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writes:Hii.. Mmm.. The name is Daisy and nearly seventeen.Me and my boyfriend had been going out for 2 years, we've been having intercourse for one year.we broke up due to me getting depression and i needed time alone and he cheated on me - but regrets it (he really shows he regrets it too, like he crys everytime we mention it).but we see eachother on a regular basis, we keep having intercourse when we get chance to be alone i don't mind this and neither does he.i still love him and he makes it very clear he still loves me.but i want to be back with him, although i don't know if i'd be embarressed too after he showed me up by cheating on me.i don't know what to do. please help?
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reader, daisy--reed +, writes (19 January 2010):
daisy--reed is verified as being by the original poster of the question I think maybe I could trust him again, but I'm unsure of whether I should take him back into my life again.. And I wanted to know other peoples opinions, instead of just how I feel and my low amount of experiences.
& in answer to what the most recent comment said, he cheated on me whilst he was with me, not while we were broke up - otherwise I would have classed it as normal, but I was basically giving everything he needed in that relationship, and after I found out about him thats when my depression struck, but I had been going through a rough time anyway - So it wasn't just based on him.. But I think to be unfaithful is wrong in my own opinion, not my parents - As there answer to everything is 'he is only young' but I still see it as wrong.
Thank-you guys.
Daisy, x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): I think that western society gets too hung-up on sexual fidelity. Just imagine what you would have been like back in the cave-man days? What about different cultures in current times - and they don't have to be Muslims. There are many indigenous tribes in the Amazon where multiple wives are the norm. And do a search on the Trobrianders in the Pacific.The Church and controlling Politics have brainwashed most of us since we were born for the last many centuries. If you take control of your own thoughts and emotions, a lot of your issues disappear. Sexual urges are natural and normal. If you separate for whatever reason (eg depression), then you cannot expect your partner's sexual urges to suddenly get put on hold (for example, he might not be comfortable with masturbation, or he might just want some skin-to-skin contact occasionally).How much of your thinking has been dictated to by your parents or your friends?
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reader, gurunikki +, writes (17 January 2010):
to be perfectly honest darling i would take a good long think about this. Do you think you can trust this guy again after he cheated? if you can then maybe its time to let bygones be bygones and try again. however, i would take things very slowly with him and rebuild the trust. i dont agree totally with the above comments that if things go wrong once that they will go wrong again because of the experience i have had. me and my partner broke up after 3 years together and got back together after 6 months. we have now been back together for 4 years and are very happily married. Take it slowly and dont rush into anything. if you need anymore advice feel free to message me. good luck x
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reader, Honest_Answers +, writes (17 January 2010):
 As much as you don't think it does sex blurs the issue. I have done exactly what you're doing twice before. One boyfriend dumped me but I kept having sex with him - he never got back with me, I just found out he was sleeping with someone else too so I found my self respect and ended it. The second time we'd been dating for 18 months and he ended it, knowing the mistake I'd made last time I knew if I wanted to keep sleeping with him I'd have to keep my emotions sorted. We didn't see each other for two months, then started sleeping together again and decided to get back together, 6 months later we broke up.
The moral of this tale? There are two -
1. You're only young - you will make mistakes, you will have your heart broken but you will be stronger and wiser for it.
2. If something goes wrong the first time it is likely to wrong again. Things don't break for no reason.
Think this through and do what you feel is best.
x x x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 January 2010):
He cheated on your when you were most in need. To me, that's enough to say stop seeing him entirely.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (17 January 2010):
 Personally I don't think a leopard changes his spots, from personal experience, but it all comes down to whether you can trust him again?
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