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male
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36-40,
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writes:I have posted on here before about a girl i really like and we have talked every day wether it be text, email, or msn and i am starting to fall for her i think. It's only been about 6 weeks that i've properly known her (she's a friend of a friend) and we have been out a few times. But we went out for a whole day yesterday on what i was hoping was a date. I think the day went really well even though i was so tired because i couldn't sleep through anxiety. we talked and laughed most of the day with very few 'dry talk' moments. Me being me however i am useless when it comes to women as i have never dated or had a proper girlfriend. I am more than happy to take things slowly because i really enjoy the company of this girl but i went for a small kiss on the lips at the end of the night only for her to turn and give me her cheek. I was very embarressed and said my goodbyes, then was kicking myself all the way home but then later in the evening we chatted for a couple of hours online just like normal. She actively told me in the day about previous guys that have fallen for her and have (and still are) been weird and won't leave her alone. I didn't know if this was a hint at friendship, she pointed out that she is far too nice and can't say no to people and always befriends the odd ones out (not that i am!)hence they attach themselves to her, but she did say that she always made a point of inviting them out in groups not by themselves. There were just 2 of us that day. So am i one of these hanger-on-ers, falling for her because she is so nice and sweet? I definately have feelings for her and it's kind of scarring me. I've never felt this way, when she hasn't talked to me for a while i think there is no chance of anything happening and i feel horrible, maybe even depressed and can't even sleep, then when we do talk i feel elated and when i'm in her company i feel happier than i have in a long long time. I'm scarred i'm being over the top but i really can't help my feelings. The kiss attempt was very half-hearted (and possibly stupid but i thought that's what i was meant to do) and i am now wondering if it was even noticed....or if it was just noticed as a goodbye kiss on the cheek. Nonetheless i thought i had ruined things but we chatted last night, i felt rubbish this morning because i still feel like i've ruined things but now she's texted me without me contacting her and i feel happy again. Am i being weird? I know i'm not one of these weirdos that have been practically stalkking her but i'm terrified of her thinking that i am. Sorry for rambling but i'm kind of just spewing out my thoughts. Anyway, i would love to hear from anyone with advice or comments! Thankyou for your time!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (30 January 2009):
Hmm, this is a tough one. It sounds like she's one of these girls who likes being alone and single, but craves the closeness of a relationship.
The fact that she turned away from your kiss speaks volume to me.
Just ask her if she thinks she could ever see you as a boyfriend. You may get rejected but at least you will know.
Good Luck!! xx
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