B/f wants a foursome--3 guys and me! I kind of want it too!
Q. I've had the biggest crush on this guy for like a year now. He's super adorable. We flirt all the time. He and I have been "talking" for like two months now. I love when people give me attention and he gives me the most. Last month, we were at his ...
A. 13 October 2011: I think the brother part is a bit weird but if you both want a foursome it is up to you, like with any sexual encounter just make sure it is what you want first, consider the downsides (mentioned by other comments) and do what feels right for you. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is not virgin! How do I forgive her?
Q. i have a relation with a girl since march 2011. after 2 months when she come to know that i love her, she told me that she is not virgin. she cried the whole night and told me that she was force by her ex-boyfriend when she was having a severe ...
A. 13 October 2011: There is nothing to forgive her for, she hasn't doing anything wrong to you. The fact that she was forced by her ex makes her the victim here. Instead of trying to 'forgive' her you should be giving her love and support.
You are wrong in this sit... (read in full...)
Have I lost him?
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for just over two years but suddenly yesterday, after a bad argument I solely threatened to break up with him, and he told me that it was the right thing to do, that we do not work and he doesn't want a headache ...
A. 11 October 2011: I don't think you've lost him. I've had an argument where I've all but broken up with a partner before and we are still happily together.
I think you need to sit down together and talk, you both need to express your feelings and if there are thin... (read in full...)
Played a bit of a game and afraid it's bitten me
Q. What do I do? i really like this guy. please help? ? I've been getting to know this guy for a while now. First we use to speak on the phone everyday for about a week. Then he asked if he's the only guy I was talking to and I said no, am talking ...
A. 11 October 2011: I think you should text him and explain both that you lied and why you did so. From what you have said he may either think you are still playing the field or he does not fancy his chances against these hypothetical other men.
Either way I don't th... (read in full...)
It was nothing serious and he blew it out of proportion
Q. My partner caught me flirting on line. He had warned me several times to stop. I did for a while. He called round unexpectedly while i was in some erotic conversation. He has been a good father figure to my two teenage sons. After getting abusive he ...
A. 11 October 2011: "It was nothing serious and he blew it out of proportion" He didn't and he is not being a cry baby. Not only did you flirt with other men but you went as far to engage them in erotic conversation. He has every reason not to trust you, this is... (read in full...)
Why is my lesbian partner lying to me when she goes to meet a "friend"?
Q. Why is my lesbain partner lying to me when she goes to meet a friend? This friend happens to be an ex of hers, but holy batman, she tells her everything that goes on in her life and when I ask her what she did on her day off, she says "nothing" ...
A. 20 September 2011: Since you cannot trust her anymore I think you need to talk to her. You need to tell her how you are feeling and to get a straight, honest answer from her.
If you find your trust in her is gone for good it would be best to leave her so that you... (read in full...)
I'm gay, my wife says I can look not touch and my b/f won't be with me unless I'm single!
Q. Here it is I have been married for three years, and have a 3yr old son. Im gay but my wife thinks im bi, she tells me i can look at guys but can't touch. To top it all off I have a boyfriend who only wants to be with me if im not married. I feel ...
A. 6 September 2011: You should leave your wife. You are not helping anyone by staying in the relationship and you should be true to yourself. The parents of someone I know divorced. They stayed in the marriage for longer than they wanted for the sake of the chil... (read in full...)
The bible tells me I'll go to hell for liking girls. Should I get help?
Q. The Bible tells me it is wrong to desire women sexually, I feel like I'm going to go to hell for liking girls. What should I do? I have like girls since I was a pre-teen, I'm now 65 yrs old. I have dated men on and off my whole like, even marri...
A. 6 September 2011: I think you should find a woman who makes you happy and have a relationship with her. You shouldn't go to a doctor because this isn't an affliction or an illness, its not a disability or deformity. This is part of who you are. Your faith seems... (read in full...)
If I tell anyone I'm gay...I'm dead....literally!
Q. Hi, I could really use some help advice. I'm 22 and where I live being gay is a no-no, but I fear that I might be gay or at least bi, but I'm not very sure I dunno what to label myself as I'm so confused. Honestly I don't want to be either. Ever...
A. 4 September 2011: "I personally think being gay is wrong...please don't be offended, that's just how I see it." I don't think that is offensive. I do however think that is very, very sad. Until you learn to come to peace with yourself then I don't think there is m... (read in full...)
Six years and he still won't set a date??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years, we have been engaged for 6. We do not live together, in fact we only get to see each other maybe once or twice a week because of his work schedule. I love him so much and he says the same. But we ...
A. 29 August 2011: I agree with your parents, he doesn't seem to be that interested in actually setting a date and it looks like he is just stringing you along so that he can have you around for when it suits him.
I could be wrong but if I don't see how someone ... (read in full...)
He says I was cheating while we were broken up
Q. I have been in a relationship with a guy for 4 years. We fought often but also had alot of fun together. We had broken up once, but we got back cos it was difficult to live without each other. In this time that we had broken up, I had a rebound with ...
A. 29 August 2011: I think you should call it off, you are right and you weren't cheating as the two of you were no longer in a relationship.
I think you should leave him because he doesn't show a willingness to trust you and because of how badly he is cheating... (read in full...)
In a relationship with a partner sending nude photos to others?
Q. I am wondering what someone say about this situation. If you are in a relationship with someone, a long term relationship, is it ok for one of those people to send nude pictures of themself to other random people online, in hopes of getting some ...
A. 29 August 2011: No, that isn't cheating in terms of actually having sex with someone but that person is showing themselves to people outside of the relationship so it is cheating in that sense.... (read in full...)
Why does cheating thrill me?
Q. Why does the thought and act of cheating thrill me? I have cheated on my gf twice now both times on purpose. I still love her but I like to cheat I don't want to hurt her....
A. 29 August 2011: You say that you don't want to hurt her but you also say that you like to cheat, I'm afraid you can't have it both ways and if she finds out what you have done it will no doubt hurt her.
You need to stop cheating on her, if you find that you can'... (read in full...)
My family still treats me like I'm a little kid!
Q. I'm sick and tired Of being treated like a little kid when in fact I'm Turning 20 in less than a weeks time! My family has double Standards for everyone in the family whilst my sister was out abroad living in another country doing as she pleased a...
A. 29 August 2011: No you are not, your family is being unreasonable and selfish for expecting you to live that way.
You need to get out of that house, yes your mother has heart conditions but you shouldn't let that keep you afraid to leave. If you were to leave an... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too comfortable in our relationship.
Q. I feel that my boyfriend is less interested in me or gone off me because he barely texts me anymore when we cant see each other and if send him one he takes forever to reply. In the past he used to text back immediately. we see each other quite ...
A. 29 August 2011: My fiancee was with someone like this, by the end he only ever phoned/texted her to meet up or when he wanted something.
This doesn't sound like a good relationship, he isn't making any sort of effort to be there for you or to make the relation... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm losing my mind because of my cheating boyfriend!
Q. I met this guy 8 months ago, things went really fast and I fell so in love with him and unfortunately still am despite the hurt he gave me. After a month of being with him I discovered he lied about a few things and I made it clear that I wan...
A. 29 August 2011: "I keep thinking he could be a nice person and maybe I would miss out on being with someone I feel is very nice" I am truly sorry to have to say this and please do not take this as an insult but that is not going to happen. In fact the opposit... (read in full...)
Am I bi-curious, or something more?
Q. I know there have been other posts like this but... My problem is that recently I have found that to get in the mood for sex with my boyfriend of two years I have started to imagine myself being with another woman. And it really gets me in the m...
A. 29 August 2011: I couldn't say for sure but it sounds like you could be more. Tell me, do you still enjoy penetrative sex (with a penis) with your boyfriend and do you still find yourself attracted to other men? You could be bisexual but it sounds like you ... (read in full...)
My husband said he shouldn't have married me!
Q. while we were arguing, my husband told me this "I should've not married you". Did you think he meant that? He said he just said it coz he was mad at me but I kinda felt like we are about to get divorce. Idk what to do. if I will save this marriage I ...
A. 29 August 2011: People do say a lot of things they don't mean in the heat of an argument so there is a chance he didn't mean it (though it was clearly a hurtful thing to say and I don't condone it). Can you tell us more about your marriage? More information woul... (read in full...)
My ex told me she's pregnant, but now she's ignoring me.
Q. My ex-girlfriend, whom i'm in a good status with, tells me that she's pregnant and it's mine. I believe her. Since that day, every call or text that i've sent out to her has gotten no response. Any theories as to what is going on?...
A. 29 August 2011: Maybe she told you for the sake of fairness so that you know but doesn't want anything to do with you in terms of raising the baby? Or maybe she didn't decide to keep it. There is no easy answer for this situation, just keep trying to reach ... (read in full...)
How can I handle my critical mother?
Q. For the past years, I have lived with the criticisms my mother threw at me, but it seems I can't deal with it anymore. So I really need advice from you today. Today, my mother started to complain about me when I had just woken up! I woke up fr...
A. 29 August 2011: It sounds like your mother has made your home a place that you can't really live in. I think you should stand up to her but that may be difficult while you still have to live with her. Do you have anyone else that you can stay with? If so as... (read in full...)
I'm worried about getting pregnant while taking birth control.
Q. Dear Cupid..i have been on birth control for about 6 to 7 months, but i havent had sex before. The reason why i got on them was because i thought it wouldnt be soon before i wasnt a virgin anymore but looks like i still am. Anwyays, the first i have ...
A. 29 August 2011: The chances of you getting pregnant are low but it can happen and the pill won't prevent you catching an infection. The pills come with leaflets about the chances so have a look through that.
Otherwise I would suggest talking to someone about th... (read in full...)
Squirting--I don't know what it is or how to do it
Q. I'm not sure this is the right place to ask this question but I'm desperate for an answer. My boyfriend keeps asking me if I've ever 'squirted' during an orgasm....he says he really wants me too but I don't know what this means or how to do it, any ...
A. 29 August 2011: I believe squirting refers to how you orgasm, I think it is meant to be a sign that you really enjoyed the sex and that is probably why he wants to you to do but as far as I know it isn't a voluntary thing that you have control over.... (read in full...)
Every time we disagree b/f makes me look like a problem child
Q. I luv ma boyfriend so much and i feel he loves me too but sometimes i wonder if he loves me as much. we hardly ever agree on phone but when we are together we don't quarrel. Each time i try to tell him something he misunderstands me and makes me ...
A. 26 August 2011: Then I don't think he is right for you. He should respect you and it doesn't look like you are going to get that from him.... (read in full...)
Married man wants to keep me as his side dish. How do I walk away?
Q. Hi Cupids. This is my first time here. I could really use your advice. You can be honest and harsh, whatever you feel is necessary. I know what I have done is not right. I am a married mom and I have been having an emotional affair (no physi...
A. 25 August 2011: This man is no good for you. As you said he had plenty of chances to make a move but has failed to do so. The fact that he makes no effort to contact you when you are not around suggests that he doesn't want to risk his family life at home and that ... (read in full...)
Every time we disagree b/f makes me look like a problem child
Q. I luv ma boyfriend so much and i feel he loves me too but sometimes i wonder if he loves me as much. we hardly ever agree on phone but when we are together we don't quarrel. Each time i try to tell him something he misunderstands me and makes me ...
A. 25 August 2011: I think you need to speak up. Everyone in a relationship will have arguments when they are in the right and arguments when they are in the wrong but it is wrong of him to make you look like a problem child every time because it suggests he doesn't ... (read in full...)
How much information could he have gotten about me?
Q. Hey, sorry this question is'nt really a relotionship question but i'm really worrying. i added this random guy on msn and we were talking for a while. Then all of a sudden when i was trying to help him out with his comp...
A. 25 August 2011: I don't know much about this area myself but will include a link below that should give you more information. http://library.thinkquest.org/J0110629/hackattack.html I think in the immediate future you should tell your parents what has happe... (read in full...)
Should I stop seeing him? Found escort agency on his computer
Q. I came accross an escort agency on my new boyfriends computer history, one year later its there again, he has had txt messages advertisine 'indays' from women and the occassional sexy picture on his mobile. His excuse is that it was his son using ...
A. 25 August 2011: This is only working with the information that you have given us but he sounds like a slime ball. The man you describe seems much more interested in other women than he should be. Its possible his affair isn't something he would repeat but the ... (read in full...)
I had a great one stand and I want it again. How do I ask him?
Q. Hi, should I contact this guy or not? We hooked up a few weeks ago(a one-night, no-strings-attached thing), and it was the best sexual experience of my life, and I dont want it to be the only time it happens, but how do i go about suggesting we do ...
A. 25 August 2011: If he says no then there is really nothing to be done but move on and find someone else. But that is a bridge only to be crossed if you have to. I think you should contact him, the best way to do it without sounding stupid is to follow these gui... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I want children now?
Q. Hi, I am 20 years old and have been with my boyfriend for two years. For awhile now me and him have been talking about getting married and living a happy life, but now I want kids. We have discussed having kids but we never really decided when. Bo...
A. 25 August 2011: I think you shouldn't be too abrupt as this may make him anxious, this isn't to suggest he doesn't want kids but when women start serious conversations out of thin air it tends to get us on edge (just speaking from personal experience), Your best... (read in full...)
Dirty text messages - sexy or stupid?
Q. Guys: are dirty text messages sexy and flirty or skanky and stupid? My boyfriend is coming over Tuesday night and we usually only see each other once per week. Thus, that is our night to be intimate. I want to send him a flirty, verging on dirty...
A. 22 August 2011: When it comes to sexy texts it really varies from person to person, think about what sort of dirty talk you say to him in person.
As a general rule try making it suggestive without outright saying it, for example here is a slight variatio... (read in full...)
Married bi woman seeking advice on how to keep the trust in her marriage
Q. Hey ladies have a problem about my sexuality. You see im bisexual and never came out to 'ANYONE' in my whole life (there was no point as my family and friends are all old school as well as very homaphobic so i wouldnt have done myself any good....
A. 22 August 2011: Glad I was able to help, would be interested to hear how it turned out and if your husband worked through is trust issues. ... (read in full...)
Close friend got drunk and we made out and now she's cool to me
Q. I have a really close friend who I have known for a really long time. Last night she got quite drunk and we ended up kissing and pleasuring each other to orgasm. It is common knowledge that I am bisexual however she thought she was straight. We have ...
A. 17 August 2011: You need to give her some space, by all means let her know that if she needs to talk you will be there but let her come to you if that is what she decides, if you need to try to reach her one last time, possibly with a frank letter but after that ... (read in full...)
Guys: Are you more or less attracted to a girl when you've seen her without makeup?
Q. guys, are you more attracted to a girl after seeing her without makeup? perhaps less? I'm just curious to know what guys think on this topic. ...
A. 17 August 2011: My fiancee almost never wears makeup and it doesn't make her any less beautiful or attractive. ... (read in full...)
Should I be angry at a drunken kiss?
Q. Hi guys, basically I have been seeing my now ex boyfriend for 8 months, he is the most caring loving honest person ever. I have trust issues due to my past and I accused my boyfriend almost everyday of cheating on me, fancying my friends and even ...
A. 17 August 2011: If you think the relationship is worth going forward with (and it seems that it is) then you should try to get past it.
What you have said about the incident gives every indication that it was a one time thing and not bevhaviour likely to conti... (read in full...)
Married bi woman seeking advice on how to keep the trust in her marriage
Q. Hey ladies have a problem about my sexuality. You see im bisexual and never came out to 'ANYONE' in my whole life (there was no point as my family and friends are all old school as well as very homaphobic so i wouldnt have done myself any good....
A. 17 August 2011: I don't think it was a mistake for you to come out to your husband, as your husband you should be able to tell him this without fear of it back firing.
I think you need to talk to your husband about this, I also think that you need to talk to ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to expect that my husband spend time with me on the few Sunday's that I'm free?
Q. Hi, Im. 25 yrs old and married for 2 yrs and been together for 8 yrs . Im a doctor and have a a very hectic life . My husband has always been the guy who likes his alone time , and " space " . I get about a sunday or two free in a month rest of ...
A. 27 January 2011: Talk to your husband, you are not being a nag by expecting him to spend the few chances that you have to be together with you.... (read in full...)
Was it a good idea to let him go as a friend?
Q. My best mate treats me like crap..ive tried so hard for my mate and my boyfriend to be friends so i can have both the people i love around me and i want to spend time with him and my boyfriend at the same time ..but hes just being so stubborn..he ...
A. 27 January 2011: I'm ashamed to admit it but I've been in this situation before, and I played the part of the jealous best mate (I even tried to kiss her once), she was never going to be friends with me again but thanks to her boyfriend we had a talked where I gave ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy cries for a girl?
Q. What does it mean when a guy cries for a girl? This guy is those kind of people who never give up or fight for whatever he deserve until the last moment. He gives everyone an image that he is willing sacrifice almost anything for things that he w...
A. 27 January 2011: Neither. Everyone has something which they cry over, it doesn't mean that they get hurt too easily it is just that particular trigger is what is best at getting that response.
Now when you say he cried over a girl can you be more specific... (read in full...)
How is it possible after so many years to be still in love? Especially when we are both happily married to other people!
Q. Hi everybody my story follows: Met my first love 18 years ago. We were both teenagers and we had a very intense relationship for 3.5 years. This relationship was the first sex experience for both of us. To make long story short, she left th...
A. 27 January 2011: How are things at home? You say you are happy but can you elaborate? As for your feelings it might not be "love" but nostalgia, you had something many years ago and it was good back then, and thinking back to that time, especially when you are in ... (read in full...)
Unfaithfulness on both our parts, Do I stay or go?
Q. I have been to my husband for 4 1/2 married for 1 1/2 years, we were good friends for four years before we started dating. I have two children from a previous relationship who know him as there father and don't know anything else. During our four ...
A. 27 January 2011: I think that the only way your marriage could be considered fixable is if you act fast, I know councelling isn't an option many find appealing but it can produce some great results. The key thing you need to do, for better or worse, is commun... (read in full...)
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