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writes:I've been dating this girl for 6mnths, but she doesn't make me feel like my other girlfriend did in bed, but i am soo much happier when im with her... would it be an emotional thing or trust i can't figure it out please help
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reader, gf123  +, writes (15 May 2007):
 I'm not sure that this is an emotional or trust issue at all. You don't say why you don't feel so good in bed with this girl so I'll cover a few options.
Firstly, if this is an issue to do with physical enjoyment then there are a number of things you can do. Try out new things with your girlfriend and don't be afraid to tell her what you like and don't like. As well as improving how you feel physically this can increase trust and make the experience far more intimate.
Secondly, there might be a problem with your own self-esteem. Perhaps your new girlfriend doesn't compliment you quite as much as the old one? In this case, try complimenting her or even asking what she does and doesn't like. This will help you to understand what you can do to make her show some appreciation!
Lastly, this might revolve around the fact that you are not yet ready to be involved in an intimate physical relationship with this girl. If you are used to the contact of your ex-girlfriend and had developed a certain level of intimacy, it is likely to feel different with a new girlfriend. In this case, you need to give it some time. 6 months is not necessarily a period in which you could have developed the trust and confidence you need to be happy in a sexual relationship with someone.
Get back to me if I haven't covered how you're feeling
Best of luck
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