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female
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writes:I am ready to have sex with my boyfriend. I have bin with him almost a year now and feel really ready. we have discussed it and was planning to do it at one point then he said that he'd changed his mind. then he bacame all distant and we had a big fight because he stopped holding my hand, putting his arm around me and stuff like that but was always around for the 'good stuff'(everyyhing apart from sex)hes a great guy he really is but that annoyed me. anyway we got passed that then he says that the reason he doesnt want to is because he wants to live with me 1st which wont happen for another 4 or 5 years. so im thinking..does he even wanna be aound me nymore? i know he loves me but i want to feel wanted but he doesnt want to sleep with me yet and i dont know why? please help im very confused. XxJJxX Reply to this Question
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reader, gf123 +, writes (14 May 2007):
 First of all, sex is not the only way to show that you care about someone. Perhaps your boyfriend feels pressured knowing how much you want to sleep with him and has become distant and stopped doing these more physical things because he is not comfortable with the idea himself.
Secondly, you didn't say how old your boyfriend was, but you are underage. No matter how you feel about each other or want to sleep with him, the law does not think you are ready and your boyfriend may find himself in trouble with the police. This may be something else he is concerned about.
4-5 years does seem like quite a long time to wait when you have been with someone for a year, but I do think it's best if you wait for a while. You may find that your boyfriend changes his mind around when you are 16-17, maybe a little older and feels more comfortable.
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