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writes:The first time I had sex, I didn't bleed, and it sort of hurt, not that much really. I waited a while, (almost a year) and with a new guy I had sex again, only this time i bleed and it was way more painful... why would this happen, it's like I lost my virginity the second time i had sex????
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reader, love-him  +, writes (13 May 2007):
 chick the first time you have a penis up you, means you have had sex, meanin u are not a virgin. there may have been a size difference in the penises, which could have caused this..hope i helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokaay, yeah i knew im not a virgin the second time, obviously! but i was just confused about the whole pain thing, cause it was waaaay worse the second time! and the first time wasnt as bad. Thanks for the help :)
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reader, Straight Up +, writes (11 May 2007):
 the first time you don't have to bleed it depends on how you had sex. i not really sure because you didn't give me enough info but what i will say is you could of bleed the second time because the males penis was big or the postion you were in it depends so don't really be alarmed. one thing you do know is your not a virgin
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reader, gf123 +, writes (11 May 2007):
 Hi,
I think the first answer you got was a little harsh because you weren't claiming to be "innocent" or that you were actually a virgin. As a further point, I don't believe that anybody should be ridiculed or made to feel guilty for choosing to have a sexual relationship if they feel ready and they behave responsibly.
As I understand it you were just confused about why you felt pain the second time and not the first. There are any number of reasons for this including the size of your partners' penises and the nature of the intercourse you had.
It really isn't anything to worry about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): No you would have lost you virginity the 1st time. It is a myth that if your hymen is no longer intact you are not a virgin. Your hymen can break at any time/age, before sex! The fact that you had full on sexual intercourse this first time then you definately weren't a virgin for the second time!!!!
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (11 May 2007):
Nope. You lost your virginity the first time you had sex. You probably lost your hymen the second time however.
Hymen does not equal virginity. I don't even think girls who've given oral sex but never had sexual intercourse, or who have had sex only with women... I don't think either are still virgins.
Virginity implies innocence. Any kind of sex, oral or otherwise, full penetration, or partial, anal, vaginal, etc., or even the fact that you have an intact hymen after having sex (perhaps he was unable to muster enough strength or sufficient size or length to break it), does indeed a non-virgin make.
That's why I laugh at women who claim a second virginity after having all the fun in the world, with multiple partners, etc. It isn't virginity if they've done it. And sorry sis, but you went and done it.
(Harsh, but I'm tired of these so-called technical virgins claiming a state of innocence they don't have.)
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