits that he agrees it's not attractive. In this case he is not really the one making this an issue, you are.
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reader, called Steve +, writes (23 September 2009):
 So - from a male perspecive...
We hear what you say about what your boyfriend supposedly wants. But has he actually said he hates them? Has he actually said he wants you to have surgery - if he has dump him...
If not - is it you that feels as though this is what he would like you to do... and do you have a desire to do this for yourself?
I find it incredulous that any guy would actually say these things...
In a way it's a little like a woman seeing the front cover of Nuts and then envying the "apparent" perfect woman form. It's all media hype! Seriously, not many guys would like to end up with a girl like that... I'd rather prefer a woman who doesn't think that mag. girls are the norm and realises that they are purely selling their bodies for money - it's almost legalised prostitution.
So in answer to your question your breasts shouldn't be a turn off to a thoughful caring man - a "bad luck" guy is what you make it... if you want him to continue putting you down, then just keep letting him otherwise you know the answer.
Steve x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): Ok - so lets imagine you have surgery "for your boyfriend" and you don't like the results, the scars, the price tag or the pain you have had to go through just for him. Then what? You realise that you only did it for him and actually he isn't really worth it? You would have been fine if he liked you as you were? If he wants false perfection there are always video games. He needs to live in the real world - but so do you.... dump him.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 September 2009):
I don't think there's anything wrong with you. You sound like a pretty normal girl to me. I think your boyfriend is getting to you, so please ditch him. x
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reader, Honest_Answers +, writes (23 September 2009):
 Sweetheart unfortunately men in the UK see Nuts magazine every day and see images of 'perfect' breasts. Most women have something wrong with their breasts that makes them uncomfortable and I'm certain you wont think that his penis is the most beautiful thing you've ever laid eyes on! What you need to focus on is the fact that he should love your breasts for what they are. When I first met my boyfriend he told me he liked a girl with a pert C cup. Mine are slightly saggy and well over a G cup (really don't look hot when lying down or when not in a bra) so just bear in mind that every woman, regardless of shape or size, has some boob insecurities but if your boyfriend is being a dick about them and mocking you dump him and get someone who loves your boobs and the rest of you! x x x
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reader, darknessandmist +, writes (23 September 2009):
darknessandmist is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI look fine with my bra on. Without it I think there is a 2 inch difference from where they should be. I wear a D cup.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 September 2009):
From a male point of view, I'd say this.
There are a lot of men who judge women on how they look. They're the bad ones. There are others who judge her on who she is. They're the good ones. This guy is a bad one. No good boyfriend would hurt you like he is. Find a good guy instead who likes you for who you are.
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reader, Demonic Angel  +, writes (23 September 2009):
Sorry to say but it looks like you just have bad luck hon. Not all men mind saggy breasts...Some even prefer them. But if you're uncomfortable with them there are ways to "firm" them up without surgery.
Honestly, My breasts have started sagging as well due to weight loss and having a child but my husband doesn't mind. He loves me for me & I can guarantee there are other guys that like them too. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): Hi
How much do your breasts sag? Is the sag very obvious, even with underwired bra? I think that that cannot be the case. And if they are 1 inch below there exact location... I think it is perfectly ok. Most guys do not even notice or care about a girl's body issues (unless we are stupid enough to draw their attention towards them!!!). As for your current boyfriend's issues, I think that he is relatively young (less than 24, I am assuming) and he has been going through too many sites that serve up busty, fake women!!! Doesn't he know that fake breasts feel rock-hard?
Don't worry, as long as you are okay with your body, the man you will be sharing yourself with will be too. This one is too immature, and I think that you too have focused too much on the sag!
How about you start noticing how it's fullness, the softness and the invitation written all over the deep cleavage? Why not show off with some low V-necklines, or a wrap-around dress? If you have narrow waistline, go ahead, play the feminine bombshell of the fifties (like MArylin Monroe) and celebrate your body? I suggest you go club-hopping very soon, dress up and flirt with as many men as you can!!! Be provocative and make sure that they notice your cleavage!! Isn't this the best way to find if they are attracted to your body or not?? (But do not carry any of this any farther than simple flirting). ANd, remember, no one is perfect! Even Angelina Jolie has body issues... and there are many men who might find her unattractive... the world is made of all types. Our bodies should be our shrines... and so... Celebrate it while you are young... take long showers, wear feminine dresses, use a soft body lotion, just think you are sexy and you will be!
I got this great tip... when you meet a man you like, you know... start thinking kinky thoughts about him, the feeling will be hinted in your eyes and BAM! Instant attraction!
And, please, there are no faults in your bodies. WE are all imperfect, and we are all beautiful. Imperfectly beautiful!!!
Love& God Bless :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): firm does look better but the reality is we start to sag and we cant all run out and get boob jobs. I cant speak for all men, but i was told by a man that men in general dont mind. They just like breasts...find someone who loves you for what you are, and congrats on the weight loss.
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reader, Mariab +, writes (23 September 2009):
 Many women will at some point end up with sagging breasts. Children, weight, age...etc.. I think that you should learn to love yourself... and also if your bf is put off by them then you can buy sexy lingerie to give you crazy cleavage and push them up. There are ways of getting round these things. Please ask him to be nice about this? You can make an effort to dress yourself in a way that will flatter more what you have .. this way you meet in the middle. I know many women with huge tummies (after kids) and saggy breasts... but they dress up in a way that hides this a little. The secret is good underwear! x
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reader, Blod +, writes (23 September 2009):
 Any guy worth being with will love you for who you are. X
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