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writes:I am going to my schools formal soon, and I'm really happy but nervous about one thing. My boyfriends ex is going too, actually with some of his friends that don't have dates, and we are all going to be in the same limo. Is that awkward or what? He broke up with her, they only went out a few months, but she didn't take it well and haunted him. We've been together six months, and this is like the first time they'll see each other because she moved. I don't want to deal with drama, any suggestions?
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reader, gf123  +, writes (15 May 2007):
 Hi,
Ahh the ex problem, I know it well. I have played this two ways in my years, one was rather more successful than the other!
The first time, I was about your age. I threw a tantrum, made ultimatums and found fault with my boyfriends ex wherever I could. This was a disaster! My boyfriend was embarrassed by the way I'd behaved and his ex probably had a good laugh at my expense.
Older and wiser, I faced the same situation fairly recently. I'm with the same boyfriend I was back then but this time the problem was not with his ex but a girl I know would rather like to see us split up. Determined that she wasn't going to ruin my big night I put all my effort into looking good, feeling confident and being a shining example of how a girlfriend should behave. I have never known my boyfriend to be so complimentary. He spent the whole evening making me feel wonderful and we went home very happy.
Learn from my mistakes! Best of luck
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reader, Farris +, writes (15 May 2007):
 Aside from mentioning how you're feeling to your boyfriend, there's not really much you can do. You can't stop her going to the formal with his friends.
The best thing you can do is to try to be as mature as possible about this and be civil to her to keep the peace. If you make a fuss about this now then it's likely that a problem will occur.
Speak to your boyfriend and voice your concerns on this, it's possible that he might be a bit worried too, but overall, I don't think anyone would agree to an arrangement like this if there was to be a big problem with it.
I hope that everything turns out okay for you and you have a lovely drama-free night.
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reader, elsie +, writes (15 May 2007):
 one idea might be to make sure you dont have too much alcohol and keep a clear head so that you can keep on top of things.just be civil and polite and rise above this situation.you are very young and its totally understandable.ask your guy to give you lots of reassurance and hugs on the night too.
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