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writes:Hoping someone might have input on this. I split with my boyfriend about three months ago. I do have to seem him each day because we both work a second job. I felt bad about the breakup at first but am moving on now. Lately he has been a little strange at work. I suspect....only suspect that he could be seeing another girl we work with. Some of my friends mention he has been with her. Fine and good...not my concern anymore. His behaviour is funny. When we are both in the office together he will not go near her and seemed really uneasy when we are doing a shift together. The other day he saw me leave. I forgot something and went back and there he was...talking with her. She is pleasant enough with me in her way but also seems competetive and a little prone to snap at me. I need to do my job...any tips on how to handle this would be appreciated.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (30 January 2009):
Do you have a mutual friend who could talk to him for you? I think he just assumes that if his Ex Girlfriend (you) found out that he was seeing a new girl, you might make it difficult to all work together. Or perhaps he just doesn't want to upset you at work so is keeping his distance to try and spare your feelings. He may not know you have moved on.
What you could do is simply talk to his new girl.
Go over and say Hi and just say that you have heard she is seeing your ex and you just want to let her know you are happy for them both. You don't want him back so she doesn't have to worry about you at all.
If he's acting strangely with her so as to not hurt you then it's no wonder she sees you as a threat. Tell her that she has nothing to fear from you and if she has any hot single male friends then can she pass on your number.
Good Luck!! xx
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