Curvy v Skinny?
Q. Do guys like 'curvy' girls or 'skinny' girls ?...
A. 6 October 2007: Hi there, I think this is just a question of preference. Men have different ideas of what is attractive when it comes to womens' figures. What I can safely say is that men do not find it attractive for a woman to be very thin. This is not a h... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gave her ex blow jobs, why am I finding it hard to deal with this?
Q. My girlfriend gave her ex blow jobs, why am I finding it hard to deal with this? Sometimes when i kiss her i think yuck, Thats only happened twice in the 2years we've been together. Just knowing that she gave an ex partner a blow job is disgustin...
A. 31 May 2007: Hi,
When you are insecure in yourself, as you obviously are, it can be hard to accept that someone you find attractive could think the same about you. The thing is though, your girlfriend has chosen to be with you now and you need to learn to... (read in full...)
My bf loses his temper and lashes out at me very easily and out of the blue - is this normal?
Q. I need some advise. My boyfriend loves me very much. We have been together for 8 months and we also have an apartment together. He holds me tight and tells me he loves me. Sounds like a fairy tale right? but there are also times when he gets mad at ...
A. 31 May 2007: Hi, Some people do have problems controlling their temper and can lash out for no reason at some times but, and this is the most important thing, there is no excuse for treating you badly or being rude to you. You say "my boyfriend loves me... (read in full...)
This guy told me if I kept skipping school he wouldn't talk to me anymore! Why does he care??
Q. Am 15 years old and I was talking to a 17 year old guy.Well sometimes I skip school with my friends.I would never tell the guy that i was talking to that I skipped but my friends talk to him and they would tell him everything.Well one day he erased ...
A. 31 May 2007: For whatever reason, this guy clearly cares about you. What I think you want to hear is that he has feelings for you that go beyond feelings he would normally have for a friend and I think that's a definite possibility. He must see potentia... (read in full...)
We had an argument and now my bf won't return my calls! What do I do?
Q. my boyfriend and i quarrelled just this monday and he refuses to return my calls what should i do?...
A. 31 May 2007: Just wait for him to calm down. Sometimes people (especially men I find!) need time to cool down before they can face a situation. I know it's hard when you're worried and you want to resolve things but you can't do that when either one of you is ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I tried drugs while in Amsterdam?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship now for 6 months. we have a healthy relationship. there's just one problem. i'm 23 now and back when i was 19 i went backpacking around the world for 6 months. 2 months were in europe which included...
A. 22 May 2007: Hi,
My boyfriend used to smoke weed quite a bit when I first met him (aged 15). I didn't like it and when we got together I told him that it had to stop.
Recently, he went to Amsterdam and smoked a few joints. I can't say I was thrilled but... (read in full...)
We can't seem to have a baby! When's the best time of month?
Q. i need some help, my husband and i have been trying to have a baby and it dont seem to work, we both have been to the doctors and we both are good to have a baby but i was wondering if any one can tell me when the best time to try is?.....my period ...
A. 22 May 2007: The advice given to most couples trying to conceive is to try for a year before seeking medical help. It is not uncommon for it to take this long to become pregnant. Generally, you are most likely to succeed in becoming pregnant around the time tha... (read in full...)
Does my friend "with benefits" suddenly have feelings for me? Can anything serious grow out of this?
Q. I was, for approximatley 4 months, sleeping with a guy I lived with last year, we both went to college together. It all happened when I realised I liked him, and I knew I wanted something to happen, and it did. We kept our 'relationship' a...
A. 20 May 2007: I think the answer to this lies in why your friends think he is a "loser". If he has been stringing you along for sex then he really is just that but if it genuinely was a mutual agreement and he was unaware of how you felt then I wouldn't say that ... (read in full...)
I had done so much to help my bf with his courses at uni and now--we've broken up! I am heartbroken..any advice?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months. We are both in university pursuing an undergrad degree and we live together. Right now he is at home with his family because his dad has recently had major surgery. I don't really know where to ...
A. 20 May 2007: It sounds as though your boyfriend is in a bad place right now. The pressure of university exams is huge (I'm currently taking a break from my own law revision so I know!) and when you have a parent who is also very ill (again, I'm in the same ... (read in full...)
Married 7 years, 1 child but someone else has captured my heart - do I stay for our child?
Q. For the ladies..... You are married for 6 or 7 years. You have one child, 9 years old, which is adopted. Your husband is a good man. Your marriage is best described as living with a roomate or friend because of the lack of intimacy. You meet som...
A. 19 May 2007: Can I just clarify something? Are you the third person here?... (read in full...)
If he and I live together and his daughter visits us...what role will I play in her life? Any advice?
Q. I’m going to sound very evil, but please read on and understand how I’m feeling. My bf of 2 years was divorced and has a 7 years old daughter. The daughter lives with the mom as my bf gets to see her every other weekend. Instead of spending the ...
A. 19 May 2007: First of all, his daughter is not your child and you will never be a parent in the true sense.
Talk to your boyfriend about how you feel, I think you may be surprised by his reaction. I very much doubt that he would expect you to take on the resp... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my mom stop spying on my when I'm with my friend?
Q. Because I spend time with one of my best friends ( who happens to be a guy and he's got a gf) my Mum spies on me when I'm with him to check that nothing happens. She had a go at me because I hugged him ( in a friendly way) I just enjoy spending...
A. 19 May 2007: Hi there,
Well you could start by talking to your mum about how you feel and explaining the situation. If your mum understands and trusts you then she's less likely to spy.
An alternative is to spend time with you friend away from your mum an... (read in full...)
She thinks I'm a weirdo stalker, I would like to set things right with her. How can I?
Q. I've written about this situation before but I would love answers to this question. Theres a girl that I like and the feelings that I have for her are the deepest I've ever had for someone. I sat next but one to her in a class until recently and we ...
A. 15 May 2007: The thing that strikes me most about your problem is all the letters flying backwards and forwards and all the friends that are involved.
A letter can be misinterpreted, it can be read by others who may be critical and it does not give you a ch... (read in full...)
Are people constantly judging me?
Q. I feel being constantly looked at by other people or being judged by them for any imperfections in my physical appearance or behavior, based on which they try to judge my morality or dignity as a human being. Are these things really related? ...
A. 15 May 2007: I very much doubt that people are judging you in this way. Why would they? I think this is more likely to do with a problem with your own self-esteem. If you feel insecure about your physical appearance this can have a great impact on your ... (read in full...)
Is it going to be awkward to have his ex in the limo?
Q. I am going to my schools formal soon, and I'm really happy but nervous about one thing. My boyfriends ex is going too, actually with some of his friends that don't have dates, and we are all going to be in the same limo. Is that awkward or what? He ...
A. 15 May 2007: Hi,
Ahh the ex problem, I know it well. I have played this two ways in my years, one was rather more successful than the other!
The first time, I was about your age. I threw a tantrum, made ultimatums and found fault with my boyfriends ex wh... (read in full...)
1200 texts to one guy in 3 months, is she cheating on me?
Q. hi ive been married for nearly 18yrs but i have serious problems trusting my wife.she has lied to me in the past about money issues which i still find hard to accept but for the last few months she is always texting to male and female friends from ...
A. 15 May 2007: Hmm, this is a difficult one without knowing your wife's side of the story.
1200 texts works out to an average of around 13 a day if it's been occurring over a 3 month period. To some this may seem a lot, to others this is completely normal b... (read in full...)
How can I tell my friend she doesn't sing well? And will my bf dump me for not wanting to have sex with him?
Q. hi im 15. me and my boyfriend have been together now for 3 months. he has just left schooland he is 16. he has mentioned sex a few times but i have kept sayin i am too young and i want to wait. he just says ok but if i do not have sex with him will ...
A. 15 May 2007: I totally agree with Farris. It would not be wise to tell your friend that she can not sing. I think this would be quite hurtful and is also unnecessary. Try taking her aside (quietly and without everyone else knowing what you are going to do) and ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my girlfriend make me feel as good as my ex did?
Q. I've been dating this girl for 6mnths, but she doesn't make me feel like my other girlfriend did in bed, but i am soo much happier when im with her... would it be an emotional thing or trust i can't figure it out please help...
A. 15 May 2007: I'm not sure that this is an emotional or trust issue at all. You don't say why you don't feel so good in bed with this girl so I'll cover a few options.
Firstly, if this is an issue to do with physical enjoyment then there are a number of thing... (read in full...)
How do I get out of my delusions?
Q. I believe that i am a special needs child that needs to be pampered, looked after by, taken care of and be protected by many. I sometimes feel that my needs are the only important needs in this world. Is it possible to get out of this complex?...
A. 15 May 2007: First things first, well done for admitting this and seeking help. It can be a hard thing to do.
As I'm sure you realise, this is an unhealthy problem which is likely to lead to complexities in all areas of your life. I would advise you to visit... (read in full...)
Will I ever be free of depression?
Q. can anyone tell me if you can eva truley get over depression? i started dating my now husband when i was 14,i had been sexually active b4 i got with him but was cheated on by every one of them. After trying for 5yrs to get pregnant (i have polycyst...
A. 15 May 2007: YES!! I really want to stress that you CAN get over depression. I know this from personal experience. I suffered from very serious clinical depression several years ago but by making changes in my life I have become happy, content and successful at ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me and he makes me do things I don't really want to do. Does he care about me at all?
Q. im confused about my boyfriend. we have been together for 4 years and live together with a small baby. iam 23 and he is 34. he tells me he loves me and cares for me and i think he genuinly believes that he does but he has treated me quite badl...
A. 15 May 2007: I am not a guy, but I would like to give you an outside perspective on this issue. The fact that you are even questioning whether he cares about you is evidence enough that he doesn't. I know it's impossiblt hard to accept but seeing another girl, ... (read in full...)
How do I choose between my two boyfriends?
Q. i love 2 guys as much as the other,i know i cant carry on like this but i don't want to be on my own either,i know it isn't fair on any ov them or myself. they both know about each other and i feel suffocated as they both want 2 be with me, i love ...
A. 15 May 2007: First of all, these guys must be very fond of you to put up with the situation that you have put them in!
Unfortunately, it is you who has caused this to come about and you are going to have to resolve it. Of course, this is not easy but the soon... (read in full...)
Sice we moved in together..we don't show affection and talk as much. Was this the right thing to do?
Q. I am in a same sex relationship and have been with my partner for 4 year. I have recently moved in together. Since we have moved in things seem to have gone wrong. We dont talk as much, dont show each other any affection. I'm not sure if this is the ...
A. 15 May 2007: Things are bound to change when you make a commitment such as moving in together and perhaps you are both finding it hard to deal with that.
The time a couple spends together while they are living apart is more limited and is structured around s... (read in full...)
The reason he doesn't want to sleep with me yet is because he wants to live with me first!
Q. I am ready to have sex with my boyfriend. I have bin with him almost a year now and feel really ready. we have discussed it and was planning to do it at one point then he said that he'd changed his mind. then he bacame all distant and we had a big ...
A. 14 May 2007: First of all, sex is not the only way to show that you care about someone. Perhaps your boyfriend feels pressured knowing how much you want to sleep with him and has become distant and stopped doing these more physical things because he is not ... (read in full...)
I cant wait to see him with another woman, but he thinks it will break us up!!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have finally found someone to join us in a threesome. I just can't wait to see him with another woman! Am I crazy? He thinks it's going to break us up and won't do it if it will. Am I mental for wanting to do this? Help!!!...
A. 14 May 2007: Hi there,
I don't think you're crazy, lots of people have fantasies about seeing their partner with another man/ woman. I would however, urge you to be very cautious. Fantasy and reality are two very different things.
Your boyfriend is probably ... (read in full...)
He wants me out of the house but half of it is mine!
Q. Today my partner has just got back from another weekend away to get away from me. He wants me to move to my mams as things are bad and he doesn't want to be around me. The house is in both our names and i keep refusing to go until he gives me my s...
A. 13 May 2007: Hi I'm a family lawyer in training and can give some basic legal advice...
The law has been clarified by a very important case in the last few weeks. It is now very clear that where a property is registed in the names of joint owners, unless t... (read in full...)
I'm in love and need help!!
Q. hi i am 14 years old and my boyfriend is 16... i really like him. we have been dating for a year now and i feel like i love him!!! he says he really really loves me. i've met his parents and he's met mine. but we are in a long distance relationship. ...
A. 12 May 2007: At 14 I believe it is possible to have strong feelings for someone but I doubt whether you can be in love. You will be better equipped to answer that yourself when you have more life experience, which at 14 you have little of. It's lovely that ... (read in full...)
I am thinking about asking my boyfriend to marry me.
Q. I am thinking about asking my boyfriend to marry me. i know many people will think this is weird. we have only been together for ten months but i do believe i love him and i know he loves me. i am 16 and he is 20. the mythical day for the woman to ...
A. 12 May 2007: I know how exciting it is to meet someone you love and want to spend all your time with. I was 14 when I met my boyfriend and 16 when we started dating. It's been 4 years now and for the last 2 I've thought about how lovely it would be to get ... (read in full...)
I can't help but feel she would compare me to other partners. Does this happen?
Q. Im having trouble when im not with my girlfriend I worry about every little thing, for example the other day we were shopping and a guy she only says hi to on the odd occasion came running up to her from across the shop (it was a big store) just to ...
A. 11 May 2007: I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and love him to bits. I still get upset sometimes when he goes out with a group of friends instead of calling me (we currently spend half the year 200 miles apart) or when he mentions that he's gone to help a ... (read in full...)
I'm married to her but she has become moody and she's hard to love. I met someone else and I want more-what should I do?
Q. I've been married 9 months to someone who used to be lovely, but over recent months has become easily annoyed and moody, and very hard to love. just recently I met a girl who I get on really well with and we connected, but altho were good friends we ...
A. 11 May 2007: Hi,
As you say, you are a married man. If you have chosen to marry your wife you clearly had very strong feelings for her and in my opinion, 9 months seems a very short time for these feelings to have disappeared.
Perhaps rather than jump... (read in full...)
Did I loose my virginity the second time I had sex?
Q. The first time I had sex, I didn't bleed, and it sort of hurt, not that much really. I waited a while, (almost a year) and with a new guy I had sex again, only this time i bleed and it was way more painful... why would this happen, it's like I lost ...
A. 11 May 2007: Hi,
I think the first answer you got was a little harsh because you weren't claiming to be "innocent" or that you were actually a virgin. As a further point, I don't believe that anybody should be ridiculed or made to feel guilty for choosing to h... (read in full...)
Why do I have such a problem with him living with this girl?
Q. My boyfriend is at a different university to me and next year he is living in a group of 6 with a girl that I do not like and do not trust. This girl can be deliberately nasty and has offended most people at some point. People seem to just accept t...
A. 4 May 2007: Thanks, I know you're right but in practice it's hard not to get upset about! I've spoken to my boyfriend about it and stressed my feelings. He's been really understanding and has assured me that he'll always be there to talk me round when I'm ... (read in full...)
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