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writes:Hi everyone i just found this site. Well im 14 and i have not had a proper relationship yet. Everyone seems to be with each other (Ironicly my mates arnt either lol) but i have known this girl since we started school and we have become really good friends. The problem is that i get really nervous around girls and asking them out on a date is somthing that terrifies me! i just cant do it, i get all nervous. Well my dad left when i was 4 so i have never had that talk about how to approach girls and be confident and i have never spoke to my mum about girls. I get confident around this girl and shes cool but i just dont no how to find out and ask her... and talk around her. Isnt there some kind of mind trick to know if they like you or dont lol.ThanksP.s: Is it unusual for a 14 year old kid not to have been in a proper relationship yet? Reply to this Question
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reader, deeboy55 +, writes (15 February 2009):
:D i made an account so thats why i have a name now :P I asked her and she said yes :D thank you so much
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): Darn it lol i was relieng on that jedia mind trick. o well. Thanks for the quick answers its helped alot. well she has held my hand a lot and looked into my eyes some times and i didnt think anything of it. Not trying to sound vain or anything but my best quality would be my sense of humor. I feel a lot more confident when i can make someone laugh and she laughs a lot. Do girls liike it or not? and as for asking out i am just the worst. Last time i asked a girl out it took me a week to build up the courage and i had to do it online. I am really hopeless at it lol
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reader, Keithquine +, writes (29 January 2009):
 Hey.
I've just turned 15 so I kinda know what you're talking about..
There's nothing wrong with having not been in a relationship yet. It really isn't that unusual.. One of my girl friends has only recently started dating for the first time and she is almost 16.
Sounds to me that you really like this girl! :)
Top tip in asking a girl out - catch her on her own because sometimes girls can get intimidated by having their friends around or feel pressured, and vice versa! I personally HATE when a guy asks me out when he is with his mates, it makes me feel like they are only kidding or not serious about having a relationship.. Another thing is when a guy mentions sex around the issue of dating - it makes girls feel cheap and makes her feel that you are only after 'a bit of fun' when you mention it straight away.
Confidence is really an issue you just have to overcome. There is really nothing to worry about because the worst thing that could happen is that she says no, you stay friends and you move on to find another girl. There is nothing to be ashamed of if you get rejected! Honestly, sometimes people are just better s friends but don't let this stop you if you if it feels right! If you two are friends already it makes things slightly easier because you are already quite comfortable around each other. Just sit down together, look her in the eye (but not creepily lol) - this will tell her you are serious about what you're about to say - and then ask her out! Try not to make the situation too heavy though, it might freak her out a little :P.
To tell if girls like you:
1. They will ask to meet up aswell (not just you doing the chasing to spend time together)
2. Compliment you in some way
3. Makes more of an effort in the way they look around you
4. Tell you things she maybe wouldn't tell other people
5. Flirting!
(These are just suggestions)
No - it's not unusual that you haven't been in a proper relationship yet. It just takes time - something you still have plenty of, so just have fun! :D
Laura
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 January 2009):
You are not a jedi I'm afraid, so you'll just have to rely on what the rest of us do.
Read her body language. Does she ever touch you, stare into your eyes etc?
Just try putting your arm round her if she says she's cold and you should pick up either a signal that she likes it or she'll get strange and run away.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): Heya!..xx
Im a 14 year old girl, and i have never been in a proper relationship yet! Sure ive had bf's for like 2 days but not one proper one.
Ermm no there isnt really a trick to know if they like you or not! All you can do is just talk to the girl and see how she responds. If she likes talking to you and gives you that look! Then she probably likes you. Just ask her out! Don't be afraid!
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