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writes:i have been friends with a girl for quite some time and hoping to get serious. I asked her as a joke how come you don't have a boyfriend and she replies i don't know you well enough to answer that. how am i supposed to understand this? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 September 2009):
You asked her the question! Don't ask that one again. She might have taken it that you meant there was something wrong with her, so was trying to deflect the issue. Instead of asking her that question, ask her if she'd like dinner or something. She might say yes, then you'll stand a better chance of understanding her.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (23 September 2009):
 I presume that if she wanted to you to understand it, she would have been clearer.
Apparently, whatever her reasons, she doesn't feel comfortable telling you. Maybe she didn't spend more time on it because she didn't recongize the joke as a "feeler" to asking her to be your girlfriend.
Try being a little less vague yourself and see what happens.
Good luck.
;-)
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reader, Honest_Answers +, writes (23 September 2009):
 She's being mysterious or she has serious issues. I know a lot of women who absolutely hate being asked this question because there is no reply to it other than 'because no body wants me... why are you single?!'. My main piece of advice is not to worry about it and don't ask a woman this question again, it implies there's something wrong with her and will make her feel uncomfortable and elicit these strange responses that you will try and read too far into.
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