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writes:I am thinking about asking my boyfriend to marry me. i know many people will think this is weird. we have only been together for ten months but i do believe i love him and i know he loves me. i am 16 and he is 20. the mythical day for the woman to propose is 29th feb on a leap year. it just so happens, the next leap year is 2008 and if i were to ask him to marry me we will have been together just over a year and a half. i have always wanted to be engaged young and i believe it is luck that the next leap year is so soon. i will be 17 when i ask him. we would of course delay the wedding a bit. what do you think?
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 June 2007):
love-him is verified as being by the original poster of the question Oh and if any1 reads this agen lol ive decided against the idea.. extremily not ready for it, the arguments we encounter are terrible and im not ready for that.. thankyoo x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): No guy replies so far...!
To be honest, my worst nightmare is having a girl ask me to marry them, seriously. To me it is not the proper way for things to happen, and I would feel utterly awful saying no, and that is what my answer would probably be. You're only 16. You're at that completely weird age where you feel like you're an adult but you don't have any adult experience to back that up. Wait it out, if your boyfriend thinks you are wife material you would know about it in what he says and does. Enjoy what you have and enjoy your teenage years.
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reader, love-him +, writes (13 May 2007):
love-him is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for givin me the advise, its realy helped me x x x
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reader, gf123 +, writes (12 May 2007):
 I know how exciting it is to meet someone you love and want to spend all your time with. I was 14 when I met my boyfriend and 16 when we started dating. It's been 4 years now and for the last 2 I've thought about how lovely it would be to get engaged. I don't think you're weird at all therefore, I just think you're excited!
I'm not going to tell you whether you should or shouldn't propose but I can give you my opinion and some wisdom based on my own experience. First of all, ten months is a short time to have been together to now be making a decision about marriage. Relationships can fade after the
"honeymoon period" which can last several years in some cases. On the other hand, they can get stronger and even more exciting, in which case would it not be nice to wait until the moment that you're both beyond any doubt that you want to spend the rest of your life together?
Secondly, although I don't know your boyfriend, I know that mine would have been intimidated if I'd proposed so soon! He's enjoyed spending time in my company and takes that as a big enough commitment for the time being.
Finally, I don't know about you, but I've always dreamt of a romantic and extravagant proposal and that's difficult to achieve when you're so young and have little money.
My advice would be to enjoy what you've found for as long as you can before you make a big commitment like that. It also gives you something to look forward to. Wouldn't it be lovely to go and buy wedding magazines and start planning as soon as you got engaged? That's the way I'd want it, and for that you'd have to be a little older.
Good luck and enjoy yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2007): Well I'm no expert at this, but I would have to say that if you feel that you truly love him and he to you, go ahead. If you two were to get married now, I would disagree, because being married is MUCH different than being in a relationship, and you still need to go to school.
Also, your idea of asking him next year is a great idea. If he were to break up with you (but that's probably not going to happen after what you had just said), you would know that he's not the guy for you and you would be availible as well! This would also give you time to think about what you're planning to do with your live after you get out of highschool.
Hopes this helps!
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