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writes: I'm all out of love? please help....I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and half years.we have 2 sons aged 2 and 9 months.so as you can see I fell pregnant soon after we met.my problem is I don't know if were just not right for each other or I'm post natal a bit maybe. when I first started seeing him we got on really well,plenty sexual attraction, etc., although we didn't have that much in common, i.e. likes/ dislikes. well all that has changed since babies.or perhaps just with time.don't get me wrong my boyfriend is a fantastic man and father to our boys.but something's just not right.for months now I cant bear when he kisses me or any physical contact let alone sex.the thought just makes me cringe.I do truly love him deeply though but most things about him just do my head in and I get angry if he does anything slightly wrong,justifying in my head the reasons I should leave him.another point to add is that my parents had a rubbish relationship which consisted of no physicalness either.so maybe I've just picked up on bad traits.so am I post natal, not in love or living in the past.I just don't know and could really use some advice or suggestions please! Reply to this Question
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reader, EllsworthT  +, writes (24 August 2009):
You're a cold fish. But there's nothing wrong with that.You have lived up to your potential and replaced yourself and your boyfriend with two children, and now Nature has no further use for you.Dedicate your life to bringing up two fine and well-adjusted children, and quit trying to live the life of a horny twenty-something. Congratulations, you have reached boring maturity. FOCUS on your children.Your sexual interest in your boyfriend will come and go over time. Fake it while you're not really interested in him and relish it when you are. You should have gotten married, but oh well, here you are.
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