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writes:Hi everyone,I wrote a while back with a question about the pill. Now I really do not know what to do. Basically I'm worrying a lot that the pill won't work and I will get pregnant whilst using it. I just cannot trust it no matter how hard I try. It's so annoying because I know it is very effective, and I take them at the same time everyday religiously. When I have sex with my boyfriend we don't use condoms because he hates them and he clearly trusts the pill. I've only recently started worrying about this so now I don't want to tell him in case he feels guilty and feels he should go back to condoms. I imagine going from no-condom sex to condom sex again would be bad for a guy and I love him so much that I want him to be happy and not have to do that just because I am paranoid. However, I know he would hate for me to be worrying and I also am getting sick of worrying myself. The only way I can think of to stop being paranoid is to use the pill AND condoms- double protection. I love not using condoms too but I just can't stop worrying. It looks like the only option is for one of us to lose out and I don't want that. What should I do? At the moment I am avoiding telling him that I am worried because I don't want to ruin things for him. Help?!
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (24 August 2009):
 Well then the only answer to that is to not have sex.The pill/jab is about 99.9% effective is taken properly.Condoms are 95%These are the two most reliable forms of contraception.
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reader, EllsworthT  +, writes (24 August 2009):
You are insane. Take the pill if you don't want to get pregnant. If you're nutty paranoid that the pill won't work for you, lie to your stud and tell him your doctor took you off the pill and Stud will be happy to wear a condom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): If you are worried about condoms killing the mood, just think, nothing kills the mood for sex like a screaming baby!
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (24 August 2009):
 My bf too hates the condoms so i understand where you are coming from. (I hate them too) I've been taking Depo. I trust it and so does my bf. You might want to look into that. But if you really are that worried you should go back to using condoms. It is better to be safe then sorry. Good Luck.
Info on Depo:
http://www.sexualityandu.ca/adults/contraception-2-3.aspx
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (24 August 2009):
 In the equation you're looking at, on the one side, we have you getting pregnant. That's pretty big. On the other side, we have him having to wear a condom. Yes, there's less sensation, yes, it is a sacrifice. But it is not nearly on the same level as the one you would have to make if you got pregnant.
Risk/benefit ratio is what you're looking at here--if the benefit outweighs the risk, well, go for it. But in this case, it sounds like the risk outweighs the benefit. Pretty clear choice to me, but it is up to you.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
You might want to have a talk with your doctor to explore your other options.
Take care.
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